How do you feel when people forget you

So i was reading michaellipz's b-day are the most depressing day of the year and it made rethink of my b-day that was exactly a week ago, the 25 ( surprisingly i didn't make a thread about it lol).

The day of b-day, I received text messages, email, msn, phone calls from different people telling me happy b-day. But, a girl that pretty much claimed she is my best friend since i met her 3 years ago and a girl that i know for 4 years and we actually call ourselves brother and sister, yet she forgot my b-day... for the third year in a row.

So everyday, since then, I can't stop thinking about it. Adding the fact that i'm a bit paranoid and tend to exaggerate things, it makes a rather angry me. I won't go in all details how i feel about it but I'm mad. I tried to contact both of them no answer from either one.

I never forget anyone's b-day, seriously i fell like changing my name to no one's priority ::

So how does any of you feel when people forget you?

My mother forgot my birthday all the time : /

In fact she told me my whole childhood that it was the 27th of the month when it's actually the 26th...people are just douches, what can you do.

I just wanted to comment on the birthday thing. A good friend of mine had their birthday a couple weeks ago and I totally forgot about it. Ironic: I was actually telling him a story about I had almost forgot someone else's birthday when he says "Yeah, my birthday was yesterday." Facepalm.

But forgetting a birthday isn't all that bad. Just because I forgot my friends birthday doesn't mean I don't care -- quite the contrary, I love him a lot. I just have a terrible memory (if it isn't on my iCal, I'll forget!).

So when people don't remember my birthday it's not a great feeling of course, but I don't think too much of it. My birthday is Dec 30th. People are all wrapped up in their own lives -- it's just after Christmas, close to new years -- so being forgotten is pretty typical!

But there have been times where being forgotten totally hurt. I remember once during highschool a bunch of my friends went out somewhere and didn't think to ask me -- that kind of thing sucks. Makes ya feel really inadequate.

I like it when people forget my birthday. I don't like attention being drawn to myself and I get embarrassed when people make a fuss over me.

I couldn't pick anything that was listed in the poll. It happens to me every year. This year, I didn't even get a card or anything from my dad & I don't understand that at all. My mom, who I live with, forgets my birthday every year. I just try to pretend that it doesn't bother me. I can't explain it. But in reality, it bothers me way too much, it makes me hurt & angry because I just don't understand how people who say they care about me can forget my birthday.

I never really expect people to remember. Me and my two housemates (my closest friends) forget each others' birthdays all the time, but we don't really care...Birthdays are quite overrated, IMO. If it was a parent (my dad has forgotten my birthdate frequently) or a close companion/spouse/gf/bf then I could understand the frustration.

I myself am a person who doesn't fuss about things like birthdays or holidays and don't see it as important to send out cards to people or text messages etc. Most of the time, when people do it they do it only because they think it's polite, not that it meant they cared so much about you. I don't mind when people "forget" my birthday or don't wish me for holidays etc. When I was a child, I used to get presents and flowers and a cake for birthday from my relatives, which was so nice. But now since I am old I don't get anything, maybe just a flower from the garden from my mum. People usually even don't know it's my birthday. For me it's just a regular day.

Sometimes coincidentally I remember people's birthday, when that happens, I just wish them happy birthday .

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It depends, like most people with sp I hate birthdays because of the overwhelming attention it can bring, but a small acknowledgement can be nice, if they were prone to forgetting details like that for everyone, it would still be upsetting but not as bad.

da_illest101 said:

So i was reading michaellipz's b-day are the most depressing day of the year and it made rethink of my b-day that was exactly a week ago, the 25 ( surprisingly i didn't make a thread about it lol).

The day of b-day, I received text messages, email, msn, phone calls from different people telling me happy b-day. But, a girl that pretty much claimed she is my best friend since i met her 3 years ago and a girl that i know for 4 years and we actually call ourselves brother and sister, yet she forgot my b-day... for the third year in a row.

So everyday, since then, I can't stop thinking about it. Adding the fact that i'm a bit paranoid and tend to exaggerate things, it makes a rather angry me. I won't go in all details how i feel about it but I'm mad. I tried to contact both of them no answer from either one.

I never forget anyone's b-day, seriously i fell like changing my name to no one's priority ::

So how does any of you feel when people forget you?

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Awww, i've been through this too. Although i dread my birthday and all the attention (but appreciate the people rememebering and wishing me a happy birthday), i still get upset if my closest friends forget my birthday. I have an absoloutly terrible memory at times, i really do, but i make sure i never forget there birthday by writing it down on my calender or putting a reminder on my phone. I also go out of my comfort zone and push myself to go shopping to get them something.

I have 5 close friends, one of them is like a sister to me and she went to thailand on sunday. My birthday was tuesday and she arranged for a card to be sent to my address on my birthday. I was so happy! it was so lovely of her. My other 4 close friends live right near me, i didn't get a card off them. :: Maybe i'm expecting too much of my friends, but surely a card isn't hard to send? Ah, think i'm being selfish. ::

Krista said:

My mother forgot my birthday all the time : /

In fact she told me my whole childhood that it was the 27th of the month when it's actually the 26th...people are just douches, what can you do.

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Krista that is just awful. :: Happy Un-birthday to you!!!!!!!!!!

da_illest101 said:

So i was reading michaellipz's b-day are the most depressing day of the year and it made rethink of my b-day that was exactly a week ago, the 25 ( surprisingly i didn't make a thread about it lol).

The day of b-day, I received text messages, email, msn, phone calls from different people telling me happy b-day. But, a girl that pretty much claimed she is my best friend since i met her 3 years ago and a girl that i know for 4 years and we actually call ourselves brother and sister, yet she forgot my b-day... for the third year in a row.

So everyday, since then, I can't stop thinking about it. Adding the fact that i'm a bit paranoid and tend to exaggerate things, it makes a rather angry me. I won't go in all details how i feel about it but I'm mad. I tried to contact both of them no answer from either one.

I never forget anyone's b-day, seriously i fell like changing my name to no one's priority ::

So how does any of you feel when people forget you?

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She doesn't sound like a very caring person. I would send an email to see if maybe it's just absentmindedness..... three years in a row.

When I turned 40 last year only a handful of people remembered my birthday. They were: my parents, my grandma and one friend. My sisters forgot. My closest friend forgot. None of my other friends who used to wish me happy birthday every year contacted me either. I thought, 40 years on this planet and that's the impact I've made? Even on a milestone birthday where others have giant parties thrown for them, no one cares about me. I felt so empty and alone. I wished I had never existed. A few weeks later I was driving home thinking about killing myself for the 497,305,104,371 time, and I thought why not just do it? What am I waiting for? So I decided to kill myself. Not literally kill myself, but kill the parts of myself that I don't like and aren't working for me. As of today I haven't finished the job, but I am still working on it. In fact, I think I need to make a list of the changes I want to make and start all over again.

I voted "Get Over It". It makes me sad...but I try not to let it bother me that much. We are all human and none of us are perfect. Plus, I have a really hard time remembering dates, so I try to give others the same grace I'd like to get when I forget an event.

im not that botherd by that to be honest , but i hate being ignored , id rather someone tell me to get lost than be ignored , at least i got an answer , if that makes any sence ...