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Old 06-24-2010  
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Default "Hanging out" / "socializing" with people bores me to bits

I just can't stand "hanging out" with people - I find it extremely boring.

You know, just casually chatting with people, doing nothing much in particular, to me seems to be such a waste of time.

In that time, I'd rather go get more work done, or actually go do something I like to do. I just find your classic social occasions - chatting with people over a cup of coffee / meal, loosely "hanging out" with friends, going out for a drink - all mind-bogglingly boring. In those situations I watch the time go by and wish I was doing somethiing more "productive".

The irony is, all this makes me look like someone who wants to reject human contact and be alone. But that's not true - I still long for meaningful human contact and I wish there were some people I could enjoy being with. But at the same time, I hate "socializing" the way most people do. See the Catch-22? :(

Do people really enjoy "socializing" deep down? Or is socializing a "price to pay" in order to be with other people?
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I feel the exact same way. Then again, it could be just the way I've conditioned myself from the anxiety.
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I really get what your saying and its definitely a "price to pay", to socialize or not. Eventually you'll have to get used to it if you want to be around people. No matter how awkward you feel.
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same here.. it just feels pointless i'd rather hang out alone ..takin a walk in da park or have a coffee by my self ..alone...than so******ing with some one.. if its my GF...i dont mind.. I never get bored.. but if its with some one else..even a freind i know for many years.. i get bored hanging out.. actually it gets me tiring and worth less because they have soo much to talk about ..n' i dont have anything else to say..yea

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I'm like this as well. I don't necessarily want to be productive, but I get bored unless there's a point to the conversation, some kind of productive conversation, whether it's emotional growth, talk about factual interests, or sharing hopes... But, I can't stand talking about the present or gossip. Maybe it's simply because I crave a way to escape the present in a social situation, it might be a form of running away.
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Most of the time I think they are all bored too. I don't think they do it because they necessarily enjoy sitting around talking about nothing, and being boring (hmm?). A lot of the time, people will actually be deciding what they are going to do, and of course get distract easily by whatevers. I mean "hanging out" to me is better than sitting here doing nothing and being on the computer all day. Not that I ever do that...
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I agree with most people here. Socializing is tough, but I've been doing it more often lately on the off-chance I might meet someone...no luck so far...not by any measurable standard.

Here's a prime example of pointless socializing:

Some of my co-workers (25 people invited, only 6 consistently go) go out EVERY Thursday for wings and beer after work...I've come out to two of them so far and I've truly run out of ideas as to what to talk about with them at these things, and they put no conscious effort into talking about anything meaningful, so I just don't go anymore.
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Gossip is something I definitely have very little interest in.

I think maybe I'm more able than most to entertain myself. Even if I'm seemingly just sitting staring at a spot on the wall my brain is still churning away. (Honest I'm not really a cabbage ). Then there's times when I am just staring at a spot on the wall. Sometimes I just appreciate the down time.

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Other people, like my friends seem to like it very much, but as you do, I hate it too. I don't see the fun in it. I don't got a problem with not being productive. I do got a problem with the hanging itself. What are you supposed to talk about whole the time, and especially when you got nothing to say. >.>
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I don't think you don't enjoy the company of people. It's just that you're too shy so you convince yourself it isn't fun.

I don't like to hang out and party either. I just feel uncomfortable and I often don't know what to talk about with strangers. But that's because of my S.A. But I don't believe that, if I felt perfectly comfortable, that I don't enjoy the company of others.

Otherwise I wouldn't be here to talk to people with the same problems. And I think that applies to you too.
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