Hey would you have kids?

PhillipJFry

PhillipJFry

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S'up everyone? I'm wondering if you guys/girls would ever decide to reproduce in the future, and why or why not.

If you have children already, do you worry they'll have social/general anxiety, or depression, or autism, or maybe just that they'll grow up to be a rude **** despite your best efforts to prevent it? (I would worry if I hypothetically had any children).

Personally; I don't think it would be a terrific idea for me to have kids with anyone, I don't have the genetic goods. Plus being alive is suuper boring, (granted I have nothing to compare it to) but you always have to do these tedious things like take a shower everyday even though you'll get dirty again, put gas in your car even though it'll need more later, cut your hair even though it'll grow back, talk to people at work even though you don't like them, and a bunch of other stuff that makes all the cool stuff in life less cool. Not to be self-deprecating or anything, but my sperm and I are okay with my family tree ending with me.

Anyway, what are your thoughts? thanks for reading, and I hope your day goes wonderfully too!
 
Metal_isthe_Answer

Metal_isthe_Answer

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I don't want kids, at all, it's not even up for debate. It's actually kind of the reason I stay single, it seems most women I have met want kids and since I do not under any circumstance, it seems ****ty of me to refuse something they want.
Also, I am currently job-less and live at home, so even if I did want kids I wouldn't be financially capable of it.
But really I just simply don't like children and don't like how you are forced to change your life for them, the things I want and desire leave no room for children
 
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GhastlyCC

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When I was younger I would have said "**** no" without hesitation.
Now? I'm not sure....
I mean,I'm still not completely open to the idea but I'm not so against it that I could never possibly change my mind.
My life would have to change pretty drastically for me to consider it though..
Having a child where I currently am in life and where I'll likely end up would be a terrible idea.heh
 
LoyalXenite

LoyalXenite

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Nope, the kindest thing I could do for this world is to do my part for stopping the spread of my messed up family.

Not to mention I come from a family history full of mental health issues and abuse issues, dont want another kid to have to suffer through that sort of shit.
 
Pacific_Loner

Pacific_Loner

Pirate from the North Pole
Metal_isthe_Answer said:
I don't want kids, at all, it's not even up for debate. It's actually kind of the reason I stay single [...] the things I want and desire leave no room for children
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This is what I tell people when they keep bugging me about my relationship status

LoyalXenite said:
Nope, the kindest thing I could do for this world is to do my part for stopping the spread of my messed up family.

Not to mention I come from a family history full of mental health issues and abuse issues, dont want another kid to have to suffer through that sort of shit.
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This is the real reason why I don't want kids
 
dannyboy65

dannyboy65

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I would like to have a child someday. Not anytime soon, but someday. I just wonder what it would be like for them to have a father with autism. I know right now I'm not fit for being a father. I would love to someday be a father. I would want to find the right girl first though and have it planned. I would also want a career. I'm already studying for a career at the moment, and a lady might come eventually so I'm just going to let life do its thing.

That's my opinion on the matter, I also don't understand why it would be a problem if your child had a disability or an illness. I would still treat them with the respect and love they deserve.
 
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PerseverareJasmine

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Even though I wouldn't rule it out completely, I strongly doubt that I'd want to have children. Maybe something might change my mind someday, but it doesn't seem likely.
 
BlackPuma

BlackPuma

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I've always felt that the saying ''Do as I say, not as I do...'' must be quite confusing for kids, as their natural impulse is to imitate their parents. And to an extent I think they always will.

As a result, I'm terrified of what a child would turn into if they started to imitate and model themselves after me. I am a external and internal mess, neither emotionally open enough or able to commit to making him/her the best person they could be.

It would be worst mistake of my- and their life. The future holds many opportunities, but for now I'm not looking to procreate. I'm not even ready for a romantic relationship at this point.
 
migthymask

migthymask

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I'd like to have children and a family, but my shyness is so bad right now, so I can't meet any girl to give my best and offer her the possibility to become in a family,
 
Luka

Luka

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Most likely not. Not saying never because I am still young and not ready to be in any sort of serious relationship. But a lot of my family have history of mental illnesses resulting in messed up childhoods. I'd rather not put my future 'spawn' through that, lol
 
worrywort

worrywort

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My current view is no, I'd rather not have kids. Mainly because they'd require such a huge sacrifice of your own life; I just don't have time for kids. But also because, in my view, the over-population of the earth is the leading problem we're facing as a species right now, and in my small way I'd rather not contribute to that.
 
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JayHender

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I think I would like children at some point. I just really hope they don't inherit my HH, I would never be able to forgive myself if they did.
 
THeCARS1979

THeCARS1979

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PhillipJFry said:
S'up everyone? I'm wondering if you guys/girls would ever decide to reproduce in the future, and why or why not.

If you have children already, do you worry they'll have social/general anxiety, or depression, or autism, or maybe just that they'll grow up to be a rude **** despite your best efforts to prevent it? (I would worry if I hypothetically had any children).

Personally; I don't think it would be a terrific idea for me to have kids with anyone, I don't have the genetic goods. Plus being alive is suuper boring, (granted I have nothing to compare it to) but you always have to do these tedious things like take a shower everyday even though you'll get dirty again, put gas in your car even though it'll need more later, cut your hair even though it'll grow back, talk to people at work even though you don't like them, and a bunch of other stuff that makes all the cool stuff in life less cool. Not to be self-deprecating or anything, but my sperm and I are okay with my family tree ending with me.

Anyway, what are your thoughts? thanks for reading, and I hope your day goes wonderfully too!
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Its hard for me right now because I dont even have a relationship and Ive been struggling with it ever since I was young, Now Im nearing 41 so I dont think I'm in the market for one having kids.
 
chibiXphantom

chibiXphantom

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dont think i want kids. not just raising kids and having one in my life, but the thought of physically having a kid kind of freaks me out. to have a living thing inside me, causing me discomfort, extreme pain, and distorting my body, probably changing it permanently afterwards... uggh. no thanks.

id consider adopting though, maybe
 
anomicdeer

anomicdeer

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I ruined my life for having one. Not only did I make a mistake by being with the father but it was stupid that I actually wanted one. Now I'm just a unsuccessful, lazy, crazy mother who can't deal with anything, especially having a developmentally delayed child. I add an extra person to this crowded world, so stupid. I just wish I got an abortion or something happened so I can get on with just taking care of only me and not having that responsibility.

But no. I'm stupid.
 
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