Friend on facebook being very pushy...

Hello,

This might sound non-SA but I feel very flustered and don't know how to handle this. I'm getting blotches from anxiety about it as someone with SA talking in public does.

I met this friend on another website and she wanted to meet new friends with SA because she's got SA too. We added each other on Facebook months ago and are friends. Anyway she told me she's got a business and asked me to join her shop.

She keeps wanting me to buy her things and register on her shop using my credit card via paypal. I understand she's a friend but I don't want to buy anything from her just yet. I feel under pressure and flustered whenever she keeps messaging me. She keeps asking me if I've ordered anything yet. What can I do?
 

Sacrament

Well-known member
Just calmly tell her that although you like her shop, you'll purchase something if/whenever you decide to make a purchase. If she's still pushy after that, tell her she's being pushy and that you feel pressured into doing something you don't want to do just yet.
 
unfriend her and stop talking to her. It sounds like she is using you. I don't like friends like that

That's way too radical, it could hurt her feelings, there certainly is some more "diplomatic" approach to this, honesty in things like this don't hurt.

A jungle savage talking to you about diplomacy, ironic don't you think?
 
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theoutsider

Well-known member
She sounds like a user to me. Maybe she's even trolling websites looking for people with SA and saying she has it too as a means of getting her foot in the door. Once she wins your trust, she applies the pressure to increase her business. If you don't know her well, I'd definitely recommend unfriending her. Someone who barely knows you but pressures you to buy from her is not a friend, she's just a savvy salesperson.
 
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Fen

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don't buy anything, if she still remains your friend for a long time consider buying from her in the future but not now for sure, seems a good way to see of she cares about your friendship or your money :perfect:
 

Remus

Moderator
Staff member
Sounds like a scam to me, targeting the vulnerable. I have to deal with that sort of thing on here. Report her to the admins on the SA facebook group you are in. I'm in a couple of SA FB groups and have seen this go on.
 
Thanks for the feedback.

The Outsider has said exactly what I've been wondering too about this. I will go back to the other forum and report this as she's been asking everyone with SA to add her to Fb. I'm certain others from there added her too.

Remus it's shocking how they target people like us on forums, they must know we're looking for new friends and meet others similar to us. It's quite disgusting.

She's been recently liking everything I've said, even liking my profile picture that I uploaded a while ago. I will unfriend her.
 

theoutsider

Well-known member
Thanks for the feedback.

The Outsider has said exactly what I've been wondering too about this. I will go back to the other forum and report this as she's been asking everyone with SA to add her to Fb. I'm certain others from there added her too.

Remus it's shocking how they target people like us on forums, they must know we're looking for new friends and meet others similar to us. It's quite disgusting.

She's been recently liking everything I've said, even liking my profile picture that I uploaded a while ago. I will unfriend her.

Totally agree with this and feel the same way. It's amazing how, when money is in the picture, some people throw all morals and boundaries out the window. All they see are profits and nothing else.
 

Kiwong

Well-known member
People trying to take financial advantage of other people's suffering. She's not a friend more like a fraudster.
 
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LazyHermitCrab

Well-known member
I had 2 somewhat friends join pyramid schemes and one was more pushy than the other. I never bought from the second one and stopped talking to the first person. The only thing is liking each others photos on facebook once in awhile lol.
 
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