Feel uncomfortable when coworkers talk about going out as a group

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sevenroses

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Do you guys sometimes feel uncomfortable when coworkers talk about going out as a group after work? I have a set of new coworkers and they are so outgoing and near the end of the shift they discuss about going out together or having some drinks after work other people kind of agree I was the only one who didn't say anything because I don't really want to go. I hope that every shift isn't like this because I don't want to be pressurized to join them.
 
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missjesss

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go with them my co workers go to nandos every friday for lunch I fkn hate it but it gets better everytime I go my therapist told me never to avoid
 
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The biggest reason why I avoided work for so long was because of social interaction. Particularly lunch times. But meeting up after work is another dread, though it shouldn't be. It helps put you in the loop with your co-workers and can actually minimise stress at work. But I still dread it none-the-less. My last job though, nobody seemed to want to talk to me, lol. And nobody met up with each other, so I never had to deal with this. But I can't put off having to deal with it for long.
 
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sevenroses

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Sometimes I feel like a snob for not wanting to join if they did ask me too. It's not that I'm a snob though or a bad mean person, I'm Just a little uncomfortable. But what can you do. I guess out for lunch is alright but outside of work seems like an extra chore.
 
Ignace

Ignace

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Short answer: yes. Friends are always talking about where to go on Friday/Saturday night. They still sometimes ask me to join .. I tried a few times, those situations were .... fails.
 
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Fighter86

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Maybe you can say you have something on? I have used this trick on a couple of occasions, but thankfully, gatherings to go places are rare in my previous work places.
 
Section_31

Section_31

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I have the same problem. Luckily i can lock my office door and pretend im on the phone, lol.

When im forced to go i can usually get through it by reminding myself that everyones gotta be back at such and such a time, the end is coming, ect ect. I dont socialize with anyone outside of work though >.<
 
Snowdrop

Snowdrop

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I have the same problem, I'm just stupidly scared of social interaction with colleagues. I don't have a parttime job now because I've been putting it off for ages too. No one really wants to talk to me and I don't really blame them since I always get horribly stuck for words and I come across very cool.

Does anyone else think, that maybe if we all here got together in the same room how nice would it be lol, we can get to know each other and wouldn't be so bad coz we're all socially anxious people xD
 
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Section_31

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i think it might be easier since we all would know what the others are feeling....may or may not help everyone else feel at ease??

oksnow now yuove got me wondering, everybody! meet on an island somewhere! experiment time!
 
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missjesss

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well the whole reason anxiety gets worse is from avoidance so I guess you gotta choose what sort of fix you want a long term fix or the short term fix...usually when i go out to lunch im glad I went by the end of it even if it is a little uncomfortable :)
 
Blaze

Blaze

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I am so glad I don't have to deal with the same "group" of co-workers day after day. In retail they like to switch up peoples schedules a lot. I'm one of the few who have a set schedule and I work all across the store, so I'm never put in a situation like that.
 
Looking_in105

Looking_in105

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Fighter86 said:
Maybe you can say you have something on? I have used this trick on a couple of occasions, but thankfully, gatherings to go places are rare in my previous work places.
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i think that only works for the first couple of times. afterwards, they pick up on you making excuses and start probing you more and perhaps asking you to go out more if they are mean spirited.
 
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