Earthcircle
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For years, I have been on my own with no relationship. Maybe I just forgot what it is like. But now my boyfriend has moved in with me, and in a way I'm very happy. But it's also a bit strange. I have this problem, you see. I can't sleep until he is in bed with me, and he doesn't observe a regular sleep schedule. In fact, he likes to go to bed as late as possible while sleeping in as late as possible. I like to go to sleep at the same time every night and wake at the same time every morning. So I go to bed, and I wait for him. And wait, and wait, and wait. When he finally shows up, I can sleep. But then I am awake very early in the morning, and he keeps sleeping for hours. So there is this pattern developing where he is sleeping about 10 hours per day, and I am getting about half of that if I'm lucky. Someone told me that I shouldn't ask him to go to bed at a certain time, or he will leave me. I know so little about relationships, I fear this may be true. I also wonder if my difficulty in sleeping without him is pathological.