Facial blushing is the worst pain in life...

wonderlife

New member
Hi all,
I am new new in this site.

Hereby, i would like to express how painfull it is to have facial blushing.

I am 30 yo guy with a very profound backrgound. I am educated, good natured, and even wealthy person in this life. I have my family, wife and 2 kids. But all above 'must-feel-happy' features can not help me fighting with so painfull shyness and facial blusing.

The problem is that i loose my control in social situations. Usually, I cause my shynes mainly myself. The thing is sometimes i do nut blush at all and even can make a very good jokes with people. I feel even they never think that i am a blusher.

But sometimes even in a very mild situations this social phobia just attacks me and i feel inside, 'or please no one talk to me otherwise i go flush to death ...and it happens".

Example 1:

I am waiting in front of reception to enter to the boss's cabinet. There are 3 of us - me, a secretary and the other colleage. We are just talking in low voice in front of reception with mild smiles and kiddings.

Suddenly, my heart starts beating and i start nervous out of blue, not from colleages yet. Then my colleage just looks at me and keep on just talking and smiling as a natural. But, somehow, I feel hot in my face. Loose consious and control, somehow try not to show it, but...:(.

Then the guy just remarks to secretary that my face is red. My mouse is shut. I want to run away or just disappear. .. My redface... well i think tomato is more bright than my face. :oops:

The thing if i am alone i could say why i blush? there is no reason. Or say I could laugh back? However, how come.. if you loose your control....

Example 2:

I need to have a deal with another girl in the office. But whenever, i see that girl even if i had not blushed all the day, talking to many people, I blush to death contacting to her. I feel she is inside me and reads my mind. However, i have no any bad intention toward her..

Overall...
I blush almost all the time if one flatters me..
I mostly blush among the acquaitant people rather than new people.
I loose contol and blush to ask a favor from my boss if he/she is strict.
Finally, i blush whenever i pre-feel that i would blush..boosting it worse...

Sometimes, i even cry inside :cry: and feel so blue why such a nice person, so talanted, good human natured 'man' has to be so down. If only there would not be such 'illness' he could reach a very high positions in real life and help a lot to people.

Sorry, if i made you bored by my sad story, but i thought it would help some people who have the similar experience..Because during 30 years of my life i have not met any people who could have the problem to my level...
 

Lexmark

Well-known member
Hmm your lucky if it effects you in just a few situations
its effects every aspect of all my life even though most of the time i am smarter and better looking hehe :D
 

wonderlife

New member
Lexmark,
Thank you for your back post.

Can you brief in what like situations you may have this sort of attack?
Anyaway, have a good time!!!
 

Lexmark

Well-known member
Think i get it worse than you but i understand what you are saying
Even when i saw you reply to my post i think i had a minor blushing
I thought about it and 2day i 3 blushing situations
I dont want to go into it but do you know why you get it ? coz i have no idea
 

fpu89

New member
It's incredible how blushing, changing of color on the face, can be so debilitating. Knowing that certain people go through life, with great success, despite severe physical handicaps, makes my blushing problem seems so small. I will never allow it to take total control of me though it changes my behavior in many situations. Other people have been against much greater odds than myself and they're ok. I try to think about that as much as i can.
 

Drew

Well-known member
Facial blushing is something that I've been trying to overcome my entire life. Without exaggeration, I would say that my blushing problem is responsible for the meager existence I now find myself in. It's one thing to be the shyest person in a room, but my blushing problem, more or less, broadcasts my condition to the entire world.

I can say with confidence, that I have missed out on many opportunities in life because I was so afraid of people seeing my insane blushing problem. Other than my face turning red, I was usually okay to handle many social situations, career responsibilities, and romantic encounters.

To me, blushing and is one of the most embarrassing things that can happen around other people - and it's something that I try to avoid at all costs. The problem is (and any social anxiety sufferer will likely agree), the harder I try to stop myself from blushing, the worse it gets.

Have you ever had your face turn crimson red while you are trying to carry on in a social situation. I mean, I know my face is red, and everyone that is looking at me knows it is red also - yet no one says anything or gives any indication that there is anything out of the ordinary.Of course,what could they really say? I'm sure that many feel embarrassed for me.

My experience has been that my blushing problem is closely tied into the negative beliefs I have about myself. Until I can change that, I doubt that my blushing problem will get any better.

