getting some sleep while in a relationship

For years, I have been on my own with no relationship. Maybe I just forgot what it is like. But now my boyfriend has moved in with me, and in a way I'm very happy. But it's also a bit strange. I have this problem, you see. I can't sleep until he is in bed with me, and he doesn't observe a regular sleep schedule. In fact, he likes to go to bed as late as possible while sleeping in as late as possible. I like to go to sleep at the same time every night and wake at the same time every morning. So I go to bed, and I wait for him. And wait, and wait, and wait. When he finally shows up, I can sleep. But then I am awake very early in the morning, and he keeps sleeping for hours. So there is this pattern developing where he is sleeping about 10 hours per day, and I am getting about half of that if I'm lucky. Someone told me that I shouldn't ask him to go to bed at a certain time, or he will leave me. I know so little about relationships, I fear this may be true. I also wonder if my difficulty in sleeping without him is pathological.

I left my father when I was thirty to live on my own. Couldn't get any sleep he always left the TV on loud. That's 24 years I lived on my own, and the good night's sleep I get is bliss.

I have quiet unit to come home to. 7 hours of the working day is more than enough time to be around people.

If I go field trips with other people I find it harder to sleep than on my own. People make me uncomfortable.

hmmm...this must be mainly a female problem. iv know of a few other girls to have a problem with sleeping alone. personally I dont mind to at ALL because I can stretch out and be a disgusting tree sloth, so to speak.

my ex-gf a few years ago would sometimes sleep over at my parents place and she'd want me to sleep in the guest room with her..id always sneak out after she fell asleep so i could sleep in my own bed and have it all to myself though. lol


but yeah , I'm the opposite. I have a hard time falling asleep if someone is in bed with me...especially if they steal all the covers.

AtTheGates said:

hmmm...this must be mainly a female problem. iv know of a few other girls to have a problem with sleeping alone. personally I dont mind to at ALL because I can stretch out and be a disgusting tree sloth, so to speak.

my ex-gf a few years ago would sometimes sleep over at my parents place and she'd want me to sleep in the guest room with her..id always sneak out after she fell asleep so i could sleep in my own bed and have it all to myself though. lol


but yeah , I'm the opposite. I have a hard time falling asleep if someone is in bed with me...especially if they steal all the covers.

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We're both male. This is actually beginning to worry me, because I will really need to be sleeping well in the near future.

He can't be torn away from his stupid cell phone. Once he woke up in the middle of the night, and started playing with his cell phone while sitting in bed. I asked him please not to do that, and he quit. So that's good.