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nocklmnop

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I've spent every day for 6 days now with my new girlfriend, but every single time we have to take leave of each other for school, work, etc, I get terribly depressed. I worry constantly that she for some reason has lost interest in me, and even cry over how much I miss her. You could say I'm obsessed. Does anybody else have this problem or any ways to deal with it?
 

nocklmnop

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Scottish_Player said:
I wish i had a gf to have that problem with :(

Do you know anybody who might be interested in you? What I usually do is write a letter to them, and take a deep breath. But most of the time, there's no reply. It's worth a try, despite the anxiety you may have about it.
 

maggie

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shredz02 said:
nocklmnop said:
Does anybody else have this problem or any ways to deal with it?

no and yeah, dont be such a little fukin pu$$y
hey shredz02..we have enough people in this world to shit on us..let's not shit on eachother on this site :roll:
 

SocialRetahd

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You love her more than you love yourself(of course this is coming from a guy whos been alone for 22 years). You see very little worth in yourself so you need the feeling of constant acceptance when you are around her.

Basically it's a self confidence issue.
 

nocklmnop

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SocialRetahd said:
You love her more than you love yourself(of course this is coming from a guy whos been alone for 22 years). You see very little worth in yourself so you need the feeling of constant acceptance when you are around her.

Basically it's a self confidence issue.

Thank you. That would make a lot of sense, because I noticed that as I started playing my bass guitar more often recently, I have had less problems. And I know playing bass helps my confidence, in that I feel better about myself afterwards.
 

nocklmnop

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Ok, I have a new question regarding this same girl. She is bisexual, and I just learned today that she might be in a relationship with another girl, as well as myself, a male. I consider "cheating" to be a very relative issue, but I am curious as to what other people think about this. I apologize for not sticking to the topic of anxiety, but I have no one else to ask.
 

maggie

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nocklmnop said:
Ok, I have a new question regarding this same girl. She is bisexual, and I just learned today that she might be in a relationship with another girl, as well as myself, a male. I consider "cheating" to be a very relative issue, but I am curious as to what other people think about this. I apologize for not sticking to the topic of anxiety, but I have no one else to ask.
hey nocklmnop...i agree with Edith on this one..for me anyway, if i was in an intimate relationship with someone, i wouldn't feel right if they were having a relationship with someone else, male or female.
 

nocklmnop

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Thanks Edith and maggie. I appreciate your thoughts, and agree. I'm just awaiting a reply from a person I know, who would know whether or not this is the case. If so, I'm not going to know what to do. I like her too much to want to leave, but it still would hurt to know she has other people on her mind, while I am thinking only of her. Again, thank you both.
 

Moonie

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The first thing I want to say is be careful to not rely on someone so much. Or be too clingy!

I have experience in both realms actually. I had an ex-boyfriend that was around me constantly and moved too fast and was too serious too soon. I don't think I really liked him much to begin with, but I couldn't stand the clingyness. I like my "me" time very much, and he was really too much for me.

I have a new BF. We actually lived together for a year or so at my on campus housing. He's basically my life and only real social network. So now I feel like I am the clingy one because I want to see him everyday. I have to remember what it felt like when someone was clingy with me. It is pretty dangerous to be so dependent on one person.
 
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