Drew
 

herringman1

Active member
i can relate to what u are saying..i'm 61 years old and blush just as much now as i did as a teenager..i'm on my 3rd marriage and keep very few friends..I haven't seen my mother and brothers and sisters for 25 years..and i'ts all because of this curse..I'm going home in a couple of weeks for a family reunion..most people would be happy but i'm dreading it..can't sleep just talking about it..can't do meetings,grocery shopping.or any lineups..i'm not so bad outside wearing sunglasses.but the rest of the time is hell..can't seem to overcome it but still hope...)
 

wonderlife

New member
..well,

It makes me afraid.
So how would i act when my kids will grow up?
They are young kids now. And they like & admire me. We happy play together in the evenings and weekends. They do not understand what is shyness and blushing. And they like me.

But when they grow up and we go to social gatherings. Everybody happy except the 'one' who is just freakingly distinguidhed. Will not my kids then be disappointed by how their father 'look' ...?????
 

iamalone

Active member
I am almost the same with the poster. I can make people laugh very easy, my mimics are perfect, i am smart, i can talk fast, actually think fast while i am talking so that i can convert small conversion to a very funny and long one. I use a lot body language and i talk louder with different tones etc...

I blush talking to my mother with no reason, no strait question, i just blush. I automatically blush if someone asks me if i have a girl friend, or i am handsome... There is no way escape this.

Since 2-3 years i start blushing in the middle of my funny or ordinary talks. Somehow i trigger my brain "you will blush now" then go...

I saw my self on the mirror, maybe 2-3 seconds after the attack: I actually go beyond the blushing. Imagine someone shut with the gun just next to you that you didn't know about it. Or something suddenly happened you scared so so so much. Someone cut your arm and he is going to kill you... How much would you scary? How your face would look like?

That is my face..... Talking to my mum, my relatives, my colleagues
 

nymphete

New member
..

It feels so comforting to know there are people who are experiencing what I thought was my own private hell. I blush even thinking about blushing. It's so nice to not feel so alone. I always thought I was known as the 'girl who always goes red' at school. Maybe I was, I don't really know, but I am sick of being defined by it. As much as I am told time and time again that there are people worse off than me, eg. burn victims, I can't help but feel as if ugliness just becomes me when I go red. I wish I could be less vain.
 

kerrinj

Member
I know how you all feel I'm 31 and have lost my life, no more sporting events, BBQ's with friends or event meetings at work..

I'm glad I started to search n the web after years of not doing anything about it.. But still I go so red sometimes people are so scared or worried they say are you ok want to sit down.

I'm really losing my life and not sure how to fix it.

I know how you all feel and I wish I had an answer or could get some eral help on fixing the issue.
 

bilbo

New member
Kerrinj;

My 1st post!!
I'm 33 had blushing since I was 13.
Tried a few things over the years.
University proved the 1st major stumbling block, due to all the interaction
and presentations.
I took 'seroxat' for all 3 years and it worked for me. Following University
I carried on with seroxat for a further year or 2 afterwards and then cut down
and eventually stopped.

I then went for an interview with an ets surgeon a couple of years ago.
Decided against it following further research, but the surgeon suggested
'propranolol'
I have since been taking slow release 80mg of
propranolol a day. This has worked for me.

My confidence has been superb, no more blushing queing n the shops,
no more straying away from social situations!

Please see your doctors, you don't have to suffer.
 

julseyboy

Member
i cant help but laugh at some of these stories - but in a way it helps me to realise how stupid and rediculous the problem is and may help me in a way.
 

marcuspassey

New member
Hi everyone

Hi all,
I am new new in this site.

Hereby, i would like to express how painfull it is to have facial blushing.

I am 30 yo guy with a very profound backrgound. I am educated, good natured, and even wealthy person in this life. I have my family, wife and 2 kids. But all above 'must-feel-happy' features can not help me fighting with so painfull shyness and facial blusing.

The problem is that i loose my control in social situations. Usually, I cause my shynes mainly myself. The thing is sometimes i do nut blush at all and even can make a very good jokes with people. I feel even they never think that i am a blusher.

But sometimes even in a very mild situations this social phobia just attacks me and i feel inside, 'or please no one talk to me otherwise i go flush to death ...and it happens".

Example 1:

I am waiting in front of reception to enter to the boss's cabinet. There are 3 of us - me, a secretary and the other colleage. We are just talking in low voice in front of reception with mild smiles and kiddings.

