Feeling miserable

xiani

Member
Lately I've been contemplating about leaving Uni; whether I'm truly ready to make myself go through 3 years of a course which I'm really unsure about. I've been truly miserable in the past 6 weeks of going to Uni, and haven't even spoken much to anyone in my class, because my social anxiety stops me from doing so. Not only does the anxiety push weight on me, the work is uninteresting for me and I'm failing behind on my grades definitely adds to it too. Another issue is I don't want to feel and be seen as a failure by my friends and family because I got good grades in college, and me leaving will just feels like I've just thrown myself in a pit of despair.

I'm planning on withdrawing next week, and I'm wanting to find myself and learn what I truly want to do, rather than regret wasting 3 years of time and money. The issue is money, and my family relies on me giving them money, which the student loans really help with. What I'm really scared of is taking a year off, working and repeating it again and again until I feel like I can't go back. I know I'm young, (18), but thinking about what my future holds is frightening. I also don't want to quit and realise I'm more miserable at home than I was in Uni.

Sorry for ranting, I just wanted to get this out, and after reading many posts realised that you guys are truly helpful.
 

Megaten

Well-known member
You know, your school might have mental health counseling. It's what I've been using lately and it's been a blessing. And you'd be surprised how many students get to college and end up at their wits end.

UPDATE: Well I just stormed out of my class in a fit of anger since my classmates were laughing at me. So maybe I'm not the person you wanna listen to.
 
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neohorizon

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i almost gave up college on the first year, i was unsure about the course and i didnt have friends too. But when i told my parents, they got really mad and i was "forced" to stay.
On the second year the classes got harder and my grades got low, so i began studying with some classmates that were in trouble too. They are the only friends i made in college. Now I dont regret my degree in Informatics. My suggestion is dont make this choice alone, talk to your parents or someone.

**sorry my english**
 

xiani

Member
You know, your school might have mental health counseling. It's what I've been using lately and it's been a blessing. And you'd be surprised how many students get to college and end up at their wits end.

UPDATE: Well I just stormed out of my class in a fit of anger since my classmates were laughing at me. So maybe I'm not the person you wanna listen to.

There is counselling at the uni, but if my grades are going down too I suppose there's no point. And I'm sorry to hear about that, people can truly be terrible!

i almost gave up college on the first year, i was unsure about the course and i didnt have friends too. But when i told my parents, they got really mad and i was "forced" to stay.
On the second year the classes got harder and my grades got low, so i began studying with some classmates that were in trouble too. They are the only friends i made in college. Now I dont regret my degree in Informatics. My suggestion is dont make this choice alone, talk to your parents or someone.

**sorry my english**

My brother went through a similar path, our mother forced him to go to uni. So, he's advising me to take time off and relax to find out what I wanna do. And, it's hard to make friends with everyone around you knowing what's going on. But thank you for the suggestion! (FYI, your English is wonderful)
 

Gunther

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I dont think you should go unless you want to. Dont let other people force you. Easier said than done though :D
 
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