How do you make friends if you are shy? - Page 2

zlench · 04-06-2009, 07:18 PM

with great difficulty

Danfalc · 04-06-2009, 07:39 PM

ive always struggled to make friends,i get very lonley...but in a way sometimes i prefer being alone just because of how anxious it makes me being around people,or how it reminds me i dont fit in.

Put some people will give you a chance,I had one best friend...hes just been sent to prison tho which sucks

and he just accepted me totaly.It didnt happen over night and i had to force myself through alot of anxiety.But he seem to pick up i didnt like eye contact...so he didnt try to maintain it with me.If i wasnt being talkative he didnt try and force conversation out of me,but there was no akward silences.

Anyway im ranting..it is tough,but there are people out there who will accept us for who we are.

Noca · 04-06-2009, 08:42 PM

I make them off the internet on sites like this then meet them in real life afterward

It works for me.

Psychedelicious · 04-06-2009, 10:45 PM

Yup! You Don't. And if there is a way, I have got no fυcking idea how. It has nothing to do with avoiding either, it's just the way it is I guess.

Rise Against · 04-06-2009, 10:57 PM

Initiate conversations on facebook or myspace. Then once you get to know them a little its easyer to talk face to face.

Billy Nasty · 04-07-2009, 11:55 PM

I duno. when iam in contact with strangers and have a bit of a small talk it leads most of the time to nothing. sometimes i do meet people who i click with from the start and loose all my inhibitions in an instant. I think iam a complicated person and just like certain types of people.

Reiji Moritsugu · 04-08-2009, 12:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Psychedelicious

Yup! You Don't. And if there is a way, I have got no fυcking idea how.

This.

At least until we find the way, assuming there is one in the first place.

BlueTeaTree · 04-08-2009, 04:46 AM

I don't even try to, and I have many (at least for someone like..me/us?) freinds. Honest.

My now-best-friend approached me, and we talked about soemthing I didn't even remmeber, and we became friends. With the others, we simply are around each other. Like, say, K (shortened, I'm so clever). I met him by just being near him at lunch and in class. Eventually, we talked, and then (I forgot to stress this) AFTER A VERY LONG LONG LONG PERIOD OF SLOW, GLACIALLY SLOW, LIKE THE MOVING OF THE UNIVERSE FROM THE EPICENTER OF THE BIG BANG SLOW, we became friends.

So...I suggest being you, they shy you, anything, not that "Be yourself, and by that I mean be more social, dammit" stuff. It takes freaking forever, but it works.

CK23 · 04-30-2009, 07:04 PM

In my experience you just reach out as best as you can... it wont be easy but trying 'WILL' eventually make it easier... so next time, you step out into the world, try and make social contact.. say 'hi' to the people you meet... find out what they like to do... like 'How's it goin today Mike, or how was your weekend Tom'... that creates opprotunity for interaction... though, be prepared to be let down... most people are snobbish and plain rude... they would make you want to walk away by their negative attitude and if they do this the only option for you is to look somewhere else!

ds29 · 05-06-2009, 09:21 AM

How to make friends if your shy?

You talk to people..

What if you fear talking to people?

You become confident..

How do you become confident?

You fake it until you make it!

It's really easy once you get going.. Begin to look people in the eyes and give them a friendly smile. Start with giving 3 people you don't know a friendly smile and feel the sun inside you to begin shining =)