How did you meet your partner?

Dear all,

I was wondering how many ppl on here got a parnter and how you've fond your bf or gf.

I know it's hard for someone with social anxiety and therefore I'm kinda curious about it, how you guys found your partner and how things are going between you and him/her.

Are things getting better since you're together with someone or are feelings more insecure now?

Yours Sincerely,

Sinopia
 

TheNomad

Well-known member
Eh deleted. I didnt think id be the only one to answer that seriously. I just need to keep my mouth shut.

Why, I think it was a good question. I would have answered if I had a partner, too. I sometimes wonder how people with SA meet people as it is tough to do.
 

Ithior

Well-known member
Eh deleted. I didnt think id be the only one to answer that seriously. I just need to keep my mouth shut.

If you don't mind, I'd like to know too. It was a serious question, just because someone answered jokingly doesn't mean serious replies won't be taken seriously.
 

Megaten

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Sorry peeps, umm well I met my gf in college. We were working for the same professor as research assistants. We hung out a few times as friends and she made the first move. Thats typically how I hear it happening for guys from this forum. Once every blue moon you'll cross paths with a girl thats intrigued by a quiet guy, just gotta make sure you dont freak out when it happens. I was at a point in my life where I stopped caring what happened because I figured it would fail anyways, which is the only reason I didnt freak. I still have insecurities when it comes to socializing and especially when making friends. So I can still get pretty lonely, but I have to keep it in check so I dont become clingy. But yeah just doing something I enjoyed doing (other than video games) caused us to cross paths, and I honestly think thats the best way. Its the slow way, but trying to chat up random strangers for dates is an emotional mine field.
 

Ithior

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Sorry peeps, umm well I met my gf in college. We were working for the same professor as research assistants. We hung out a few times as friends and she made the first move. Thats typically how I hear it happening for guys from this forum. Once every blue moon you'll cross paths with a girl thats intrigued by a quiet guy, just gotta make sure you dont freak out when it happens. I was at a point in my life where I stopped caring what happened because I figured it would fail anyways, which is the only reason I didnt freak. I still have insecurities when it comes to socializing and especially when making friends. So I can still get pretty lonely, but I have to keep it in check so I dont become clingy. But yeah just doing something I enjoyed doing (other than video games) caused us to cross paths, and I honestly think thats the best way. Its the slow way, but trying to chat up random strangers for dates is an emotional mine field.

Yeah I think that's the way to go about it. Don't go into every meeting with a girl thinking about whether or not she likes you or if you two could date or whatever. Just think that that wouldn't work, so just try to get along/be friends. Also meet new people through stuff you enjoy doing. You'll have common interests and something to connect over. Again, go into this trying to have fun and maybe find friends who can do that stuff with you. Don't do it to get a date. If you end up falling in love and getting a girlfriend, great. If you don't, then that's ok too because that wasn't your objective anyway.

That's what I've been doing since I turned 23. I don't have a girlfriend but I finally made some friends I have things in common with. I'm sure that I will eventually meet a special someone if I continue going outside to do things I enjoy doing.
 

toowilling

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I met my partner through my office mate. First, we were set up for a blind date until we were formally introduced by our common friend.
 

Phoenixx

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Through high school... the first time around. We were best friends. Eventually grew feelings for each other. He asked me out my sophomore year, his junior. But because I was so insecure, scared, and depressed, I turned him down. Some weeks later I worked up the courage, apologized, and asked him back out, but he refused. We still remained good friends though until a year later he met a girl and then he never talked to me again until a couple years ago.

We bumped into each other in Walmart, of all places. :eek:h: We chatted for a while. Found out his relationship from high school was all sorts of toxic and left after three years. Was even engaged at one point. We swapped numbers, went on a few dates, and we've been together since. Now we're engaged and he's certain he's gotten it right this time around. I believe him. ;)

Things are definitely better for me. I still have issues with anxiety and depression, and I still have breakdowns, but he supports me even if he doesn't understand it. The one thing that has gotten worse for me though is being alone. I don't understand entirely why, but ever since we've been together I get extremely anxious being alone at home and in public. Worse than before. I don't get it. :confused:
 

Metal_isthe_Answer

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I just gave up completely. There's a lot of nice things about being single, but it can be lonely at times. Basically, a lot of women I've met tend to talk way to much for my tastes, I tend to get annoyed with it and harbor a secret desire to tell them to just shut the frig up already. So I kind of think I wouldn't even enjoy being in a relationship now.
 

NamiraWilhelm

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Last year I decided to force myself out of my comfort zone and live in Madagascar for five months. While I was there I fell in love with an Australian man who had also travelled there. I then followed him to Australia, now back in the UK. He's a very bright man with a good future ahead of him including a PhD he's doing over there, so he's unable to come to me. Now I just have to decide to either let him go, or attempt to be with him, which I think would be a big undertaking even for someone without my mental health problems... we'll see
 
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