gay marriage

Earthcircle

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I am gay, but fail to connect with other people. All the talk of gay marriage in the news media depresses me, because I feel that it isn't even an issue for me. I hate being reminded of it all the time. I wonder if anyone else feels the same way.
 

Odo

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It seems like the most obvious thing in the world that gay marriages should be recognized by the state, at least... whatever individual churches decide is up to them.

And in terms of what you said-- everyone feels like they're always going to be single and alone when they're single and alone. But if you put a lot of effort into telling yourself that you're not worthy of anyone then chances are you won't find anyone.
 

Earthcircle

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But I get sick of hearing about gay marriage all the time. It's like the media are rubbing my avoidant personality into my face.
 

Samfce

Member
You sound just like my friend, he's gay too. Unfortunately he has depression issues and social insecurities and I have helped him through it somewhat. When he first told me that he was gay I wasn't the nicest person towards him because he was gay, but he continued wanting to be my friend because we are best friends. So we argued constantly over it for weeks, but it taught me about their side of the story and I learned to be open minded and accepted him for who he was. We're even better friends now.
Don't think too much about it, it only makes it worse. My friend would have better advice than me, and he would love to hear about somebody else who felt like he did.
 
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Lavinialuna

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The good news is you will likely be able to marry whoever you want soon. The hard part is finding a partner. I hope you find someone soon.
 

Ree

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The media sucks like that :p half the time they're just trying to stir up something. But in this case, I think it's good for gay marriage to be talked about and in the open, otherwise people are going to be ignorant about it. I like how my dad and mum don't make 'comments' about someone being gay anymore, but just sort of accepts it now. If only things could just be, and not be made into a big deal, aye. It must be annoying how people keep going on and on about something that should be completely normal and accepted
 

Gieky

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But I get sick of hearing about gay marriage all the time. It's like the media are rubbing my avoidant personality into my face.

Well now single gays can be just as miserable as the single straights and the married gays can be just as miserable as the married straights. Equality is grand!
 

NathanielWingatePeaslee

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I am gay, but fail to connect with other people. All the talk of gay marriage in the news media depresses me, because I feel that it isn't even an issue for me. I hate being reminded of it all the time. I wonder if anyone else feels the same way.
Watching the news media is often bad for your mental health to begin with. Maybe you should just cut down on your news intake. Especially if it's TV news.
 
But I get sick of hearing about gay marriage all the time. It's like the media are rubbing my avoidant personality into my face.

But it's important to remember that they're not. They're covering a subject that's very important to a lot of other people, for whom it does apply and has direct effect on their endeavours.

Not be be mean or condescending, because I don't mean it that way, but it's not about you. It may feel like they're mocking you personally, but they're really not.

The media will always have those creeds and subjects that they obsess about and focus on. If hearing about it makes you uncomfortable and you're not able to effectively deal with that discomfort - it's best to avoid the source that it is coming from.
 

Earthcircle

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Well now single gays can be just as miserable as the single straights and the married gays can be just as miserable as the married straights. Equality is grand!

Except that one hears about gay marriage all the time. Whenever I hear a story about it I think "Oh it's the issue that directly concerns me while not really affecting me in any way whatsoever."
 
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