How are you feeling? - Page 3433

MrJones · 08-01-2012

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Originally Posted by twiggle

Ill, but happy. Changes have been made lately and I'm getting a lot more assertive in life - socially and also in the workplace. Career is in the best shape its ever been and a lot of it stems from those months last year when I was unemployed but working hard at my volunteering.

I know that 'everything happens for a reason' is a bit of a cliche, but if I hadn't been unemployed, and just doing some rubbishy job non-related to anything I want to do, I wouldn't have had that time to volunteer and get that thing on my CV that sets me apart from the rest.

I'm only saying all this because I just want anybody here, who may be in the position that I was in last year when I was really miserable from unemployment, to have a bit of a boost - things may seem rubbish when you're not in work but instead just regard it as an opportunity to do something unreal. If I'd been fully aware of this last year, I wouldn't have felt so miserable as I did.

Sounds great!! I hope you feel better soon so only happiness remains

Graeme1988 · 08-01-2012

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Originally Posted by shakethelight

Good luck! it takes some time. I am doing CBT as well and didn't start making ANY progess when I first started either.You WILL get there. Sending good vibes your way today.

Oh, it helps to write down what your feeling. Or things you would like to work on.
I hated the long pauses cause I usually had so much to say but would get "brain fog" once I sat down.
hope today goes well. Don't be nervous! Think of therapy like a spa day for the head

Hope your session went well, shakethelight? Mine was actually better than expected. Nice analogy, by the way, I'd have never thought to thinking of therapy as a spa day for the head.

Though, I get the "brain fog" too. Nearly everytime I answered a question. It wasn't because I was nervous or anything, just ma mind trying to make sure my thoughts make as much sense as possible.

Srijita52 · 08-01-2012

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Originally Posted by Graeme1988

Hope your session went well, shakethelight? Mine was actually better than expected.

I'm glad it went well Graeme.

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Originally Posted by twiggle

Ill, but happy. Changes have been made lately and I'm getting a lot more assertive in life - socially and also in the workplace. Career is in the best shape its ever been and a lot of it stems from those months last year when I was unemployed but working hard at my volunteering.

I know that 'everything happens for a reason' is a bit of a cliche, but if I hadn't been unemployed, and just doing some rubbishy job non-related to anything I want to do, I wouldn't have had that time to volunteer and get that thing on my CV that sets me apart from the rest.

I'm only saying all this because I just want anybody here, who may be in the position that I was in last year when I was really miserable from unemployment, to have a bit of a boost - things may seem rubbish when you're not in work but instead just regard it as an opportunity to do something unreal. If I'd been fully aware of this last year, I wouldn't have felt so miserable as I did.

That's awesome twiggle, I'm happy for you. Get well soon.

Labyrinthine · 08-01-2012

I'm feeling pretty good.
Today started as one of those no good, very bad days; late start and complications at my bank on the one day I don't count in the bank due to lateness (first they gave me too much, then somehow I missed a bill despite counting twice). After I got to the rink, I skated really well. Someone told me I'm coming out if my shell and not acting as shy

. I actually initiated three conversations today. So overall, im pretty pleased.

Srijita52 · 08-01-2012

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Originally Posted by Labyrinthine

I'm feeling pretty good.
Today started as one of those no good, very bad days; late start and complications at my bank on the one day I don't count in the bank due to lateness (first they gave me too much, then somehow I missed a bill despite counting twice). After I got to the rink, I skated really well. Someone told me I'm coming out if my shell and not acting as shy

. I actually initiated three conversations today. So overall, im pretty pleased.

That's great. I'm glad to hear it.

shakethelight · 08-01-2012

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Originally Posted by Graeme1988

Hope your session went well, shakethelight? Mine was actually better than expected. Nice analogy, by the way, I'd have never thought to thinking of therapy as a spa day for the head.

