Feel like I have no sex drive

dannyboy65

Well-known member
Recently I've noticed I have no desire for sex at all. I'm 21 and don't feel the need for that contact. I have a girlfriend who I love it's just hard for me to do sexual things with her cause I just don't feel up to it. Like she could be showing me her body and I don't really get excited or anything. I find her very attractive, but for some strange reason am not feeling intimate. Hell I used to masturbate often, now I hardly do that either.

Like the topic of sex makes me feel weird. I find I don't even like public intimacy like holding hands or something much anymore. My girlfriend has a high sex drive as she has never had a sexual partner. I was her first kiss, and everything beyond that point. We didn't have sex though, she isn't ready and frankly I need to figure out what's wrong with me.

Like I wish I could be excited like she is and want to do all of that touching, but I just have no desire. I want to tell her, but I don't want to hurt her. I'm scared she will think I'm not attracted to her or that I don't love her. When really I am attracted and do love her.

Like in a way I know its me and not her. I feel like garbage because when she tries to get close I push her away or avoid it. I feel like a complete **** to her. I've been having nightmares and I find I'm happiest when I have my mind distracted. I just wish I knew how to tell her.
 

Phobo

Member
Depression, meds, or both, can kill the sex drive - or maybe it's just the way you are. I guess its a case of figuring that one out. But I've been there too. Its a tricky situation, and saddening, when you feel like you're not meeting your 'obligations' in the scratcher. Just be honest with her though, it's for the best. Good luck.
 
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