he wont leave me alone

im not sure where to post this, but i really need advice (might be pretty long)

ok, so a guy started going to my high school for a short amount of time. while he was there, he was picked on and he sat alone all the time. i felt bad for him, so i invited him to sit with my friends in lunch. we became friends, but then he moved away to another state.

i got a friend request from him a while back. we exchanged phone numbers.
all seemed like a normal friendship. then he texted me he that liked me. i told him i was intrested in someone else. he kept going on and on about how he really like me and gave me tons of compliments. i tried to tell him nicely that i wasnt really interested in dating him, but he couldnt take it.
i kept getting tons of messages from him and he was facebook stalking me so i deleted him. i blocked him on other websites too.
he asked me why i blocked him and i said that his messages were getting overbearing and a bit weird. he stopped texting me for a while.

but.. its stated again. he texted me after a few months. just normal stuff: hows life?, hows college? etc... then he says he misses me and how much he likes me... i tell him i have a boyfriend now (which i do). from there he goes into a suicidal rant. i tried to be nice and tell him he's a great guy and that there are plenty of better girls out there than me. in his mind i guess that means i like him.
ive tried to tell him im not interested. every time im very blunt about it, he goes suicidal.

things are getting bad now. ive been getting about 10-20 texts a day that ive been trying to ignore. sometimes i respond but he gets really creepy, saying he cant live without me, how he doesnt want to be with anyone but me, and trying to convince me to be with him. when i respond, he ignores what i say and says some pretty innapropriate things... idk what to do. ive been getting tons of emails too. its freaking me out >_< what do i do??

That's a tricky and unfortunate situation. I would suggest cutting off all contact. You were awesome and extended your friendship to him, but now he is taking advantage of it. He is not respecting your boundaries. He is not being a good friend and is out for his own gain, at the cost of your own well-being. Is there a number blocking feature on your phone? You should be able to block his emails pretty easily.
If you don't want to be that harsh, I would suggest giving him an ultimatum first. Set up some final and strict boundaries on contact, and tell him you will cut off contact if he doesn't respect your wishes.
I wouldn't worry about his suicidal threats if I were you. He is responsible for his own mental condition, and he shouldn't be placing that burden on you in the first place. His depression has nothing to do with you, and quite honestly it's not your problem. You did the best you could.

Ok now I kinda understand why most girls I met are a bit cold ...because they might bump into crazy guys like your "buddy" ,who confuses being nice with flirts lol.
My advice ,ignore him ...he will feel better after a while and will most likely forget about you.

Cut all contact, he is crossing boundaries and that is unacceptable. He is also acting like a kid who can't get his sweeties and that is also unacceptable.

If you ever get an opportunity to read The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker he talk about people like that, and he says for them any contact is good contact. Telling him to leave you alone means he has got some response from you, and he will try again. So just ignore him.

i blocked the emails. im not sure how to block numbers on my phone (if my phone has that option)
i just feel like im being mean =[

You could change your number as well. Hassle but theres also the possibility of him using alternate numbers to pester and freak you out.

Well if you're lucky then an upside of SA is you'd have only few friends to inform that you changed your number

chibiXphantom said:

i blocked the emails. im not sure how to block numbers on my phone (if my phone has that option)
i just feel like im being mean =[

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Don't feel like you're being mean.
Everything on key has been said already by the above posters.
Try Googling how to block on your type of phone. My phone is similar in no way can I figure out to block numbers so you're just going to have to be strong and delete every message.

You are absolutely not being mean.

You feel you are mean?

He is the weirdo in this story, you are the victim. He could be friends or he could stay away and he choose to try and force himself on you. Never apologise for acting rationally.

A quote I picked up.

I gave him a clear choice, get out of my life and stay out or deal with the worst of his behavior with me, with a third party, with clear intent to work out the relationship sabotage. I knew he was very resistant to change, and still the options were made very clear..work to understand or no contact. He chose no contact. It was hard for me to believe that was his choice, but I had to learn to respect that choice.

The odd behaviors we experience are all about their fragile egos. When confronted, these guys often make up a story, that they are the victim and you are the bad guy, its black and white for them. This works for them at a superficial level, makes them feel OK about their assinine behavior cause…it’s all your fault !

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i think im just gonna ignore everything from him. see what happens with that.
im not gonna change my number unless i absolutely need to.

Mindina said:

I would cut all connections, don't ever respond,block his number, do what you have to.

Guys use the whole suicidal thing all the time I doubt he really will, if he did it is obviously about a larger problem. It is unfair for him to burden you like this, cut all connections and continue to block him.

Sucks you have to deal with that.

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This sums up what I think. He needs to grow up and he eventually will if you do that.