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Old 04-22-2011  
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Default How awkward is being at work for you socially?

I feel like im the only one but im sure im not. I jus cannot for the life of me socialse at my work, and its stressful ! I stand there like a lemon infront of the others and have no clue what to say.
They say im reserved and quiet but i can't help it, grrrr
anyone else in the same boat as me
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A lot of the people I work with I have worked with for over 10 years, and I still get that way sometimes. Ive had the same boss for almost a decade, and I am still get afraid of talking to him sometimes. Some days it still takes a lot of effort to get myself up to speak up in front of everybody in meetings. Other days its not so bad. Some days I think everybody secretly dislikes me. I go over conversations I have with coworkers in my head over and over and over to try to think if I might have said something wrong and offended them. Other days I'm fine and have no problem joking around and having fun. I guess that's just the way things go, though..
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The jobs I worked at in the past were a lot of ones in restaurants so naturally I was around bored waitstaff all the time when the days were slow...it was often painful to create conversation with those coworkers. They also liked to remind me constantly how quiet I was, which made it increasingly painfully awkward.
Ugh, don't you love that terrible question "Why are you so quiet?"..
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i try to keep any socializing quick and to the point

if any awkwardness comes up, I just say something like, "ok, time to get back to work"

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"To succeed in the world it is not enough to be stupid, you must also be well-mannered." - Voltaire

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It depended frankly on the employees and boss. A few I was awk with, esp some older ones, others very comfortable with, my true personality showed. I was fortunate with the job tho, I was even promoted.

IN SHORT, AND TO SUMMARIZE - So my work experience tho ups and downs but was very positive overall, it definitely helped me fight SA better than anything. I was a big flirt too, being a toy store, lots of female employees =) In fact, that was part of the reason I got fired lol, I was a receiver/buyer, but worked the floor a lot too, BUT was still up in front a bit more often than I should hav been So, the key is comfort level at the job, with your bosses, and workers. And I had a higher up position too, and by this time I knew the job very well, so it didnt stress me out. All of these ingredients is not always possible to add up to positive things, I realize I was lucky.

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I've been at my current job for a few years now, so people know that I'm not exactly Mr Social and just tend to accept it. It's tough whenever I start a new job though, so yes I can understand how you feel.
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A total disaster, it depends who the coworkers are that day though. On Sunday for me it's a mix of the loudest people all at once... Sunday is not great at all.
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I actually find talking to people, whilst having the distraction of working on something, quite easy. I've always felt more comfortable doing that.

However, whenever someone leaves or goes on maternity leave and they have a little 'get together' at work (a social gathering with food laid on etc) it becomes quite awkward, I have to say. I need something to do!

"Sunday is gloomy, my hours are slumberless, dearest the shadows I live with are numberless..."
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Old 04-23-2011  
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It can be quite awkward and stressful for me too. Sometimes I feel like my coworkers have accepted that I am just a quiet person, but sometimes I feel like they try to avoid me because they think I am weird. I hope their avoidance of me is just my imagination, but still...

"The world is not beautiful; and that, in a way, lends it a sort of beauty."
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lazyhermitcrab's word, "disaster," fits me, too.
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