I've quite recently cut contact with someone who i should never have gotten involved with. We had a sort of FWB type thing that ended up turning into an "affair", i suppose you could call it. He never actually told me he didn't want a relationship until after we slept together the first time so it ended up being a fwb (friends with benefits) thing even though that's not what i wanted.
We stopped sleeping together when he was no longer single but stayed in touch as friends, that's what he called it anyway, but he started flirting and eventually we ended up sleeping together. I know it's not an excuse but i had a lot of feelings for him, probably because he was the first guy i'd ever been with.
There's a lot more to this but it would be too long to write it all. This unhealthy "relationship" has been going on since 2010. Yes, three years. I finally told him last year that i was done and i couldn't do it anymore because he was with her. He asked if we could be friends in the future and i said that i'd have to think about it.
After that he removed me from Facebook and we didn't speak for about 6 or 7 months. He did contact me once during that time via Facebook. He inboxed me and asked if i wanted to meet but i said no. Christmas day came around and he text me at 5am , which i thought was strange, saying merry christmas and some other stupid thing that i can't remember. I just wished him a happy christmas and didn't say anything else. He text me again on new years eve with a flirty text and calling me "cutie" which i ignored. A month or so i yet again get another text asking if i'd like to meet for a drink which i didn't respond to.
His last text was just over a month ago so i'm hoping that he's maybe thought that texting me isn't such a good idea. He's getting married quite soon, i don't know when but i do know that mutual friends are going. This has become a really bad obsession of mine. I keep checking friends Facebook profiles for info about it even though i though that it's going to really, really hurt me.
I can't stop obsessing about the girl he's marrying and what she's got that i haven't. I know what i'm doing is unhealthy and i'm only hurting myself but i really don't know how to stop. If i see any wedding pictures in the future i think this depression that i'm feeling will destroy me.
We stopped sleeping together when he was no longer single but stayed in touch as friends, that's what he called it anyway, but he started flirting and eventually we ended up sleeping together. I know it's not an excuse but i had a lot of feelings for him, probably because he was the first guy i'd ever been with.
There's a lot more to this but it would be too long to write it all. This unhealthy "relationship" has been going on since 2010. Yes, three years. I finally told him last year that i was done and i couldn't do it anymore because he was with her. He asked if we could be friends in the future and i said that i'd have to think about it.
After that he removed me from Facebook and we didn't speak for about 6 or 7 months. He did contact me once during that time via Facebook. He inboxed me and asked if i wanted to meet but i said no. Christmas day came around and he text me at 5am , which i thought was strange, saying merry christmas and some other stupid thing that i can't remember. I just wished him a happy christmas and didn't say anything else. He text me again on new years eve with a flirty text and calling me "cutie" which i ignored. A month or so i yet again get another text asking if i'd like to meet for a drink which i didn't respond to.
His last text was just over a month ago so i'm hoping that he's maybe thought that texting me isn't such a good idea. He's getting married quite soon, i don't know when but i do know that mutual friends are going. This has become a really bad obsession of mine. I keep checking friends Facebook profiles for info about it even though i though that it's going to really, really hurt me.
I can't stop obsessing about the girl he's marrying and what she's got that i haven't. I know what i'm doing is unhealthy and i'm only hurting myself but i really don't know how to stop. If i see any wedding pictures in the future i think this depression that i'm feeling will destroy me.
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