Fall in love with every guy!!

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Well obviously it's not quite that severe lol, but i've noticed that i become obsessed with any guy who pays me the slightest bit of attention :oops: I don't know if this has anything to do with social phobia, but i just wondered if anyone has the same problem. I'm not a stalker or anything, i just start to think about them a lot, because i can't believe any guy would want to talk to me :cry:
 
scissorhands

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If I respond to this post does that mean you will be obesessed with me?

haha, seriously though that is understandable. I used to be that way with girls, but I have a girlfriend now. Still when I make new female friends I get a little too interested in them. I just accept it and it eventually fades out.
 
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Lol :wink: Yeah, it does usually just fade out but it can be very frustrating. :evil:
 
coriander1992

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I totally know what you mean!
It's not surprising really when you think of how lowly some of us think of ourselves - it's brilliant for somebody to pay you some attention.
 
scissorhands

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Yeah it is frustrating, cause it usually scares the person away. lol I'm assuming it's a side effect of having SA since the majority of us stay away from new people, and since we irrationally fear their disapproval and expect it, when someone shows the slightest interest we over exagerate it in the same way we overexagerate the potential for embarassment, disapproval and the consequences. Our brains basically over exagerate any attention which comes from a social situation.
 
LovelyMissMadi

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I totally get the same exact way! There's this senior in my speech class whose name is Stephen. Infatuation is the word I would use. I've got to the point where he's like my drug. I'll be all like "Oh my God! He's not smiling, why isn't he smiling? I'm not worth spending time on!!!" and then I'll be all sad until he smiles at me again. And as soon as he smiles I'm willing to skip in circles singing "He smiled!! I am NOT invisible!"
He invited me to sit with him a few days ago. I was hesitant and he's all like, "Come on, it'll be fun." So I went. But he sat with a bunch of people I had never met, so for the most I just clung to him. He gave me a cookie.
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Thanks everyone, it can be a pretty embarassing symptom of SA!! It sometimes happens with guys i'm not even attracted to, like male friends who are really nice to me or something, and i'm like what the hell why are you jealous? :oops:
 
Primrose

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hanny said:
Well obviously it's not quite that severe lol, but i've noticed that i become obsessed with any guy who pays me the slightest bit of attention :oops: I don't know if this has anything to do with social phobia, but i just wondered if anyone has the same problem. I'm not a stalker or anything, i just start to think about them a lot, because i can't believe any guy would want to talk to me :cry:
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Not so much these days, but I used to do that a lot for exactly the same reasons as yourself. I think I was just really lonely and desparately hoped something might work out. :(
 
Vancouver

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hanny said:
Well obviously it's not quite that severe lol, but i've noticed that i become obsessed with any guy who pays me the slightest bit of attention :oops: I don't know if this has anything to do with social phobia, but i just wondered if anyone has the same problem. I'm not a stalker or anything, i just start to think about them a lot, because i can't believe any guy would want to talk to me :cry:
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I'm a guy - who's talking to you. Whoaaah.

Lol. I'm just kidding. Sounds normal to me! Don't stress it - you'll find a keeper. Then all your focus will be on him! Then you won't worry anymore. Yay.
 
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lol Vancouver.

I totally know what you mean!
It's not surprising really when you think of how lowly some of us think of ourselves - it's brilliant for somebody to pay you some attention.
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I know, exactly!!
 
RedRibbons

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Yea, I thought I was just skanky for being attracted to a lot of guys. I think whenever anyone pays attention to me.. They might like me more than a friend(when in reality they probably just like me as a friend). And then I feel like I am interested in them as well. Even though I don't really know them. It's really stressful.

I broke up with one of my boyfriends before because I thought his friend was attractive... How silly. I couldn't live with the uncomfortableness, so I ended the relationship. :x
 
kyle

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hanny said:
Well obviously it's not quite that severe lol, but i've noticed that i become obsessed with any guy who pays me the slightest bit of attention :oops: I don't know if this has anything to do with social phobia, but i just wondered if anyone has the same problem. I'm not a stalker or anything, i just start to think about them a lot, because i can't believe any guy would want to talk to me :cry:
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I would definitely talk to you, and treat you like a lady. You are beautiful and smart. I would be lucky to be with you.
 
SocialRetahd

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kyle said:
hanny said:
Well obviously it's not quite that severe lol, but i've noticed that i become obsessed with any guy who pays me the slightest bit of attention :oops: I don't know if this has anything to do with social phobia, but i just wondered if anyone has the same problem. I'm not a stalker or anything, i just start to think about them a lot, because i can't believe any guy would want to talk to me :cry:
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I would definitely talk to you, and treat you like a lady. You are beautiful and smart. I would be lucky to be with you.
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oh stfu. Girls only like you cause you're pretty. If a SP acted like that, he would be shot down.
 
Gonzo

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no offence but this is a fourm let people express them selves thats the entire problem of social phobia, worried about what people say, continue the flirting! it's good for your health :wink: and it's the same for me if a girl even gives me a nice look I will float home thinkin about it all day/week :lol: problem is never not sure what to do next in these situations :roll:
 
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I would definitely talk to you, and treat you like a lady. You are beautiful and smart. I would be lucky to be with you.
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That's nice of you :lol:



oh stfu. Girls only like you cause you're pretty.
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That is so not true.
 
Doomed2Die

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Meh like others I have also felt the same, anyone who showed intrest in me for whatever reason I kinda clinged to, I tried/try not too though. Maybe its just our perception of it, like alot of things. Note I did this with both girls and guys, but im straight so its beyond anything physical.

Yet another curse of the complex web of pain that is social phobia and its relatives. Y-a-y. :roll:
 
rado31

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hanny said:
I would definitely talk to you, and treat you like a lady. You are beautiful and smart. I would be lucky to be with you.
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That's nice of you :D

I can't believe what i m seeing here.. 8O



oh stfu. Girls only like you cause you're pretty.
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He is only a*s kisser. Why are you jealous of him ? It is pretty obvious that girls like to be treated verbally nice
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