Getting out of your own head

philly2bits

philly2bits

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I feel like I'm trapped in my own head most of the time. With everything, not just socializing. Most of my concentration is directed at my own thoughts and not the outside world. I daydream all the friggin time. I have conversations with myself. I barely engage in life.It's as though I'm on autopilot. Like I'm running off habit alone.

Has anyone else felt like this? How do you break out? How do I make life about what's going on out there and not what's going on in here?
 
Sial Axetder

Sial Axetder

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You stop caring.

Just get it done.

We all have to venture into troubles to progress forward. Keeping to yourself means you won't get hurt.

Venture out and you'll get hurt.

Make life out there by being out there. Get hurt. Get back up. Do it again.
 
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philly2bits

philly2bits

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Sial Axetder said:
You stop caring.

Just get it done.

We all have to venture into troubles to progress forward. Keeping to yourself means you won't get hurt.

Venture out and you'll get hurt.

Make life out there by being out there. Get hurt. Get back up. Do it again.
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But it's not as easy as "just do it." If it were, it'd be done. These problems I speak of are not things that can be willed away so easy.

But also, you are right. Getting out there is the only way. Will this circle of knowing what needs to be done but unable to do it ever end?
 
Sial Axetder

Sial Axetder

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philly2bits said:
But it's not as easy as "just do it." If it were, it'd be done. These problems I speak of are not things that can be willed away so easy.

But also, you are right. Getting out there is the only way. Will this circle of knowing what needs to be done but unable to do it ever end?
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Yep. It will. Control the thoughts, man. Know what you know then stand up without any further thought and do it.

My AvPD guide told me a long time ago. Don't think so much. I now know I must just do in certain situations. Making a phone call, pick up the phone and dial and don't think about dialing. Just do it. Don't think about what to say. That will come.

Life is hurt. Go get hurt.

When you bug the cat and get scratched, you learn a different way to bug the cat without getting scratched the next time.

Go ice skating and fall hard. Next time you know to lean forward a bit more to keep balance in check.

You speak with a bunch of people and say something not so wise and seen as silly, dumb. Ok. yeah. Go back with the group the next time and try again. Learn what makes them tick. Listen to them. Maybe the group really likes guns. Might be an area you could take up and learn about.

Get out and travel. Find ways to make difficulties happen. Go get hurt. Then you'll have stories to tell your friends.

Example, I lost my hearing for half a day when my ear plug fell out and someone fired a .333 rifle I think. Nothing like hearing static when people talk.
 
fitftw

fitftw

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^ Easier said than done. I live in my head also. I'm never "myself" because I live/act from inside myself.
 
Kiwong

Kiwong

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There are relaxation and mindfullness techniques that can stop your thoughts for a little while. You focus on breathing and relaxing each of your muscles, and concentrate on sounds and senses around you. I did some sessions a while back and they helped. I don't practice them enough.

I do have distractions for me it is running, I focus so much on the running I forget about everything else.
 
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bsammy

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ive lived inside my own head my entire life.ive been through years of therapy and medication and the only things that help me escape my own thoughts are sometimes a very intense run, drugs or something like a very competitive game of some sort.could be baseball or even a board game..but even with these things i still live inside my head all the time.just telling myself 'not to think' simply doesnt work..its like telling someone that is depressed to 'not be depressed'.

i am almost crippled when it comes to really taking life head on and exploring its richness as so much of my energy and time is spent in my head.even with very good social skills when i socialize, most of the time im so far inside my own head, so focued on my own ideas that i find it impossible to actively engage with other people..

no clue how to solve this to any significant degree.
 
MercySparx

MercySparx

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I'm always like that. Being around people helps. The only time I ever completely break out is when I drink. I also avoid smoking pot because that makes it sooo much worse.
 
EscapeArtist

EscapeArtist

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Sial Axetder said:
Yep. It will. Control the thoughts, man. Know what you know then stand up without any further thought and do it.

My AvPD guide told me a long time ago. Don't think so much. I now know I must just do in certain situations. Making a phone call, pick up the phone and dial and don't think about dialing. Just do it. Don't think about what to say. That will come.

Life is hurt. Go get hurt.

When you bug the cat and get scratched, you learn a different way to bug the cat without getting scratched the next time.

Go ice skating and fall hard. Next time you know to lean forward a bit more to keep balance in check.

You speak with a bunch of people and say something not so wise and seen as silly, dumb. Ok. yeah. Go back with the group the next time and try again. Learn what makes them tick. Listen to them. Maybe the group really likes guns. Might be an area you could take up and learn about.

Get out and travel. Find ways to make difficulties happen. Go get hurt. Then you'll have stories to tell your friends.

Example, I lost my hearing for half a day when my ear plug fell out and someone fired a .333 rifle I think. Nothing like hearing static when people talk.
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This is good advice. It really does come down to 'just do it'. If you feel pressured by this, you don't have to start with huge things. Try doing one slightly difficult routine a day to start, like just do some exercise no matter what each day to strengthen that part of you that makes a choice and commits to it, and takes action on it. If you don't just do it, it's procrastination, and that's when one gets really stuck in their head, when they are stuck with all of these premature, uncommitted choices and left to over analyse
 
ilovenoodles

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Sial Axetder said:
Yep. It will. Control the thoughts, man. Know what you know then stand up without any further thought and do it.

