found a way 2 make girls like me

lonelypothead · 06-01-2009, 06:26 AM

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Smiley face · 06-01-2009, 06:42 AM

I read ya bro. That's a pro for SA; it enables us to spend a lot of time inside our head and therefore observe and pick up things non SA people don't notice.

gsmax5 · 06-01-2009, 06:53 AM

I already never look at girls (seriously, I'm always super scared they will think I'm a creepo). Unfortunately, I'm not so lucky as to have girls checking me out. :(

lonelypothead · 06-01-2009, 07:11 AM

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DaaaBulls · 06-01-2009, 10:08 AM

Hahah Seinfeld is hilarious. Anytime I watch it brings my mood way up, thanks for posting that.

But yeah I can relate, I always do that thing where you see the attractive girl and you just decide to not pay any attention to her at all and you think "Oh man I am really showing her by not looking at her, she probably thinks I am so cool and good looking and she thinks I'm not even interested in her" and then I do that every single time I see her and the term ends and I never see her again. Bravo! Worked like a charm.

no1 · 06-01-2009, 11:11 AM

yea it's true. they get looks all the time. but everyone is an individual. women shouldn't judge a person simply by one act. it takes times of getting to know a person.. rather than forming an opinion on first impression (which can be messed up easily) which can be pretty judgemental.

no1 · 06-01-2009, 04:13 PM

exactly man.

This is EXACTLY why you can't be nice to women. Because she thinks you are trying to hit on her, or lust for her, or "like" her. EVEN when it's genuine niceness.

sabbath9 · 06-01-2009, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by no1

This is EXACTLY why you can't be nice to women. Because she thinks you are trying to hit on her, or lust for her, or "like" her. EVEN when it's genuine niceness.

You should be nice to everyone. You can not base your actions on what you think others think, because it's really none of your business what they are thinking.

ptah · 06-01-2009, 08:03 PM

lonelypothead, funny thing, I developed the same technique of pretending not noticing girls. It was based on observation that girls more valued boys which did not pay attention to those girls. Being not interested seemed to fuel their own interest. I admit that it worked for me. One or two girls went interested in me and we dated then. But now I change my attitude, I don't like those games any more. I prefer mutual interest

. Why should I be interested in a girl who is not interested in me if I express my interest openly?

social_phobia2008 · 06-01-2009, 11:08 PM

Ye, i noticed that too, the more you seem ''not interested'' in a girl, the more she seems interested in you.

Im gonna tell a little story from a curch that has been said to do wonders for couples, lonley guys/girls that though they had a curse or witchcraft has been done to them to prevent mariage. Anyway..I attend to this church for some time now.

There are a lot of youngsters coming here, comparaed to other churches were mainly old people go. So it makes staying here less tiresome and boring, although u have to stay like 4 hours standing upright for the full ceremony (dont know if this is the word, but whatever).

So, as i said, there are many young girls who, judging by their looks, you would think they should have no problem in getting a boys attention, but still, even now i cant understand what is their problem. The priest reads papers with everyone wish and nearly 90 % of them are wanting a boyfrind.

Lol, i would ask evry one of them why they cant get a boyfriend cause most of them are hotties. Anyway, im divagating too much.

So, when i get bored, i use to stare at one, and after a few seconds, she notices and looks me back in the eyes. I switch my view and look elsewhere. Probbably she is thinking something like: this boy is digging me, i should do something. So she starts staring at me. I see that with the corner of my eye and look at her. When our sights meet, she starts smiling.

Thats when the fun begins

I look at her for like 2 secs, then switch views again, not smiling back. By this moments she is really confused, saying in her head like: wtf, i thought she liked me, could i be wrong ? she stared at me for a long enough time.

As we wonder around the curche's hall for the varios rituals that are perfomed there, she tries to get close to me to look in my eyes again and smile, just to let me know that she is interested. And the more i ignore her, the more she tries to grab my attention.

Witch brings me to my conclusion again: the more you seem ''not interested'' in a girl, the more she seems interested in you.

Unfortunately...playing this mind game brings momentary satisfaction that u can get a girls attention, but a long term dissapointment that u cant bring things a little further with her, due to social anxiety... :(