Honeymoon phase

dannyboy65

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A lot of people say me and my girlfriend are in what people call the "honeymoon phase". Thing is I've never had this much attention from anyone before and I absolutely love it. It scares me though because I'm scared if when this phase ends would she feel different about me.

I care about her more then I've cared about other's then family, we are best friends. It's stupid cause I know she will still love and care for me I guess I'm just scared she won't want to spend a lot of time with me like she does now. For once I have an active social life, I'm even meeting a lot of new friends of hers.

She gives me the confidence I never had. She makes me wake up excited to see what today will bring. Every time we are about to meet I still get the excited butterfly feeling that she gave me the first time we met. Even people are noticing how happy I make her.

She cares about me for me and she doesn't want to use me like past girls. She enjoys my presence, and she always misses me. I feel ridiculous for thinking that she will lose interest. It's just in my nature to be on my guard I guess because I've been hurt so much by others in the past and I'm really sensitive.

I just had to vent what was on my mind....
 

Bronson99

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Good job. But how did you even get together with her, in the first place?

I'm aware you're autistic... I'm not saying autistics cannot have partners, they often do. But it still amazes me. I have some Aspie traits but no diagnosis. I'm just shy like hell, and awkward.

Maybe your trick is you're more "out there" and "doing things" than one like me, who just stays closed off? Obviously, girls won't come after me if they don't know I exist.

(I'm sure if they do know I exist, though.. they'd be like sharks, they'd come after me for real, yo...)
 

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
There is the phase where it's like a honeymoon. The thing to accept is relationships evolve. Those ones that don't usually don't last. Enjoy your time with your girlfriend, love her, cherish her, try to keep your relationship interesting. (this goes for both people in the relationship).

Nothing kills a relationship for a girl faster than boredom (especially when younger). I'm not saying things need to be super exciting every day, but try to do something nice and something she wont expect once in a while. Something she will appreciate.
Maybe something like, getting rose petals and making a heart shape with the words 'I love you *girls name*.. on her bed. let her discover it. Yes, be romantic but change it up now and then. It'll show your thinking about her and you care.

Simple things like that can be very effective. Good luck mate :)
 

Ads7800

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The fact you are feeling this way means you are living life to the fullest. Great love comes with great fear of losing it. I'd try and see the positive in that as in: how beautiful it is to be anxious over something worthwhile than just our usual anxiety junk.
Hope that makes sense. All the best. :thumbup:

Regards,
Adam S. :)
 

dannyboy65

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Thank you everyone for the positive feedback I did talk to her about it and she told me that she knew that we wouldn't fade apart which really helped boost my confidence.
 

Bronson99

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Thank you everyone for the positive feedback I did talk to her about it and she told me that she knew that we wouldn't fade apart which really helped boost my confidence.

Good to hear it and sorry for my earlier comment, which was pretty much just about myself... Oy.
 

Megaten

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Well like momma always said, if you treat your woman right, then you wont have anything to worry about.

Bronson99, he probably has a diverse and large social circle. Thats the key, the more friends (real friends) you have the better your chances are. And by diverse I mean guys and gals, and not all single dudes as they'll get in your way.
 

lilmutegirl

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dannyboy65, congrats on your relationship, and good for you for talking to your girlfriend about your concerns!
You don't specify how long you guys have been together, but I will let you know my boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost 5 years, and I still adore him. So, apparently, the honeymoon phase is still going strong here. :)
I think it depends on the people and circumstances of the relationship. If you two continue to make an effort to show the other how much you care, I'm sure you will continue to feel the way you do.
 

Bronson99

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Bronson99, he probably has a diverse and large social circle. Thats the key, the more friends (real friends) you have the better your chances are. And by diverse I mean guys and gals, and not all single dudes as they'll get in your way.

Based on his previous posts he seems like an introvert with a small social circle. But, that's still more than me, since I don't have *any* social circle.

I still think I'll find someone eventually, social circle or not.
 

AlienGeranium

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sorry,

what does "honeymoon" mean? i never heard it before.
Can you explain me?

A honeymoon is like a vacation two people who just got married go on to celebrate their marriage. The expression "honeymoon phase" refers to that period at the start of relationship where everything is going well and they are both very happy. It originally referred to the start of a marriage, where you're literally on vacation or afterwards before you reach any of life's curves balls to throw you off, but has been generalized I think to refer to any good beginning that eventually fades from simple and perfect bliss to something more complicated.
 

ONline87_15793

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A honeymoon is like a vacation two people who just got married go on to celebrate their marriage. The expression "honeymoon phase" refers to that period at the start of relationship where everything is going well and they are both very happy. It originally referred to the start of a marriage, where you're literally on vacation or afterwards before you reach any of life's curves balls to throw you off, but has been generalized I think to refer to any good beginning that eventually fades from simple and perfect bliss to something more complicated.

it's the same thing i though initially. Thank you.
 
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