Suddenly, my heart starts beating and i start nervous out of blue, not from colleages yet. Then my colleage just looks at me and keep on just talking and smiling as a natural. But, somehow, I feel hot in my face. Loose consious and control, somehow try not to show it, but...:(.

Then the guy just remarks to secretary that my face is red. My mouse is shut. I want to run away or just disappear. .. My redface... well i think tomato is more bright than my face. :oops:

The thing if i am alone i could say why i blush? there is no reason. Or say I could laugh back? However, how come.. if you loose your control....

Example 2:

I need to have a deal with another girl in the office. But whenever, i see that girl even if i had not blushed all the day, talking to many people, I blush to death contacting to her. I feel she is inside me and reads my mind. However, i have no any bad intention toward her..

Overall...
I blush almost all the time if one flatters me..
I mostly blush among the acquaitant people rather than new people.
I loose contol and blush to ask a favor from my boss if he/she is strict.
Finally, i blush whenever i pre-feel that i would blush..boosting it worse...

Sometimes, i even cry inside :cry: and feel so blue why such a nice person, so talanted, good human natured 'man' has to be so down. If only there would not be such 'illness' he could reach a very high positions in real life and help a lot to people.

Sorry, if i made you bored by my sad story, but i thought it would help some people who have the similar experience..Because during 30 years of my life i have not met any people who could have the problem to my level...

Hi all I can relate to that.

I wont bother giving a life story but I only started blushing around 10 years ago I used to be really confident. I am 35 and am due to apply for the police force but with this condition I cant see me getting in.
I take propranol have had IPL treatment but still get really red.
I am worse when coming in from the cold to a hot room my ears and neck boil up and I also get headaches.Another thing I get is sweaty hands and palpatations and if anyone says to me why are you red,look his going red I get worse.

I really need help before it destroys me.

Marcus
 

mariecherrie

Active member
Well, you arent very old.. I have heard as you go along in life, people who experienced blushing when they were younger, will grow out of it, maybe it is just around the corner for you!! Also, if you are looking for a fix in the mean time, i have heard to take B vitamins and it cures- or at least helps with this. But hey, you sound like you have a very full and happy life, count your blessings!:)
 

madmike

Well-known member
Tsheh! You obviously don't have a facial tic! Mine is so bad it's physically painful sometimes, nevermind the emotional distress it causes. I'm doing so well socially atm, if i could somehow shake off this tic i'd feel 1000 times better!
 
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blushgurl

Guest
omg i can totally relate with wonderlife. Everything that he said i have personally experienced. Everything. The thing that i hate the most is when people notice that i am blushing and they do everything possible not to have eye contact with me. It just lets me know how awkward my fluorescent face is which in turn lets me know that "oh no my face is red again" which then makes my face even redder. And then someone will point out that i am red.
I think that if people acted like my blushing wasn't a big deal then i could probably just blush a little and then not worry about it which would then let my face go back to normal. But when i blush and it makes the other person uncomfortable that's when the whole cycle begins and it sends me spiraling down into an endless black whole of no return also known as facial blushing.
 
i know what you mean its the very same for me, but what you said here "why such a nice person, so talanted, good human natured 'man' has to be so down. If only there would not be such 'illness' he could reach a very high positions in real life and help a lot to people" really got me thinkin i dont want to be like that, i do am just like you and i also have a good talent at what i do i dont wanted to be that 30 year old guy, i'm 7 years younger then you so i'm gonna do what i cam to get on this. And the best of luck to ya too mate
 

Sacrament

Well-known member
I had a bad day today because of blushing. It's Summer, so it's natural for my face to feel warm and red, but I feel paranoid as hell when people look at me and it just gets worse. Vicious cycle. I try to tell myself that I don't care, and sometimes it sort of works and that feeling of 'relief' is amazing, but I can't fool myself most of the time, so it doesn't work.

Had a meeting at work and was terrified at the thought of having the guy call my name or anything of the sort, so my heart would go insane and my face would feel swollen and disgusting.

Gotta love it.
 
thats what you gotta do, just dont care, its you who gets like that so its you who can stop it, look at what my signigture says. That feelin you said was amazing just think how good it makes you feel on top of the world i bet, now strive towards that feelin again and again and again make it a goal when you go red. then turn it around and go into social situations on that high :)
 
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