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Old 04-08-2011  
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What about online work? Also, freelance jobs. Online classes. What do you like doing? There's always a way. I believe you can find something and there's hope. I've had the worse time of my life trying to go through school and I've worked here and there but no more than 6 months on a job. It's hard. Very hard.
Writing has a lot of pros, one of them is being able to freelance and work from home.
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I receive money from the government.
People may give you crap about it, but it's no joke.
If I could function in society I would.

I hope you never end up like me though. Because while I may get money to support myself, I still am forced to live at home with agoraphobia and no car. I can barely walk outside my house out of fear the neighbors are watching and judging me.

I wouldn't worry about fitting in. That's the least of what you should worry about.
You are very unique and attractive.
Unfortunately I wish to say I could give you advice from the other side, having beaten SA and having come out from the other side, but you'll just have to live with the perspective only I can give you.
If you want to talk, I'm always here. Message me anytime.
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I receive money from the government.
People may give you crap about it, but it's no joke.
If I could function in society I would.

I hope you never end up like me though. Because while I may get money to support myself, I still am forced to live at home with agoraphobia and no car. I can barely walk outside my house out of fear the neighbors are watching and judging me.

I wouldn't worry about fitting in. That's the least of what you should worry about.
You are very unique and attractive.
Unfortunately I wish to say I could give you advice from the other side, having beaten SA and having come out from the other side, but you'll just have to live with the perspective only I can give you.
If you want to talk, I'm always here. Message me anytime.


It's a fear that I have that I may wind up stuck in the house. I have tendencies when I rather stay here and not be around people. That's why work and school was always the struggle. I do push myself. I thank my mom for the support and push. But...I'm running on E and want to give up already. I find excuses not to go into work. I hate it. The best internship is wasted on me because I'm too scared to the point I can't even function at work.
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Yeah, I've been through it all before.
I had a job once. I couldn't do it. I cant function in front of others. I made excuses not to go to work. Go to school. I even made excuses not to have fun and go to a party.
I can't be myself when I'm around others, and knowing that makes me just give up.
I'd rather be alone knowing who I am than to be around others and be fake.
It's a tough situation.
For your sake, I hope you can fight through it.
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I'm pretty much in the same boat. I hear so much about online work and such, but it's always a disappointment. It just looks like we'll have to bite the bullet and hope to God that we can take it.
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Aside from feeling depressed, anxious and sad, Iīm having trouble supporting myself. Iīm actually scared that one day I will be completely poor and homeless, cause I donīt fit in anywhere.
I have a difficult time finding a job that I can manage. Iīm only able to do jobs where I can be pretty much alone. But I havenīt been able to find such a job for more than 9 months now, so therefore Iīm on the welfare/benefits. Soon I will probably have to attend a course/class or something work-related, in order to keep receiving money. Iīm so scared of being forced to do something thatīs too challenging.
I'm in the same boat too: I never worked at the same place more than 9 months besides this part time job I had for 2 years while studying (my supervisor lived in another city and I didn't really have to deal with anyone else....). I have no idea if I will get a long-term job one day, but I didn't give up yet and I suggest you do the same. Don't be scared of challenge, you can do a lot more than you think.


