Girl interested in me -- help!

Hi...

My best friend just told me that his wife's sister is interested in me, "to get to know me better".

I was at his place where his wife and her sister were there. I spoke with this girl, but nothing really happened. I don't know if I blew it or what.

My friend told me that he can send me her number, but what should I do from there? Text her, call her...I don't even know I'm interested, maybe I'm scared?? I don't even know if she's really interested any longer.

Sorry if this seems dumb, but due to social phobia this is the first time I have a chance to date a girl... I'm 24... Hmm...

CopenhagenCasual said:

Hi...

My best friend just told me that his wife's sister is interested in me, "to get to know me better".

I was at his place where his wife and her sister were there. I spoke with this girl, but nothing really happened. I don't know if I blew it or what.

My friend told me that he can send me her number, but what should I do from there? Text her, call her...I don't even know I'm interested, maybe I'm scared?? I don't even know if she's really interested any longer.

Sorry if this seems dumb, but due to social phobia this is the first time I have a chance to date a girl... I'm 24... Hmm...

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Well i'v had a girlfriend, so i'm not the best for advice.

But get her number and text her? that should be alright, and see if it goes any further if you want it to.

Yeah well if she was interested in you, then maybe its worth a shot getting her number and texting her to see if you two get along or have a connection. Its worth a try, even if shes not interested, if you dont do anything you might always wonder what if.

Thanks for both your replies.

Could you give me some advice of what to write. I feel it's kinda akward because she's the one who apparently is interested in some contact. (omg why is it so difficult :b)

dude dont text her. get her number and call her. ask her out to coffee or something.

Just say something like hi its so and so from the other day, so and so gave me your number as i really liked hanging out with you and thought we could do it again if your free. (If you want to hang out that is)

Or scrap the hanging out and just ask her how she is, etc and be a lil flirty don't take it too serious and see where it goes from there.

Thanks again for the replies.

I will maybe give her a call later this week. I will of course get back here to write how it goes. Wish me luck

Thanks for posting this Copenhagen, i'm in almost the exact same situation as you but wasn't sure if i should post about it. i'm a couple steps ahead of you in the process though. I've hung out with her three times at parties, the third one i even put together myself miraculously (with a lot of help from my sister and her freinds). Now I'm kinda hanging in limbo, wondering if she really likes me or if it was just aimless flirtation. I was sweating bullets though at first just like you are... after i met her and she gave me her phone# I didn't know what to text her, or if I should call her. It's the hardest damn part of the process cause you don't want to come across as a horny creep, but at the same time you want to let her know you like her (assuming you do, that is).

So i'd recommend doing what Damaged says (wish i'd had the same advice weeks ago:. I think i'm slowly getting shot down wit this girl I'm talking/hanging out with, so I'd like to see you succeed or make a valiant attempt at least.

and you wanna listen to the girls' advice on this forum about what/how to communicate with her. One piece of advice i can offer you as a fellow man is keep your mind distracted, keep busy with stuff so you're not worrying or obsessing over how you're performing. and try to resist the urge to look at your cell phone for messages every five seconds.

CopenhagenCasual said:

Thanks again for the replies.

I will maybe give her a call later this week. I will of course get back here to write how it goes. Wish me luck

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You should really do it now. You don't want to spend the rest of the week worrying about having to call this girl, then in the end, not having the courage to do so.

Pick up the phone man.

good luck player

No matter what, be comfortable with yourself.

CopenhagenCasual said:

Hi...

My best friend just told me that his wife's sister is interested in me, "to get to know me better".

I was at his place where his wife and her sister were there. I spoke with this girl, but nothing really happened. I don't know if I blew it or what.

My friend told me that he can send me her number, but what should I do from there? Text her, call her...I don't even know I'm interested, maybe I'm scared?? I don't even know if she's really interested any longer.

Sorry if this seems dumb, but due to social phobia this is the first time I have a chance to date a girl... I'm 24... Hmm...

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Just out of curiousity, is she pretty (or nice, something like that)?

I was in your shoes a month ago and the only advice I can give you is that after getting to know her a bit if you've developed any feelings for her let her know you have like her before she loses interest or you will end up in the position I am in where I've lost my chance with the first girl who has shown me any interest in 4 years and now rarely contacts me through even a text.

A friend in need said:

Just out of curiousity, is she pretty (or nice, something like that)?

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She is actually very pretty - why do you ask hah?

Silentknight said:

I was in your shoes a month ago and the only advice I can give you is that after getting to know her a bit if you've developed any feelings for her let her know you have like her before she loses interest or you will end up in the position I am in where I've lost my chance with the first girl who has shown me any interest in 4 years and now rarely contacts me through even a text.

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I have noted down your advice

I have communicated with her through text messages for some days now. Wow, I hope I soon get the guts to ask her out. I don't know what's worst - the fact that I have anxiety attacks about this or that I don't know any cafe in this city

All right. I went out with the girl yesterday. I/We actually had a real good time.

We started eating at a restaurant, then we went to see a movie. Then I followed her home. I get the feeling she is happy with me, so I guess we will continue to write to each other.

Anyway thanks once again for your support. I still feel kinda anxious about the whole situation, but I definetly feel much better compared to last week!

good for you man

awesome, 'possum!