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Old 05-15-2011  
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Default How do you ignore negative comments from people in the past or present? psychological

I wouldn't say i hear voices in the back of my head its more like everything I here from my sound like there saying he's retarded or he's weird. Do you think that an illness or chemical imbalance


I know I should ignore them but the thing is it easy said then done. I heard allot of negative , untrue comments. here's the thing when someone say some negative about me every one laugh and they share the lie with others basically spreading it. I don't say a word but I have social anxiety meaning I get really nervous when someone stares at me. people even older teachers starts rumors. as soon as I started defending myself then that when every one start calling me a bad person. look they torments the **** out of my reputation i mean lots of lies but when i ask them about it they straight up lie to my face say they never heard anything. I know they heard it because i seen them talking about it. those one turned on me when i decided to defend myself. When I went to job Corps I always had my MP3 player blasting in my ears because i didn't want to hear people voice. I mean just hearing someone voice talking **** kind triggers anger in my or cause me to be angry and want to fight with out thinking. I do have a little bit of a temper but not as much. I can take negative comments but just imagine you hear them at least 50 times a day or every time you see these people. your going to go off on them one day right. well that what happened they push me too far then I start fighting back. but the problem is that every one turn against me like they never seen that repeatedly slap in the face I was getting for so long. now when I hear just an curtain type of voice tone feel there trying to attack me. I wear my mp3 player now because I dont want to hear anyone voice anymore. but I know at the same time I have to talk to people if I want to bye something from the store.

I wouldn't say i hear voices in the back of my head its more like everything I here from my sound like there saying he's retarded or he's weird. Do you think that an illness or chemical imbalance

I type this kind of fast so it might make any sence
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Old 06-07-2011  
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Like a voice in your head always putting you down ?
It's so much easier to be negative than positive.
I still with negative thoughts in my head, feels like its someone in there telling you all these things to put you down.
You gota fight these feelings and turn them positive - im still yet to learn this tho
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Old 06-08-2011  
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If your teachers are behaving inappropriately then you should take it to the school principal, or tell your parents and ask them to speak to him or her. If the students are behaving inappropriately then you should take it to a teacher who does not behave inappropriately. If you are able to get on a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) course that may help you in general.

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Old 06-08-2011  
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Ignorating. Easy. Dont give power. Sometimes it is our own problem what does to think people are laughing of us
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Old 06-08-2011  
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I wouldn't say i hear voices in the back of my head its more like everything I here from my sound like there saying he's retarded or he's weird. Do you think that an illness or chemical imbalance
It could be a number of things or a combination.

It may possibly be part of a mental illness in that you are hearing what isn't there or hearing it wrongly - it would be worthwhile talking to your doc about it, just in case

It could be that you are misinterpreting what you're hearing and assuming its bad things about you - not part of an illness - your own negative thoughts will cloud your interpretation, so assume that they are NOT talking about you unless it is 100% clear that they are

It could be that people are actually saying negative things about you, if so then its important not to react as this would only make them say MORE stuff about you!
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I feel you... it happens to me quite often and it really sucks... i try to ignore comments coming from the people i don't know. it doesn't matter what they think about me - what they think of me doesn't define me, it's just their opinion. (i also try to convince myself that i cannot be 100% sure if they were talking about me). if i hear such things from the people i know, i try to check, if i was right and it often turns out that i misinterpreted what they said or that i heard a completely different thing... also, if i check and if i'm right i can defense myself - i can tell my side of the story, i can tell my opinion.. (if i check i feel kind of relieved...) do you have any idea, why do you have this symptoms? do you have any bad experience from your past with people - were you bullied, were people spreading rumors about you?
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