How do I convince my parents to let me go travelling?

To me it's a dream, I've always wanted to go travelling, but my mom keeps being negative..

I can't go to Thailand after she keeps watching this tv programme about all the bad things that happen there scams drug trafficking British and other backpackers binge drinking till they pass out and get robbed by ladyboys

I can't go to Malaysia because she thinks there are rebels there,

I can't go to Canada or Australia on a "working holiday" with this tour agency because it's too expensive...
Or just looks at me like it's a bad idea to go backpacking...

But I help and work on the farm..
She says it's ok for our neighbours son or a former classmate to go because they're going with their friends...and is afraid I might be like I wass in college, going psycho and trying to kill myself (because people were bullying me...) mute etc.

I am not "mature enough" how would I cope etc

My dad thinks I'm thick and never talk to people, and so old fasioned moaning about the boring sheep all the time!

(I'm completely different with people I dont know!)

...why do I want to go abroad? Apart from proving to people in this area who think I'm not all there that I am independent enough to look after myself now .. I want to be able to learn new things, make new friends and be able to enjoy life!

The only place I probably can go is the Philippines because I have relatives on my moms side there... I'm tired of going there being treated like a kid! my 14 year old cousin is treated more like an adult than me!

Why is my brother allowed to study in an expensive university in London and get work experience with madam toussoud or who ever, when I'm not even allowed to go out on my own, just for a few months during the winter when we're not busy on the farm?
I keep doing what other people want me to do all my life!

Is it really too late now at 23?
The guy I know is going to more countries and staying longer than me and he only just graduated from college, where me I work and they wont let me go...

I feel that SA and people from college have ruined my chances!

So you wana travel alone?Well I'll be hesitant to let you go if I was your parent especially if you had some past problems.
The thing is you are 23 so you are basically an adult,you can do what ever you want ,but at your own expense not your parents,if they will pay for your trips and something happens to you they will feel guilty about letting you go.
So the answer to your question is:
You are and adult and can do whatever you want,but as I said at your own expense.Get the money from somewhere else and go,nobody will force you to stay.Maybe it's time to ask you parents to pay you for your work at the farm or move by yourself in a city and find a job.

Do you really need their permission at 23 years old?
Some parents don't know how to let go because they are too scared-- but you're an adult now and you can actually do things even if they do not approve.
It might cause a fight, but perhaps putting your foot down and doing some traveling despite what they say could show them that you are your own person?

It seems like your parents are being overly concerned. I agree with everyone, you're an adult and if you're confident then go for it. Travelling is a great way to deal with SA by meeting new people and going to unfamilier places. I'm sure it'll help you.

Just f* them. Your life is nobody´s elses business. They should take care of themselves. But I think people like this are too scared themselves to do just anything. But this is their problem, they don´t have a right to make life a misery even to other people just because they´re mental.

How about small steps first? I've always liked going camping since my teens and there's lots of great places to go in the UK. Give that a whirl, your mum can't complain then!

Option 1 : Buy a very expensive non-refundable ticket and tell them you have to go.

Option 2 : Lie to them. Tell them you go to visit an online friend and go where ever you want to.

Option 3 : Act like an adult. Inform them you are taking your three weeks holiday and leave. If you are working on tha farm as an employee you can do that. I didn't, and I regret every single moment of it.

You are 23 years old. Most people can start doing things when they turn 18.

But, first things first: Is your passport in order?

My first flight was when I was 22, and that was a domestic. My first international flight was one month ago, and I'm now 26.

What I'm getting at is that it's definitely not too late, and at the age of 23 you are still very young. Buy a ticket and tell your parents that you're going on a holiday and that's how it's going to be.

My last international flight was in the summer of 1993 from Shannon International Airport on a TWA flight to New York from home to America.. If I had money to travel, I'm not sure my parents could do much in the way to stop me.. I was planning on driving up to Canada this summer, but being as broke as I am, I'd only make it to Pennsylvania before my car would run empty.. If you have the money, go for it.. I know how hard parental pressure can be, I hope you can get around the pressure and have some fun.

You only have one life to live, don't let others control how you live that life unless "you" want them controlling it. No one has all the answers ether, you keep saying "she thinks" Well, what do you think?