How can I tell him that I like him?

Just to let all of you know, I don't have Social Phobia. But this guy named Jordan that I like does. And I really like him, like ALOT. But I have no clue how to tell him! :confused: My friends say that I should forget about him, that he wont talk to me or even let me know if he likes me in the same way because he has Social Phobia. But my friends don't understand. This isnt something I can just let go. I like him way to much for that. But he dosn't talk to anyone AT ALL. :eek: And to me, it makes him seem unaproachable. I understand that it's him that should be worrying about what to say and it's him that should be scared. But I am too and I don't understand why. It's like yesterday at lunch, as I walked over to my table he was stareing at me. And when I sat down I looked up and he was just stareing at me. Stareing into my eyes. And it mad me so nervous! I looked away so quickly, he must have thought that something was wrong with him. ::(: I couldn't even eat lunch, I just through away my food and felt as though I was going to puke! Thats what he does to me! He makes me the nervous one! I need some help with this please? How on earth can I get the guts to talk to him and tell him that I like him? :confused:
 

DeadmanWalking

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I don't know much about romance, so take what I say with a grain of salt:

In that staring incident, I would believe that he was emotionally kicking myself about how he'll never have you and how he can't go up and talk to you and wondering what it would be like to talk to you, among other fantasies, if he's anything like me. It sounds like he really wants to talk to you, but social phobia. The only way this is going to go anywhere is if one of you ramps up their courage and talks to the other. Since you're willing to do it, here's some advice: calm down, take a deep breath, and, when you see him, just walk up to him and say hi. Or you could just run up to him and talk to him before you feel paralysis. Don't rush asking him out. First, get to know him and talk with each other until the both of you can feel comfortable in each other's presence. Then, when you feel that the time is right, go somewhere isolated and tell him. Good luck with all of this!
 

megalon

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I'd say you should be direct and a bit pushy if necessary.

This. If he does like you, he'll probably be too afraid of rejection to make it clear to you until he is positive you feel the same way. Be very up front about it and just ask him. Just out of curiosity, if he doesn't talk to you, what is it he does that made you feel this way about him? Maybe I can use his secret method of attracting girls in the future.:D
 
This. If he does like you, he'll probably be too afraid of rejection to make it clear to you until he is positive you feel the same way. Be very up front about it and just ask him. Just out of curiosity, if he doesn't talk to you, what is it he does that made you feel this way about him? Maybe I can use his secret method of attracting girls in the future.:D


Well to be honest I don't understand how it happened! Haha. One day I didn't notice him at all, then the next it felt as though it was just me and him in the room. It caught me by supprise! And since he dosn't talk to anyone I started talking to his twin asking stuff about him. He's just perfect. :) The first thing I noticed about him was his eyes, they are beautiful.. And the rest just came on after that. <3
 

MikeyC

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Something about him has you in a spin, so the real tragedy is doing nothing. Try and spark up a conversation with him and take it from there. If he likes you, he will respond.
 
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