Originally Posted by SilentStranger
Even if you got over your anxiety, how would you explain the gap in your life where you were a (in their eyes atleast) a loser. It seem like a catch 22.
I simply tell people that I was shy and was in a transition-period in my life.
When I was actually in that period and people gave me crap about being single or not doing much socially, I was pretty embarrassed. However, I eventually realized that people who do give a person crap for being a "loser" are being rude, while many others are just total jerks in general who are trying to blame their problems on someone else and make themselves feel better.
What I finally said was "screw this, I am not taking it anymore." If people don't like the way you live your life, then that is their problem, not yours. You will find a social life and a partner if you keep working away at it. Being assertive like this is also another great way to reduce anxiety and increase self-esteem.
The bottom line is that I am comfortable with the way I have lived my life up to this point, and if anyone has a problem with it, then that is their problem, not mine.