How do you meet people?

chris11

chris11

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Hey, I am, like most people on this website, largly a solitary creature. While I'm attending university, I try to converse with others, but I haven't really made any friends. Now, I'm on my summer break, and discovering that being alone is quite depressing at times. Thus, I ask the following question: how do you, as a student, meet other people while you are not attending university?
 
ありがとう

ありがとう

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I don't... I try to bear with the loneliness until I go back to University. I notice a lot of students have problems like this. If you wanted to make friends, you could volunteer, meet someone from the internet, join a club, find a job.. That's all I can think of.
 
Rufus

Rufus

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I meet people like everyone else -- in school, town etc.

Meeting people generally isn't the problem, for myself anyway, it's forming friendships that's the difficult bit. It's all fixable though. ;)
 
Steve23

Steve23

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Like has already been suggested, the workplace or volunteering are good places to start. Otherwise you could try joining instructional classes or clubs you are interested in. I recently started going to local meetups in my city via Do something, Learn something, Share something, Change something - Meetup.com. There are so many different kinds of groups to join and meet up with other people. Some are specific groups like hiking, running or photography while others are just groups for meeting others/talking and networking.
 
staticreflex

staticreflex

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Rufus said:
I meet people like everyone else -- in school, town etc.

Meeting people generally isn't the problem, for myself anyway, it's forming friendships that's the difficult bit. It's all fixable though. ;)
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ditto, i meet people at school and usually i know how to say hi and carry on an initialy conversation well, but after that I am at a loss
 
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IamThisOne

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Rufus said:
Meeting people generally isn't the problem, for myself anyway, it's forming friendships that's the difficult bit.
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I meet people at college. In most of my courses, I am with the same people each time. I can talk to them about school and stuff, and since the classes consist of a bunch of nerds like myself, we have roughly the same interests so it's not that hard. However, in my other classes (academic) I am too afraid to talk to anyone.

Although if I were to be asked to hangout outside of school my negative thoughts wouldn't let me. Thus, I do not form friendships with anyone. Everyone lives too far away from me anyway.
 
harlseq

harlseq

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How do you make online friends? I can't even seem to do that.

Anyway, to answer the question... a good idea might be to get a part-time job... or if you have pets take them out for walks in places where other people congregate.
 
agoraphobickatie

agoraphobickatie

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i don't know if i ever really meet new people? i mean.. i don't just go out to the bar and meet someone and become life long friends...

i mostly hang with the same group of friends, we've all hung out together since high school.. some of my friends bring around a few new people every now and then, but i don't usually 'get to know them' and become friends with them privately or anything..

as far as meeting guys, i don't really know how i do that either? friends of friends sometimes.. or they'll see we have 'friends in common' on facebook or something and message me... that happens a lot, but i've only ever 'gotten to know' a guy and hung out with them through that like.. twice?

i also am friends with random tv show people on facebook.. i've become decent friends with this guy from the tv show 'deadliest catch' and we talk online and on the phone and sh!t, ha... and i became friends with a UFC fighter, who came into town a few weeks ago and asked me to hang out but i was too nervous, so i told him i had other plans =/ dammit... lol
 
fitftw

fitftw

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^ dude you don't belong here. lol :p you're too popular!


On the internet anyway ;)

Chicken bawk bawk! Can't hang out with a UFC fighter psh, what's the matter with you ;)
 
Tiercel

Tiercel

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When I was in college I made several pitiful attempts at meeting people early on.

After that depression, anxiety, and extreme apathy kicked in, and I ended up alone. During spring and fall semesters I spent all my free time in my dorm room playing my guitar, and during the summer I spent all my free time dreading going back. Crap, I hated college.

Since then the only way I've "met" anyone is by joining this site. I post comments about other people, others post comments about me. I still haven't made any "good friends" here. At least none that feel that way to me. And I certainly haven't met anyone from here in real life. Considering the nature of this site, I'm sure any attempted meetups would end in lots of stress and everyone staying home.

I have plenty ideas on how to meet people, though. I just never get around to implementing them.

:rolleyes:
 
CosmicNeurotica

CosmicNeurotica

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I'm not a student. Nor have I ever been or probably never be.
I meet people when I get drunk and say hey hook me up with drugs.
Otherwise when I'm sober I just stay home and play video games, fantasizing about what I should have been.
Fun times.
 
lurknomore

lurknomore

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Rufus said:
I meet people like everyone else -- in school, town etc.

Meeting people generally isn't the problem, for myself anyway, it's forming friendships that's the difficult bit. It's all fixable though. ;)
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Same here- I "know" a lot of people through school and work, but actual friendships are elusive. I have had a few friends in my life, but none particularly close, and they just kind of "pushed" themselves on me- not that I didn't like them, but I probably wouldn't have made the effort without their being so insistent. I think I never learned, and still don't know how, to make friends on my own initiative.
 
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