Well, i don't see how just letting a girl know your true feelings for her can ruin a career, let alone a life..
Women can destroy your career. Even if you are just in school/university. It's enough for one to claim that you sexually harassed her, or concoct a plan with her friends to publicly debase you - simply because it's fun to see someone suffer. Especially with emotional involvement. Cinematic event.
Assume she just says that you got too close to her, sexually harassed her, just because you said you liked her a lot, what will the people think of you, simply because of the story about you that she distributed? Sooner or later, the entire university will know - and people do care, because it's fun to torture someone - and you won't be able to ever again approach a woman there without her having to think that there might be something true about the story. It can even indirectly lower your grades, if, in school, teachers get to hear the story.
Some might even go to the police and you will have to deal with the unpleasant investigations.
Everyone's allowed to!!! There's no law saying that some people can't..
No, that's not true. There's an unspoken law, which our society appears to agree on, that makes it a crime for certain men to express their emotions towards the woman they secretly love.
no1 is right. All these activities are - if only indirectly - sexually motivated. Sexuality is always an integral part of romantic attraction. Many women will think that you want to hurt them, or get into their pants, and feel disgusted simply because
you talk to them. Or hold a door(!) open for them.
I emphasized the 'you' above, as it really depends on who you are. If you are a socially integrated person, someone who enjoys the group's acceptance, you can even touch her indecently, and she won't feel bad about it. I have seen that happen on a daily basis back in school. We were all between 18 and 21, and my impression of women is really not something that I irrationally come up with.
Coming up with proof, or the story is another thing.
Indeed, but who actually cares about a proof? Most people will simply believe it because it brings more fun into their lives. With time passing, the story will fade, but some remnant thoughts of you being a sexual pervert will prevail, likely for their entire lifetime.
Plus that there are cases where you have to stick to that environment you live in, because of various reasons. I moved to this city a couple of weeks ago in order to go to university here. I will have to stay here until I get my degree, such that I can move on successfully (career-wise). Jeopardizing this plan by approaching a woman I find attractive would be foolish.
I wish guys wouldn't ignore girls when they like us.
I wish girls would be more rational, less emotional and more open to people who aren't socially accepted or integrated for some reason. And, eh, there are so many things I wish girls would do or be like, but that's simply not going to happen for a long time to come.
If I really like him the shyness goes away and getting to know him motivates me to talk to him.
What would make you start liking him?