Though, I get the "brain fog" too. Nearly everytime I answered a question. It wasn't because I was nervous or anything, just ma mind trying to make sure my thoughts make as much sense as possible.

Oh yes, I love going to therapy now. I used to always break my appointments. I felt like I was broken and I was just wasting their time & my money. I'm glad you didn't feel nervous, therapy should definitely be a safe place for you. But it DOES work.

I know you're doing CBT but my old therapist told me about this book "The Mindfulness & Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety:A Guide to Breaking Free from Anxiety, Phobias, and Worry Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy It's an approach called acceptance & commitment therapy-ACT. It includes a CD with bonus worksheets, self-assessments, and guided mindfulness meditations. It's not your typical "work book" or "self help" book. I ordered mine off Amazon. It's be very helpful You should check it out.

Anyway, I am glad to hear therapy went well.

Graeme1988 · 08-01-2012

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Originally Posted by shakethelight

Oh yes, I love going to therapy now. I used to always break my appointments. I felt like I was broken and I was just wasting their time & my money. I'm glad you didn't feel nervous, therapy should definitely be a safe place for you. But it DOES work.

I know you're doing CBT but my old therapist told me about this book "The Mindfulness & Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety:A Guide to Breaking Free from Anxiety, Phobias, and Worry Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy It's an approach called acceptance & commitment therapy-ACT. It includes a CD with bonus worksheets, self-assessments, and guided mindfulness meditations. It's not your typical "work book" or "self help" book. I ordered mine off Amazon. It's be very helpful You should check it out.

Anyway, I am glad to hear therapy went well.

Thanks for the recommendation, I'll look into it. Sounds quite interesting, actually. Especially the CD which is included. I recently bought a book about CBT called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy: Teach Yourself from Amazon. Just to get a better understanding of it. There's also a book called The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris, which give insight into the techiques of ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) - which might be worth looking into?

shakethelight · 08-01-2012

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Originally Posted by Graeme1988

Thanks for the recommendation, I'll look into it. Sounds quite interesting, actually. Especially the CD which is included. I recently bought a book about CBT called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy: Teach Yourself from Amazon. Just to get a better understanding of it. There's also a book called The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris, which give insight into the techiques of ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) - which might be worth looking into?

You def should! Hrm, I'm going to check out those books as well. Thanks!

Invisibleman · 08-01-2012

Trying to cope with my appearance. It isnt going too well.

vj288 · 08-01-2012

Ugh, I'm more stressed than I'd like to be, I just want this month to be over already. I'm still not all set for school yet, I'm not sure if I registered or not, I'm not sure if my financial aid is on track for where it is supposed to be, I don't get why the online waiver for health insurance isn't working, unless I'm not registered yet, ot haven't paid, in which I have to wait for financial aid, which every says estimated, but estimated the exact amount I sent in to accept. I have some register/orientation thing for school in a few weeks, I still haven't received the information I was told I would get for it yet. I don't know if I'll get an ID there, I don't know what I am supposed to do before I go, or until after I go. I don't know what I should be doing now. I don't know what books to buy, I don't know where to buying them. I need to go to my physical in a few weeks to get my medical approved, I don't know if I have wait for that. But the medicinal insurance waiver is due like 3 days after that is due to be submitted, and what if it still won't let me do it online? Where is ANYTHING on campus. I don't know where any of the buildings are, I don't have a map. I don't want to call, or ask, or seek out and look stupid for not knowing what I'm doing, even though I don't. How am I going to survive at a new school, one where I know people from high school. I'm losing whatever confidence I had gained I fear, I'm spending too much my time by myself. I need to find a job somehow, I need to ask for applications, I need to call them on the phone, go to interviews, work with people. I need to meet new people. I wish I could have the lowered inhibitions of drunkenness while doing everything above. I need to get into the groove of living on my own. I want everything settled, I want a routine. I don't like so many things up in the air and going on at once. I don't like not knowing. I just want this month to be over.