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Old 05-21-2011
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Hi just curious to know have many people here live alone and how do you cope?Sometimes when i tell people that i live alone i get strange looks(well i think i do)like its so unusual.I suffer from SA and depression,so i guess i live alone because of the SA,though i think there are times when it is just making my depression worse.Mainly after a hard day at work and when you get home there is just no one there to talk to.Though on other days i couldn't even imagine sharing my place with someone else.It's kind of a vicious cycle between SA and depression i guess?Hope all this makes sense i'm really tired
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Old 05-21-2011
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I've lived alone for so many years, I am used to it.
I have only lived with one person once, but it was such a bad experience it has made me very grateful to live alone for the rest of my life.
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Old 05-21-2011
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I live alone, and have done so for about 20 years. I can't imagine living with another person, it makes me feel uncomfortable just thinking about it. I don't mind the way I live. In fact I think it would be good to go even further and live and work by myself.
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Old 05-21-2011
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I live alone..well with 2 dogs also. I have had houses/apartments with ex gfs and, after those experiences, decided it would be best to live alone until I could find a woman that wasn't too psychotic to marry and have kiddos with. Wish someone would have told me that would have been harder to find than Jesus...
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Old 05-21-2011
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I live alone..well with 2 dogs also. I have had houses/apartments with ex gfs and, after those experiences, decided it would be best to live alone until I could find a woman that wasn't too psychotic to marry and have kiddos with. Wish someone would have told me that would have been harder to find than Jesus...
Yeah.I hear you
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Old 05-22-2011
 

I plan on living alone and getting out of the stupid town I'm living in now in a year. I'm pretty excited to tell you the truth.
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Old 05-22-2011
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I live alone. Sometimes I like it, sometimes I wish for something else.
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Old 05-22-2011
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I live alone

unless you count the spiders

and the woodpecker

and whatever it is that I hear thumping and rustling under the floor
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Old 05-22-2011
 

I do as well. I like it a lot and I doubt I could go back to living with another person.
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Old 05-22-2011
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I live alone too, since some years, and that's really the best option for me. I've lived with people before and I never felt like I could recharge from socializing since you're always stuck with people around. When the day is done, I really need to be able to control if I see people or if I don't. But I think it mainly depends at which level you need people - some people likes to be alone as much as possible, and some others need people to talk to, when they come back from work, when they're bored, etc (like it seems to be your case?). I've known people who loves living with roomates because you always have some friends around (if you get along), and I've known people who loves the peace of an empty place.

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Sometimes when i tell people that i live alone i get strange looks (well i think i do) like its so unusual.
I've never been considered weird because I live alone, in fact most people I know who are not in couple lives alone or wish they would... I really wonder what kind of people would find that unusual?
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Old 05-22-2011
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I've been living along for about 6 months now. Though not for too much longer, I'll be moving out once I graduate. Well, soon after anyway. I've definitely liked living alone, and I would do it again though.
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Old 05-22-2011
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i live alone and LOVE IT. you don't have to deal with anyone's bullsh*t.
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Old 05-22-2011
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I live alone too, since some years, and that's really the best option for me. I've lived with people before and I never felt like I could recharge from socializing since you're always stuck with people around. When the day is done, I really need to be able to control if I see people or if I don't. But I think it mainly depends at which level you need people - some people likes to be alone as much as possible, and some others need people to talk to, when they come back from work, when they're bored, etc (like it seems to be your case?). I've known people who loves living with roomates because you always have some friends around (if you get along), and I've known people who loves the peace of an empty place.
YES. I went to a boarding school for high school, and let me tell you....... it's hell for the socially anxious. Seriously. You never get a break. You go to school with everyone you want to stay away from, and then you get to go home to.... goodness..... THOSE SAME PEOPLE! Or a portion of them anyway. It seriously sucks major.... um, marbles. I could never get a break.

And then I was accused of hiding in my room. One girl, after she was done telling me something, said, "Okay, you can go back to hiding in your room now." >:(

And then at one point my caretakers (official name was houseparents) banned me from going to my room before bedtime to get me to interact more :(

It was sort of a good thing because it helped me to open up more, but the process was slow and painful, and I was ALWAYS on edge. Well, of course I would be, being surrounded by my peers :(
 
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And then at one point my caretakers (official name was houseparents) banned me from going to my room before bedtime to get me to interact more :(

It was sort of a good thing because it helped me to open up more, but the process was slow and painful, and I was ALWAYS on edge. Well, of course I would be, being surrounded by my peers :(
Lol that really sounds like torture to me, but as you say it was probably a good thing for you in the end... I know what you mean though, I've been there before and I lasted about 3 months :/
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Old 05-22-2011
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every family member in our home, lives alone in our home.

but we chit-chat sometimes. i don't know if is that counts...
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Old 05-22-2011
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I live alone since November 2010. It's pretty boring and quiet were I live, also my house is too big for me. I wanted to live in a small apartment, cuz that would be more cozy and less expensive. Especially now I feel very lonely here, cuz I don't have a job now. Usually I will go outside to look for a job or to hang out somewhere, otherwise I'll become crazy.
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Old 05-22-2011
 

I've lived alone for nearly 16 years. Other than when I lived with my parents before I left home, I've never lived with anyone else. I think I would really struggle to live with someone else now after all this time. I love my independence
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Old 05-26-2011
 

I'm 21 and I've been living alone for 2 and a half years now. I'm still not used to it. I cry a lot and when I go visit my parents I feel very very very depressed when I gotta come back. I lived with a friend last year, but I just didn't feel confortable. She knew about my problem and she has some issues too but I don't know...it was not good. So she moved to another friend's. Her friend now is so different from me, she's cool, and always happy. I feel jealous and sad even though I'm relieved I don't have to live with my friend anymore. I don't make much sense, do I?
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Old 05-26-2011
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I'm 21 and I've been living alone for 2 and a half years now. I'm still not used to it. I cry a lot and when I go visit my parents I feel very very very depressed when I gotta come back. I lived with a friend last year, but I just didn't feel confortable. She knew about my problem and she has some issues too but I don't know...it was not good. So she moved to another friend's. Her friend now is so different from me, she's cool, and always happy. I feel jealous and sad even though I'm relieved I don't have to live with my friend anymore. I don't make much sense, do I?
Yeah.That makes sense,to me anyway,but i'm pretty screwed up
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Old 05-26-2011
 

I don't live alone, in asian culture we usually don't, we live with family till we get married. I would love to live alone though, and think I would manage it quite well. Its just with my current income, I can only rent a room and not the entire place, and I imagine living with strangers would make me quite uncomfortable and uneasy.
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