Have you ever been in love?

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Bernie

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Because people suffer from Social Phobia i should imagine we all have low self-esteem. And they say "If you don't love yourself then you can't love anyone else" . I've never been in love, i suppose i've just had crushes on people and if i've had feelings for someone they've never been reciprocated! The people that are attracted to you, are not your type. Anyone familiar with this? Anyway the point i'm trying to make is i believe i'll always have self -esteem issues, when you've known insecurity from a young age i'm sure it stays with you, no matter what happens it will always rear it's ugly head! Does this mean then that i'll never experience what it's like to be in love? I'm attractive and a very giving person.
 
mustang

mustang

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I think you'll fall in love all in due time.

Its the best feeling and worst feeling at the same time, you can't really escape it like Kien said...
 
Kien

Kien

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It's only good if the person likes you back. If not then you can only hope that you will not have to see the person together with the partner.

Just a random question do you think guys falls in love easier than girls? (o,o)
 
recluse

recluse

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Yes i have had feelings of being in love but i doubt if that person felt the the same. I feel like the last person in the world anyone would love. I think that if we can't love ourselves then we have no hope of believing that someone will love us.
 
Social_Moth

Social_Moth

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Maybe you can find all the love you really need inside yourself. That way, your relationships (or lack thereof) aren't based upon feelings of desperation. Maybe in the end, that's the relationship we should care most about. The one inside ourselves.
 
Angel_Of_Death

Angel_Of_Death

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I've had this major crush on this girl since January, she's a friend now as we worked together in our assignments in class last semester. I've fallen for her and been obsessed. 2 major problems stand in my way, first being that she already has a boyfriend although it's a long distance relationship. 2nd problem is of course my SP/SA.

I can honestly say I've been more miserable since I've fallen for this girl than I was before. But at the same time I'm glad i've met her as she's my only real female friend. But it's tough, sometimes I get really down and depressed thinking of her knowing she's nothing more than a friend.
 
celestialrecluse

celestialrecluse

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"if you dont love yourself then you can't love anyone else"

to me it's easier to love someone else than to love yourself, yes i think i've been in love, but come on im 19, what is the definition of love at my age.lols.
 
Carstuar

Carstuar

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I've been REALLY in love two or three times Not sure if the first one counts, since I was 15/16. I don't think you can be in love with someone until you know them really well.
I've had many crushes, though. Currently have some, even ;P
 
osse

osse

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Perhaps what Bernie is saying is true. I havn't been in love for 12/13 years. I think anxiety and SP dampen the feelings. I don't know.
 
Coper

Coper

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Bernie said:
Because people suffer from Social Phobia i should imagine we all have low self-esteem. And they say "If you don't love yourself then you can't love anyone else" . I've never been in love, i suppose i've just had crushes on people and if i've had feelings for someone they've never been reciprocated! The people that are attracted to you, are not your type. Anyone familiar with this? Anyway the point i'm trying to make is i believe i'll always have self -esteem issues, when you've known insecurity from a young age i'm sure it stays with you, no matter what happens it will always rear it's ugly head! Does this mean then that i'll never experience what it's like to be in love? I'm attractive and a very giving person.
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I guess to know for sure whether you can experience love you would have to first find someone with whom you feel mutual attraction. I've never gotten that far either, but I always just assumed that if I could get past the obstacle of starting relationships, eventually I would find someone with whom I could experience 'real' love, as opposed to admiring someone secretly.

Do you love your family? Have you ever had a pet that you loved? I would suppose that someone who can experience platonic love could probably also experience romantic love, given the opportunity, even if s/he had self-esteem issues.
 
Depressed4life

Depressed4life

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Yes, i am in love right now...in love with my bf. We haven been together for 2 years. I definately agree, love is only good when someone loves you in return. I went out with guys who just wanted me for my body and it was hard to learn that i was being used....
 
_Brittany_

_Brittany_

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Is being obsessed with someone the same thing as being in love?? :oops:


I use to be like really obsessed with this guy who I never even talked to (lame, I know! but he was really really hot!)
 
villacjs

villacjs

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Never been in love, for me to be in love I would have to know the girl a while and she must be both caring and attractive. I have never known a girl like this in my life hence I have never been in love. I have however lusted after girls especially some girls that go to my university :D .
 
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