Got treated like a criminal because of peeping out through the blinds

Maybe because I am curious about the world but too shy to go out, I look out of the windows every now and then. I don t want others to know when I do that, so I usually peep out through the blinds. I am not focusing on checking girls out. However, several college girls are living across the street. Maybe because they noticed me doing that, they started to treat me like a thief or sex offender. They added curtains to their windows besides the existing blinds. They also added extra lights outside their house. They even set up a surveillance camera targeting me.

They usually leave the house for weekends. One weekend, their yard gate was open. I am not sure if it s wind, or someone else did that. They suspected it's me. They had another girl stayed there that weekend, and one of them came to my front door to look into my house before they went out that night.

Some time later, they called the police, and asked the officer to issue a trespass warning to me. After talking to me, I believe, the officer thought what they did is more inappropriate. They cannot set up a camera to monitor another property, and coming to my front door to look into my house is much worse than my looking at them through my windows.

I am not sure if there are many blinds peekers out there, but is it a really bad habit? Is it normal for some people to treat blinds peekers like criminals?

Hey look, your window and blinds are your property and you are allowed to look out them any damn time you want!

Now if you went in their property and looked in their window that would be a different story.

A guy now can't even look out his own window without the police being called?

And it was THEM who broke the law by looking into your window and coming on your property.

You could press charges!

To be honest, neighbours who peep out their windows are a little annoying. Because you do wonder if they are watching you. So it makes you look creepy.

But it's not criminal at all. If you were an old lady, they would never have called the police.

(Note however that them coming to your house and setting a camera is way creepier).

If they wanna live in fear thats their problem. You've not done anything wrong.

I look out of my blinds to see what the clouds are doing

Snap, I better be careful when I peek out mine.

I think that in situations like this, your wariness feeds into theirs.

When I first moved out on my own, I had a neighbor who lived in the apartment next to me. I HAD to pass his apartment in order to get to mine, because the hall was closed from the opposite side. Anyway, he was very reclusive and paranoid. That in turn, made me very paranoid. I could see him looking as I walked down the hall. Then as soon as my door closed to leave... He would start looking again! This made me wary of him... I didn't know if he was watching me or what. It doest help that Law and Order:SVU was one of favorite shows at the time.

I always imagined him plotting my murder.

Anyway, because I wasn't very talkative myself, I didn't know better and just passed judgment on what I saw and felt.

Years later, I saw one of the girls that I shared the apartment with and I asked about him. He was pretty notorious because he never really came out. She said that when her girlfriend moved in to replace me, they went to introduce themselves. He didn't open, but that it was never an issue. They just ignored each other.

I couldn't have done that. Never having lived alone, I swore that I was probably going to get murdered. For all a I know he probably felt the same.

I have learned since then, and those girls are probably in a similar boat. Scared and highly influenced by the idea that they may be watched or stalked. Don't take it personal.

Having a camera may have nothing to do with you personally.

I'd be pissed about the cops, but I can't count the amount of times I called the police when I first moved into the city. Because I heard noise, because I heard scratching on the door and was sure someone was out there.

Anyway, hope everything gets better.

sam369 said:

I am not sure if there are many blinds peekers out there, but is it a really bad habit? Is it normal for some people to treat blinds peekers like criminals?

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No. They are probably obsessed with the imaginary "rape culture" we hear about coming from the universities these days. I miss those times when kids would go to college to learn instead of getting their brains removed.

If you can, I think you should be the one pressing charges against them for harassing you. There are many innocent men, most of them college students themselves, who got their lives destroyed by this kind of hysteria, you should definitely make sure it will not happen to you.

I think Node got it right.

You are feeding each other, and since you cannot change their behaviour you can try to change your own habits.

But I would be tempted to put up masks that peep through every blind.

Thanks for the replies and support. I really appreciate it.

The problem is that I have had almost no social life, and I almost never talked to girls actively, because of social anxiety. Once, someone asked me how I could find a girlfriend if I didn't talk to people. Well, I wish I knew. It's kind of lame that I haven't been in a romantic relationship even though I will be 32 in August and I have always been wanting one.

In fact, I have some good qualities, but people don't get a chance to learn about the real me. Perhaps, most people who know me would just think I was detached and rude, or even define me as a bad person, judging from some misleading behavior because of social inexperience.

If there were no 'blank space' in my life, maybe I would not have some bad habits. I want to be a better person. If I can find a good girl, I believe she will help me improve myself too.

get a 52" tv and put it on the wall opposite the window, open your blinds wide open and watch pornos all day so their camera constantly records the pornos