He ignores me and it hurts.

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Chaigirl

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Well I started to get used to it. But girls have you ever experienced something like this? >.<

He likes you (like its obvious that he likes you) but all of a sudden he starts to ignore you as if you don't exist. When he sees you he runs away from you, or pretends to be talking on the phone or something. He stops answering your calls and would avoid communicating with you in any way.

There was a coworker who did that to me. It shouldn't matter to me that much but to be honest he hurt me by ignoring/avoiding me like that. Because sometimes I feel like I did something wrong and my self consciousness starts annoying me? Lol. He wouldn't even pick up the phone when I call him. It's so annoying.
 
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deleteduser50890

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He may have a thing for you and sounds like he's possibly a tiny bit inexperienced when it comes to women. It sounds like he's also a tad shy. Let him come to you when he is ready (Don't hover around him if you can help it.) If he doesn't after a considerable ammount of time..........move on. He might be trying to decide if he likes you enough to want to even pursue you. I guess only time will tell...


(been there,done that)

I apologize if this doesn't make much sense, I'm extremely sleep deprived...
 
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thegunners21

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A guy once went to a doctor and said: "Doctor it hurts when I do this". The doctor replied: "Well, stop doing that then."
 
chibiXphantom

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that's happened to me before. i started dating someone at my old job, went on a couple dates. he used to stop by my register and say hi and chat for a bit, but all of a sudden he stopped. he ignored my texts, avoided eye contact, started using the exit on the other side of the store instead of the one i worked by. he then finally texted me and said he didn't want anything to do with me.

he then texted me a month later saying he missed me and that he made a mistake, but i wasnt interested in seeing him again.
 
lucifersam

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It sounds like he's probably nervous or something. Sounds a lot like what I'd do in my school days... maybe even now. Not that I've had any girls talking to me recently...
 
arjuna

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FWIW, I used to ignore a girl that liked me in college back when I was 20. I did it on purpose because I felt like hurting people, even though it was indirectly. It gave me pleasure.
 
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Chaigirl

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Megaten said:
Have you seen how he talks to other women? Does he seem confident or awkward?
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yes he seems confident with other women.

I need to forget about him and move on but i find it a bit difficult. He keeps avoiding me and I keep wondering why he does that. Sometimes I feel like he hates me TT_TT it's a very annoying feeling.

And I wonder why he changed after a very short phone call at work!! It could be that someone told him something bad about me. I don't know.

Ok I don't care :kickingmyself: I think I'm wasting my time trying to figure out why he avoids me like that :crying::crying: only time will tell as lurking kitten said.
 
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Megaten

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Yeah I wouldnt worry about it. It could be any number of reasons. It could be he just wanted to stay associates and freaked once he saw you were getting "too friendly". Maybe he thinks youre way out of his league (Ive done this a zillion times) and that hes going to fail. Maybe he's got a gf, or too many girlfriends lol. People are complicated. And weird.
 
anomicdeer

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Chaigirl said:
yes he seems confident with other women.

I need to forget about him and move on but i find it a bit difficult. He keeps avoiding me and I keep wondering why he does that. Sometimes I feel like he hates me TT_TT it's a very annoying feeling.

And I wonder why he changed after a very short phone call at work!! It could be that someone told him something bad about me. I don't know.

Ok I don't care :kickingmyself: I think I'm wasting my time trying to figure out why he avoids me like that :crying::crying: only time will tell as lurking kitten said.
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Stuff like that is difficult to deal with as it goes on but after a while you will forget and if you think back on it you won't feel bad about it anymore.
Speaking from experience...
 
Ransfordrowe

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No one needs to put up with bad behaviour.If someone keeps doing it then you need to think strongly able excluding them from your life,if they bring more negative than positive.Anxious and non anxious a like dont need to put up with things for the sake of not being alone etc.We deserve better.
 
THeCARS1979

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Chaigirl said:
Well I started to get used to it. But girls have you ever experienced something like this? >.<

He likes you (like its obvious that he likes you) but all of a sudden he starts to ignore you as if you don't exist. When he sees you he runs away from you, or pretends to be talking on the phone or something. He stops answering your calls and would avoid communicating with you in any way.

There was a coworker who did that to me. It shouldn't matter to me that much but to be honest he hurt me by ignoring/avoiding me like that. Because sometimes I feel like I did something wrong and my self consciousness starts annoying me? Lol. He wouldn't even pick up the phone when I call him. It's so annoying.
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yeah Im a guy and I cant answer this, we re not all alike and very different from one another. It really depends.
 
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Chaigirl

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I can't believe it haha. Today he came to my office to use one of my computers. Well he had to come anyways but I was happy to see him. Really he should stop ignoring me. Also me should stop acting weird -.-" I'm weird with everyone hehe
 
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Chester

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hi there

that guy is just like me
i ignore the girl i like because im too shy and believe me i hate that but **** it i cant change it i kept trying till i saw her with someone else instead of me
and she stills staring at me even when she is sitting with him i feel bad , i dont know how she feels , she feels like she hurts my feeling but her eyes telling me im sorry ive waited you 2 months you just ran away from me , sadly i can read body language and eyes easily and i dont like that.

if you like him too
and you know he likes you
add him on facebook , chat with him over internet only try to show him your smile even if he look to another side while you are smiling to him , he wants to smile back but he is too shy , give him some time , after chatting on the internet wait his move irl to you

IM SURE BECAUSE IM JUST LIKE HIM I DO THE SAME SHIT AND I DONT LIKE THAT.

wish you the best
 
grapevine

grapevine

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YES, its happening to me now and its completely hurtful-
he is my co worker too- and Ive worked my butt off lately so I am going to call a sickie for 2 weeks and try to get over him and this whole situation that sucks.

Im going to concentrate on my own goals and try to get my passions back, myself back rather than always thinking of him grr
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Chester

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what does it mean when she always trying to help
always staring at me even when she sits with her boyfriend , she stairs at me , even him noticed that
do you girls do the same ?
you said he ignores you and it hurts

im lost i feel like she loves me but i didnt did anything to show her that , i just get too damn jelous when i see her with him and she noticed that , i leave the place when i see them together

sometimes i feel she's playing with me , sometimes i feel im such a **** , she fall with me same as im

but she has a boyfriend now
i feel nervous as hell beside her , i dont know what she want
actually when i saw your post i imagined her typing that one .............

her boyfriend is good person i dont want to break his heart if i can * i mean if she loves me*
 
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Chester said:
what does it mean when she always trying to help
always staring at me even when she sits with her boyfriend , she stairs at me , even him noticed that
do you girls do the same ?
you said he ignores you and it hurts

im lost i feel like she loves me but i didnt did anything to show her that , i just get too damn jelous when i see her with him and she noticed that , i leave the place when i see them together

sometimes i feel she's playing with me , sometimes i feel im such a **** , she fall with me same as im

but she has a boyfriend now
i feel nervous as hell beside her , i dont know what she want
actually when i saw your post i imagined her typing that one .............

her boyfriend is good person i dont want to break his heart if i can * i mean if she loves me*
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She has developed feelings for you but obviously feels guilty because she already is romantically involved with another.
 
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Chester

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Lurking_Kitten said:
She has developed feelings for you but obviously feels guilty because she already is romantically involved with another.
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sadly thats what i was thinking of and wanted to see another answer now im sure i can read her eyes......

this is the hardest situation to deal with im my entire 24 years . :crying:
 
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