How do love shy/extremely shy men act when they see an attractive girl with...

TooShyShy

TooShyShy

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a form fitting outfit (maybe a shirt with a little cleavage showing) or short skirt or tight capris..is it any different for a man who IS NOT love shy or afraid of women in any way?

If he's not use to seeing women up close like that would it bother him more?

I am asking bcuz this seems to happen a lot lately with this new guy (VERY SHY, i believe possibly love shy..can't talk much around me, gets nervous a lot, stares, watches me walk, etc.) i met him a few months ago.

I always seem to attract this type...this has happened before....grrrrr::(:

Anyway, I accidentally dropped some papers and had to kneel down to grab them and i guess a bit of cleavage was showing when i went down to grab them..nothing too gaphic or horrifying though..i am pretty well endowed on top but i don't show them off..you could see a bit of my camisol (which i wear to layer under v neck shirts & sweaters NOT TO SHOW TOO MUCH ON TOP especially at work and just the top part showed a bit..like i said nothing too revealing!!!


Well when i got up i noticed he took 5 steps back and looked really frightened..he looked like he couldn't talk amd just stared into space for a bit..but then looked back at me and couldn't talk. And instead of telling me what he came in for..he took a deep breathe (like a deep sigh) and just said ''ohh nothing..'' and walked out!

Did i do something wrong? Like i said he gets very quiet and nervous around me. Should i have followed him out and asked again? He seemed to be in a hurry to leave..lol:eek:so i just went on with my day, but now i wonder if i did something wrong in his eyes?
 
fitftw

fitftw

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he's either homosexual, bisexual, or straight.

Once you figure that out, if you find that he is actually completely straight as an arrow, he's just really shy, and unless you get him out of his shell, the odds of him climbing out of it for you are slim to nil.
 
iamthenra

iamthenra

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Why not ask him if he is interested in hanging out with ya for a drink or something...??? See if he "bites" or not... I know if I was interested in someone, and I lacked the courage to say something, if she did I would jump at the opportunity to go out with her... but that's me....
 
Aussie_Lad

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Can't really help, but reminds me of a dentists appointment I had one day. When the appointment finished I went to pay at the reception. The girl that was working there had her cleavage just showing. While I was standing there, she bent down a little to do some paperwork, and gave me a great view down her top. Of course, I couldn't help but stare (it's a guy thing). When she looked up again, I just pretended that nothing had happened. This actually made the dentists trip worthwhile for me, because I hate going to the dentist normally.

ps. Actually the more I think about it, I come to the conclusion that the guy wants to ask you out but is having trouble gaining the courage to do so.
 
staticreflex

staticreflex

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TooShyShy said:
a form fitting outfit (maybe a shirt with a little cleavage showing) or short skirt or tight capris..is it any different for a man who IS NOT love shy or afraid of women in any way?

If he's not use to seeing women up close like that would it bother him more?

I am asking bcuz this seems to happen a lot lately with this new guy (VERY SHY, i believe possibly love shy..can't talk much around me, gets nervous a lot, stares, watches me walk, etc.) i met him a few months ago.

I always seem to attract this type...this has happened before....grrrrr::(:

Anyway, I accidentally dropped some papers and had to kneel down to grab them and i guess a bit of cleavage was showing when i went down to grab them..nothing too gaphic or horrifying though..i am pretty well endowed on top but i don't show them off..you could see a bit of my camisol (which i wear to layer under v neck shirts & sweaters NOT TO SHOW TOO MUCH ON TOP especially at work and just the top part showed a bit..like i said nothing too revealing!!!


Well when i got up i noticed he took 5 steps back and looked really frightened..he looked like he couldn't talk amd just stared into space for a bit..but then looked back at me and couldn't talk. And instead of telling me what he came in for..he took a deep breathe (like a deep sigh) and just said ''ohh nothing..'' and walked out!

Did i do something wrong? Like i said he gets very quiet and nervous around me. Should i have followed him out and asked again? He seemed to be in a hurry to leave..lol:eek:so i just went on with my day, but now i wonder if i did something wrong in his eyes?
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Lol, Idk what he was thinking but he sounds very shy. If it was me a few years ago it would have been religious guilt because anything sensual was taboo, even inadvertently like this. There are probably many reasons why someone would act like that, but again I think it is just because he is just shy and not because of the cleavage.
 
EasySkanking

EasySkanking

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That dude sounds just like me :D I act just like him around a girl that I really like... I'm extremly shy /social phobic, so yeah ;)

You're right, with all the staring that he does, he's DEFINATELY not gay ;)

What do you want from this guy? You just want to stop this weirdness between you two or you want something with him?

In either case, what works best for someone like that is to be straightforward, no bull****... bull**** only makes us more nervous because we're not good at "playing around". Find him when you think he's not particularly nervous (ie. hes talking to someone confidently to someone he feels comfortable with.) Make sure he doesn't see you coming to soon (wont give him a chance to get nervous)... and tell him straight up what you think/want.

Or... you could just leave it as it is, and eventually he'll just get used to you and the shyness might subside, though I think things will still be weird.

Good luck, hope this helps!
 
Verynervous

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Those situations can make me worry like crazy. Thoughts race through my head telling myself I can't look so I look away and then when I look away I feel weird wondering what she's thinking and I probably look nervous. I get worried about even looking in the vicinity of the area because it may look like I am looking when I'm trying hard not to(which a guy wants to but it'd be creepy I'm sure).
 
sleepless

sleepless

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I think of all the things I should have said and done, instead of just standing there with a goofy look on my face.
 
Verynervous

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sleepless said:
I get very nervous around attractive women. It's extremely aggravating, especially later when I'm alone.
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For sure. Just earlier I was really mad at myself for not talking to this girl more and possibly asking her out. I really honestly think I have a chance but I worry about her saying yes and going on a date is scary. If she says no then it will be awkward around her. So I don't even bother asking.
 
sleepless

sleepless

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Verynervous said:
For sure. Just earlier I was really mad at myself for not talking to this girl more and possibly asking her out. I really honestly think I have a chance but I worry about her saying yes and going on a date is scary. If she says no then it will be awkward around her. So I don't even bother asking.
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You never know what they're thinking. Sometimes you think they're interested when they're just really being polite. You ask them out and they either think it's sad or they laugh at you. I'm so sick of being laughed at.
 
Ignace

Ignace

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Ask him out. If he watches you he's straight. Very nervous around you, probably feels something for you. You are gonna have to make the first move, he's not going to do anything if you don't take action. But think about it first. Don't make him happy with a dead mouse. :)
 
Verynervous

Verynervous

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sleepless said:
You never know what they're thinking. Sometimes you think they're interested when they're just really being polite. You ask them out and they either think it's sad or they laugh at you. I'm so sick of being laughed at.
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Yea that's what goes through my head too, although I've never been laughed at because of the so few girls I've asked out. If they're really as nice as they seem then they wouldn't laugh or anything in my opinion. If anything they probably feel bad, and if they do laugh, well then I would be happy because they obviously aren't a nice person.
 
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kayleigh

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It's not just attractive women that scare me, they all scare me. I haven't had a conversation with a woman in years, other than family members.
 
Kiwong

Kiwong

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I don't look. I've been called lots ot terrible things because of my anxiety, but I am not a perve.
 
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