How do I stop obsessing about my VOICE?

saa

Member
This is really embarrassing.

I noticed that, about three years ago, my voice was SO much higher than I thought it was. I became obsessed about that, and I tried finding ways to make it deeper. Now, it's deeper all right. In fact, whenever I hear myself on recording, I sound COMPLETELY drunk! I sound so thick and nasally, and low and guttural.

So in one way, things didn't work out the way I wanted them to. In another way, I guess I have something to be thankful for, because people keep talking about how soothing my voice is.

It's been about a week since my thoughts have lessened, so that's a first step. However, I want to get rid of my OCD thoughts about this situation completely, which is why I'm a new member on this forum. For some reason, whenever I tell myself that your voice is just a superficial part of yourself, that only works so well...It doesn't work completely. Over the past 3 years, I've faced all sorts of depression and suicidal thoughts, because I thought my voice was SO ugly that nobody wanted to communicate with me, and also because of the effects that my obsession had on my life.

How can I make it stop?
 
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Quietguy11

Well-known member
My voice sounds strange to me too whenever I talk but know this no one hears it the way you hear it in your own head. I know this because I actually asked my mom one time if my voice sounded off/weird/inarticulate, etc. and she said that I was very well spoken. So chances are your voice sounds a lot clearer than you think, it's just different hearing your own voice with your own brain.
 

Flanscho

Well-known member
My voice just sounds very quiet, even if I talk very loud. That's quite annoying, but it's just who I am, so I don't really care.
 

Saraswati

Active member
I have a pretty low voice for a female and I also did give it a lot of thought some time ago. I hated it, I thought it was ugly and that nobody would date a girl with a low voice.
Having recorded my voice and then listening to it gradually helped me learn to be okay with my voice. I don't mind it now, I simply don't care how I sound. In addition, I have had people tell me that they love my voice, including my boyfriend.

If people are saying to you that your voice is soothing.... why do you believe different?
There are going to be people who won't be impressed by your voice and there are going to be those that love it. It's a matter of taste. I bet your voice isnot nearly as bad as you think it is ^^
Maybe listening to recordings of yourself talking could make you get used to it, make you love the imperfections and discover the things you love about your voice. If still you don't like it, you can try and change it a bit until you are happy with the results.
 
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