SickJoke
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Have you ever noticed how, sometimes you're phenomenal at keeping a conversation going - you might even be surprised at the simplicity of it? Everything just flows effortlessly. It might not happen that often, but if you think back, it's happened at least once in your life, maybe long ago, as a kid. You were in a talkative state of mind. How do you get into a talkative state?
When you're alone and not doing anything engaging, you are inside your head. What does that mean? When you're inside your head, you don't need to communicate clearly, because you're only thinking to yourself, and your brain registers thoughts faster than you can express them. This means your thoughts are scattered and unfocused. Too much time in this state leads to insanity.
I propose that a large portion of mental disorders develop from spending too much time inside your head. Human beings are evolutionarily designed to live in tribes, constantly surrounded by about 40 people, from birth to death. We spent about 200,000 years living that way, and only about 10,000 years living in civilizations. We are DESIGNED to be in CONSTANT, face-to-face, contact with other human beings.
So how do you go from being inside your head to getting into a talkative state? There are a few things to help you get into state, that you can do before you start talking to someone. These things are to get you out of your head, so the transition will be easier:
-Listen to upbeat music. Music engages the same parts of our brain that language/communication does.
-Sing. This focuses your thoughts on your voice and rhythm.
-Dance. A lot of guys might have a problem with this one, even in the privacy of their own homes but it works. After dancing you'll feel less inhibited.
-Exercise. In a way, it unplugs your brain temporarily as you focus on the exercise. It also releases endorphins.
-Laugh. Watch something funny and laugh really hard. Works in a similar way as exercise.
All of the above will help, but you still have to do one thing: Start talking to someone! Gradually you will shift into a talkative state. If you were way deep inside your head before you started talking, then it's going to be a rough conversation, until you transition into a talkative state. You might even get rejected immediately - the only solution is to recover and start talking to someone else. It's the same way for everyone. The only difference is that, outgoing people have more experience, so their transition is faster.
When you're alone and not doing anything engaging, you are inside your head. What does that mean? When you're inside your head, you don't need to communicate clearly, because you're only thinking to yourself, and your brain registers thoughts faster than you can express them. This means your thoughts are scattered and unfocused. Too much time in this state leads to insanity.
I propose that a large portion of mental disorders develop from spending too much time inside your head. Human beings are evolutionarily designed to live in tribes, constantly surrounded by about 40 people, from birth to death. We spent about 200,000 years living that way, and only about 10,000 years living in civilizations. We are DESIGNED to be in CONSTANT, face-to-face, contact with other human beings.
So how do you go from being inside your head to getting into a talkative state? There are a few things to help you get into state, that you can do before you start talking to someone. These things are to get you out of your head, so the transition will be easier:
-Listen to upbeat music. Music engages the same parts of our brain that language/communication does.
-Sing. This focuses your thoughts on your voice and rhythm.
-Dance. A lot of guys might have a problem with this one, even in the privacy of their own homes but it works. After dancing you'll feel less inhibited.
-Exercise. In a way, it unplugs your brain temporarily as you focus on the exercise. It also releases endorphins.
-Laugh. Watch something funny and laugh really hard. Works in a similar way as exercise.
All of the above will help, but you still have to do one thing: Start talking to someone! Gradually you will shift into a talkative state. If you were way deep inside your head before you started talking, then it's going to be a rough conversation, until you transition into a talkative state. You might even get rejected immediately - the only solution is to recover and start talking to someone else. It's the same way for everyone. The only difference is that, outgoing people have more experience, so their transition is faster.