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I always tried to change my situation and force myself to do the things that scared me to death without any help & just stressed myself and had really bad bouts of depression. Its not a good idea to try to achieve what you cant right now and ruin your health. You have to take small steps so that you can reach your goal into finding that perfect job for you. It can be hard and depressing but to keep being positive;meet people you like and do things that you enjoy doing and that has to motivate you a bit. Keep a routine where you wake up early in the morning and do something to help you moving forward. You have to believe that you can make it and for now just find a job that will support you and wont stress you out instead of going to that class. Like pet sitting, babysitting or cleaning lady; theres so many job positions where you can be alone. Try to ask people about about vacancies and post an add somewhere. Meanwhile ask for help from people from your entourage. tell people about your situation; you never know when someone might actually reach out to you and really help out. Seek some therapy. Read literature. Go to church ( by the way in my church people raise money for those in need). one you day you will finally be able to work and study and do all those things you were scared of before. It takes time , so instead of stressing about it , enjoy the time you have right now before reaching your goal and find solutions. Search for them , dont stop!
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Well I got lucky with my job, I'm a salesman. (which you think would be completely worse job for someone with SA, but it's not so bad). Basically I sell beds at a storage unit thru craiglist for some guy in Austin. Reason I like this job is that screwing up is A-OK, and expected, if anything the job has helped my SA. But I was in the same boat before, couldnt work with anyone, period. So now it's me and some old guy i rarely see, and I just do my own thing as long as no one sales suffer. It's not constant money like a real job, I get commission, but the hours are nice (whenever the **** I wanna work), I can go to work inebriated and no one cares, and I can keep my piercings. Look for what I call "under the table" jobs where they pay you cash or they don't care how you perform too much;
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Actually I was a salesman selling suits in a department store. I was good at it. It helped me too. A virtuous circle (the opposite of a vicious circle) seemed to be created. A Myers-Briggs test later showed that I have the underlying aptitude for sales. If you have an inherent aptitude, it is still there, so sometimes trying something apparently counter-intuitive can work.

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Hi, this is my first post. I work from home as a freelance writer. It's not well paid and i'm not very good at it but it's something!

The company just gave me my affiliate link and i was going to post it here but i thought it might look a little spammy. Can i put an affiliate link in this forum?

Anyway it's free and easy to join, just a little English test that takes about 2 min. They reply the next day(i think) and then you can start. It is not like other freelancing sites where you have to bid on jobs. You just go to the job board and select the project you would like to write.

I have been writing for them for about 2 years and find them to be very reasonable people. They always pay on time(every week by paypal) and someone is always available to help if you need it.

The pay is LOW but if you are anything like me then you probably have A LOT of spare time!

Could someone let me know about posting the link?
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^^ Remus is probably the best person to ask about this. If you send him a private message (PM) he will let you know.

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I hate salespeople. More than that, I hate recruiters trying to get me into a job I don't want / can't do - to get their own commission.

I didn't say "no" to Microsoft, who had a role to sell their SQL Server to anybody else who don't have a database, or use something else, such as ORACLE.

I like trying anything new. I could be a milestone for me. As usual, the verdict on me in interview... although, even more as usual... I never got it. Never heard back. I prefer 'no' to <no comment>

It always ends with me hearing nothing back. I've learnt not to chase for an answer. Just accept it.

The worst thing for anyone to do is to get someone to buy something they don't want - insurance, deals on sofas.... anything.. and offering jobs to people is pretty similar; all to do with commission.

It's people full of charisma, ego and confidence, selling any product or service, when they have no idea what it is, how it works, or how it was conceived.

The only people selling something should be those who made it. My main worry is having to say 'yes, yes, yes, yes, yes' to someone on the phone to get me to work for someone who employs them to do the selling, and make sure they filter out any losers, so I don't get a job. Speaking to the person who'd be my boss is who I need to meet. We're on the same level

That's why I liked the Microsoft job - selling something I've used throughout my career.
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i worked at taco bell straight out of high school, now i'm at a drug store... a barely noticeable improvement, but i was s***ing bricks for a while cause i didn't think i'd land the drug store job and that i'd be jobless and get nag-raped by parents and lol'ed on by relatives and friends for being a bum. i actually pinpointed this drug store job cause it looked easy and there was a certain position i knew the rest of the employees abhored but knew i could do easily (scooping ice cream, yay). now tensions are getting high, people are getting fired left and right, policies are changing and i'm beginning to feel like i may get hacked next. and i have absolutely no back up plan.

i can't even imagine myself doing anything better than cashiering and repeating the same monotone phrase mindlessly over and over again "hello, thank you, have a good evening." everyone i know is a bar tender, waiter or nurse or something and they're just rolling in so much dough it's not even funny. i've thought a lot about being a waiter, but it requires immense social skills, and it's very stressful.

try a fast food job, surely it's like the lowest rung of the job ladder. but i've worked with those people, even with all the phobias it's really easy to shine over other employees there. I've seriously worked with mentally handicapped and severly crippled people who could barely wipe tables down for three hours out of the day.
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