My AvPD guide told me a long time ago. Don't think so much. I now know I must just do in certain situations. Making a phone call, pick up the phone and dial and don't think about dialing. Just do it. Don't think about what to say. That will come.

Life is hurt. Go get hurt.

When you bug the cat and get scratched, you learn a different way to bug the cat without getting scratched the next time.

Go ice skating and fall hard. Next time you know to lean forward a bit more to keep balance in check.

You speak with a bunch of people and say something not so wise and seen as silly, dumb. Ok. yeah. Go back with the group the next time and try again. Learn what makes them tick. Listen to them. Maybe the group really likes guns. Might be an area you could take up and learn about.

Get out and travel. Find ways to make difficulties happen. Go get hurt. Then you'll have stories to tell your friends.

Example, I lost my hearing for half a day when my ear plug fell out and someone fired a .333 rifle I think. Nothing like hearing static when people talk.
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You're my hero.
 
KnuffleBunny

KnuffleBunny

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I have always lived inside my head, seems to numb reality for me. I obsess over negatives however, and it makes it hard for me. My ex told me I need to do things to occupy my mind, like do creative or productive things, so that those negative thoughts stop having places to grow. I've tried it and it seems to help but due to how long I've been 'stuck in my head' it's kind of difficult. But it does seem to work a bit.. Just my thoughts.
 
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Silatuyok

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Sial Axetder said:
Yep. It will. Control the thoughts, man. Know what you know then stand up without any further thought and do it.

My AvPD guide told me a long time ago. Don't think so much. I now know I must just do in certain situations. Making a phone call, pick up the phone and dial and don't think about dialing. Just do it. Don't think about what to say. That will come.

Life is hurt. Go get hurt.

When you bug the cat and get scratched, you learn a different way to bug the cat without getting scratched the next time.

Go ice skating and fall hard. Next time you know to lean forward a bit more to keep balance in check.

You speak with a bunch of people and say something not so wise and seen as silly, dumb. Ok. yeah. Go back with the group the next time and try again. Learn what makes them tick. Listen to them. Maybe the group really likes guns. Might be an area you could take up and learn about.

Get out and travel. Find ways to make difficulties happen. Go get hurt. Then you'll have stories to tell your friends.

Example, I lost my hearing for half a day when my ear plug fell out and someone fired a .333 rifle I think. Nothing like hearing static when people talk.
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Good advice. And it is easier said than done, which is exactly why you have to go out and do it.
 
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bsammy

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im not sure if this is corrct for others but living inside my head has a few advantages..i can be very creative when my mind sees fit, i also think that the silly things i think of are much funnier than anything someone could say....so i can literally keep myself busy simply by thinking...

the negatives are excessive self consiousness, anxiety and restlessness, inability to relate ot feel empathy for others, list goes on and on..i live so inside my head that i could walk past someone i know well and not even recognize them..im simply in my own world..
 
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Caramel

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I know that the depression overcome to all your thoughts. But all you need to change your environment and go for some travelling and do anything which pleases you.
 
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spaceboy135

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once you resolve your inner conflict and coping mechanism that defends you against being hurt then you will LIVE OUTSIDE OF YOUR HEAD permanently
 
philly2bits

philly2bits

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Sial Axetder said:
Yep. It will. Control the thoughts, man. Know what you know then stand up without any further thought and do it.

My AvPD guide told me a long time ago. Don't think so much. I now know I must just do in certain situations. Making a phone call, pick up the phone and dial and don't think about dialing. Just do it. Don't think about what to say. That will come.

Life is hurt. Go get hurt.

When you bug the cat and get scratched, you learn a different way to bug the cat without getting scratched the next time.

Go ice skating and fall hard. Next time you know to lean forward a bit more to keep balance in check.

You speak with a bunch of people and say something not so wise and seen as silly, dumb. Ok. yeah. Go back with the group the next time and try again. Learn what makes them tick. Listen to them. Maybe the group really likes guns. Might be an area you could take up and learn about.

Get out and travel. Find ways to make difficulties happen. Go get hurt. Then you'll have stories to tell your friends.

Example, I lost my hearing for half a day when my ear plug fell out and someone fired a .333 rifle I think. Nothing like hearing static when people talk.
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I understand what you are trying to say. But I'll admit I made this thread with selfish means. I made it to help me. And I get no help from posts like this. Perhaps I truly am too far gone, or maybe I'm too old, or maybe I have seen too much of the world despite my thoughts otherwise. But I need a hard kick in the ass, not words of encouragement. Words for the most part have along ago lost having an effect on me.

You see, I already know these things. Yet I feel impotent to do anything about it. I know how to ice skate, I know that I must. I know that I must go out and get hurt. Yet at the same time here I sit, not doing it. And it is with this latter issue I have the problem.
 
Falkor

Falkor

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Caramel said:
I know that the depression overcome to all your thoughts. But all you need to change your environment and go for some travelling and do anything which pleases you.
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Travelling is a nice experience, indeed. New place and new people and also Perfect Exposure! :cool:
 
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bsammy

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i have found that simply forcing yourself out doesnt help much as im still inside my head.ive been sitting in a bar before with a group of friends and my thoughts are still overpowering.

im with philly2bits, i seem to need a huge kick in the ass, an act of god for me to change to any degree.
 
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