growing up

i was just having a chat with black mamba and it made me realise how much my growing up effected me. my parents never told me anything i should know, like what it would be like to be a teenager and an adult.

its a shame because there is alot in the world that needs to be understood.
if i had kids :? they would know all about the world. i would squeeze everything i could into them. how it all works, what to avoid, how not to treat people, how not to treat yourself, not to fear anything or be the best person you can.

people concern themselves with really stupid things. the world has gone mobile mad instead of finding out how to fix the awful mess we have made of the planet.
i dont understand why kids are not taught the more important things these days. i think it would make such a difference in the long run.

if one kid is doing it they will all start doing it. instead of a mobile it will be recycling. or not wasting water.

maybe this planet is just doomed. such a waste i think.

Yeah I wish my parents actually 'brought me up' instead of leaving me to my own devices every single day of my life! I learnt everything myself apart from tying my own shoe laces. :lol:

Not sure about kids these days, they've really been born into a crappy age. Some of you may have read this recent email, I think it applies to whats being said in this thread although life is what you make of it, so regardless of what generation you were born into, parents really affect our lives long-term, but here it is anyway;

According to today's regulators and bureaucrats,
those of us who were kids in the 60s, 70s and early 80s probably
shouldn't have survived, because our baby cots were covered with
brightly coloured lead-based paint which was promptly chewed and
licked.

We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, or
latches on doors or cabinets and it was fine to play with pans.

When we rode our bikes, we wore no helmets, just
flip-flops and fluorescent 'spokey dokeys' on our wheels.

As children, we would ride in cars with no seat
belts or airbags - riding in the passenger seat was a treat.

We drank water from the garden hose and not from a
bottle and it tasted the same.

We ate chips, bread and butter pudding and drank
fizzy juice with sugar in it, but we were never overweight because we
were always outside playing.

We shared one drink with four friends, from one
bottle or can and no-one actually died from this.

We would spend hours building go-carts out of
scraps and then went top speed down the hill, only to find out we
forgot the brakes. After running into stnging nettles a few times, we
learned to solve the problem.

We would leave home in the morning and could play
all day, as long as we were back before it got dark. No one was able
to reach us and no one minded.

We did not have Playstations or X-Boxes, no video
games at all.

No 99 channels on TV, no videotape movies, no
surround sound, no mobile phones, no personal computers, no DVDs, no
>Internet chat rooms.

We had friends - we went outside and found them.

We played elastics and rounders, and sometimes
that ball really hurt!

We fell out of trees, got cut, and broke bones but
there were no lawsuits.

We had full on fist fights but no prosecution followed from other parents.

We played knock-a-door-run-away and were actually
afraid of the owners catching us.

We walked to friends' homes.

We also, believe it or not, WALKED to school; we
didn't rely on mummy or daddy to drive us to school, which was just
>round the corner.

We made up games with sticks and tennis balls.

We rode bikes in packs of 7 and wore our coats by
only the hood.

The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke a
law was unheard of...They actually sided with the law.

This generation has produced some of the best
risk-takers and problem solvers and inventors, ever.

The past 50 years have been an explosion of
innovation and new ideas.
We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned
how to deal with it all.

And you're one of them. Congratulations!

You have had the luck to grow as real kids, before
lawyers and government regulated our lives, for our own good.

i think thats what i wanted to say but it was said so much better :wink:

good call man

Wish I wrote it, I'd always known that the current generation of children/teenagers had missed out on something but I couldn't quite put my finger on it.

Still, thats no excuse! :wink:

i always try and set a good example for kids

unless of course there is 10 if them and they look like they are about to kick the shit out of me.

but every little thing helps. but i think adults need more guidence these days. most people i see in the town will throw rubbish on the ground (even though there is a bin right next to them) and not even blink an eye.
it makes me want to give them a good slap.

just a bit of effort effort never killed anyone.

:lol:

I feel like an old lady whinging but yeah, that bugs a lot of people, I tend to keep rubbish on me until I can find a bin.

But I wonder if children of the 40s or 50s were like this... 8O

there should be alot more people like you in the world mamba and anyone else that agrees with what you said/ wrote. its very cool

I've often wished that my parents had a more proactive role in my upbringing. As a result i think a lot about what i would do differently with my kids as well - if i ever had any. The idea of being a parent scares me to be honest. I can just see myself as this scared over protective parent never letting her kids out of her sight. Then having those kids grow up and become rebellious and anarchical - solution - just don't have kids.