Has anyone ever called you isolated or someone who hates people?

HeadFace

HeadFace

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It didn't sting or anything. But at the same time, I didn't really get where they were coming from until a while later.
I've been told that I seem very isolated, and that I isolate myself from people. And I've also been asked why I hate people. Which I really don't. I don't indulge myself in people as a whole. I don't really have a preference, I mean. I don't dislike people nor do I have a certain liking to them.

I guess I was called isolated since I often excuse myself from invitations, or something like that. I'm not a group person.
I'm often pretty quiet in groups, except to maybe the one person in it that I'm close to. In that case, I usually just talk to them the whole time and awkwardly stand there feeling like I don't belong there
I'm also very picky with who I socialize with or get close to.

I mean, I won't lie. And I hope it doesn't sound condescending or anything like that, but it feels good being invited places, even though I know I don't plan on going about 90% of the time. Lol :p
 
Graeme1988

Graeme1988

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HeadFace said:
It didn't sting or anything. But at the same time, I didn't really get where they were coming from until a while later.
I've been told that I seem very isolated, and that I isolate myself from people. And I've also been asked why I hate people. Which I really don't. I don't indulge myself in people as a whole. I don't really have a preference, I mean. I don't dislike people nor do I have a certain liking to them.

I guess I was called isolated since I often excuse myself from invitations, or something like that. I'm not a group person.
I'm often pretty quiet in groups, except to maybe the one person in it that I'm close to. In that case, I usually just talk to them the whole time and awkwardly stand there feeling like I don't belong there
I'm also very picky with who I socialize with or get close to.

I mean, I won't lie. And I hope it doesn't sound condescending or anything like that, but it feels good being invited places, even though I know I don't plan on going about 90% of the time. Lol :p
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I can relate to pretty much everything you said. Especially the excusing yourself invitations, and not being much of a group person. I'm also very quiet when in a group. But I don't think it sounds condescending when you say it feels good being invited places, even though you might not plan to go most of the time. I do the same. I just tell people not to take it personally if I decline an invite somewhere.
 
Phoenixx

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Yeah my mom often jokes around about how "anti-social" I am and how much I "hate everybody," just because I'm so quiet and how I keep to myself. It does get annoying after a while because I don't like to consider myself "anti-social" and I certainly don't hate everybody. Sure I'm quiet, but when I'm in social situations I'm usually dying to keep a conversation going. Seems like I can't no matter how hard I try. SA or not, it's still not something I'm particularly good at.

HeadFace said:
I mean, I won't lie. And I hope it doesn't sound condescending or anything like that, but it feels good being invited places, even though I know I don't plan on going about 90% of the time. Lol :p
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^ I can relate to this too. I don't get invited to a lot of places, but every once in a while I do. Sometimes I go, sometimes I don't. It still feels good though that someone's thought about you to invite you out.
 
nafadda

nafadda

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yep..been called that many times,esp over the last few years and I just say ,"yea SO??"

I no longer have a need to apologize or make excuses for who I am or how I want to live.

Now a days i only say I'm sorry if I've done something wrong,not because someone may not like what i'm doing or how I live or what I may say.
 
OceanMist

OceanMist

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Yes, and I don't want my first real conversation to be with them about how I don't hate people. I've been misunderstood for a lot of my life, I guess I'm just used to it now. I think I'm a stronger person after being rejected by so many people.
 
How_slow_the_Wind

How_slow_the_Wind

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A highschool teacher often commented on my "steel cold arrogance"(in a jocking manner, but of course I took it personally) from appearing aloof or removed from the rest of my classmates. I don't know, maybe some of it is true? I think I've become very jaded over the years and don't really like people because of fear of rejection and being unable to navigate all the arbitrary social cues in getting to know someone. It's like internally I know these thoughts are immature and like to beleive I am above them, but subconcsciously my behaviour and body language suggests otherwise.
 
Kiwong

Kiwong

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I've been called worse.

Being called isolated is the truth. I am.

I don't hate people, it wouldn't worry if someone said that, because it is not true.
 
sillyrabbit231

sillyrabbit231

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I would be in my room for hours. Alone and quiet. All I do is watch tv, go downstairs and eat a snack. I actually hate it when people open the door without knocking.
 
HeadFace

HeadFace

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What I meant by condescending is that I know a lot of people here are lonely so I didnt want to make them feel worse.

Anyway, I know it isn't true, too. It's not something I worry about. But I never expected it to show that much. Or at least appear that I do hate people. Because I don't.
Isolated though? Maybe. But then again the person who told me that was someone who I especially avoid.
 
montejocarlo

montejocarlo

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yup. i've been called a loner... by my teacher of all people. but it's a lot better than being called a snob, which my parents think i am.
 
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