How "normal" people deal with Anxiety vs how we ne

LittleMissMuffet

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I wanted to ask this question, since it is my theory that the problem with us is that we actually treat and deal with anxiety the same way that anybody else deals with it.

I think that most people deal with anxiety by blocking it out, fighting it, resisting it. And I think that for us this same perception of anxiety -or shyness, timidity - is actually why anxiety has become a problem. That for us, this outlook has made shyness and anxiety look and seem like a monster -ie: extreme shyness and an anxiety disorder.

And I think that what CBT and similar therapies are all about us -the socially anxious- completely altering how we look at and deal with anxiety.

Basically, whilst the rest of the population gets away with 'blocking out' anxiety (in a sense, this means that shynes and anxiety are seen as lesser or more 'bad' to some extent) -for us we are required to break anxiety (or shyness etc) into what is 'good' as well as 'bad'.

...whether this is by distracting our mind off of what it is fixating on and fearing intensely, so as to 'centre it'; and/or through CBT, which is all about changing our perception so that we do not demonize anxiety -ie: we 'break it down' into its 'good' as well as 'bad' parts.

I think that with a little close inspection: all the above is self-evident.
And the reason why I mention these ideas -facts really- is to aid in our ability to lower shame about being nervous and anxious. ...That enabling ourselves to see where we fit in with others -seeing just how close to 'normal' being 'abnormal' invariably is (as in: we are so close and yet so far) ....that all of this can actually help us to "normalise" our difference.

It doesn't take a wizz to see that believing that we are abnormal is the definition of our abnormality.

....what more do I really need to say...???
 
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