How often do you guys send text messages to your significant other?

Hey guys. So I have been matched up with a girl whom is my mother's friend's niece.

She is a very nice girl, and we have a lot of common interests.

We have been dating for about 3 1/2 months as of today. We also went out last week Wednesday night because it was my birthday the following day, and also went to watch movies together.

I know this is not a dating website, but when you guys were in a relationship, how often did you send text messages to your girlfriend (or vice versa, BF)?

I really like my GF. It's just that I hardly send her text messages in between the times we meet up.

I want to send her text messages like "how are you doing?" "How was work today?"

But after a while, doesn't this get quite boring?

I don't want to sound like a BF who will bore my GF with the same messages. Yet, I want to show her that I am checking up on her.
 

Spectre

Active member
Well, I think it depends on the girl.
Anyways, asking her how was her day is not boring. What IS boring is that you just ask her that and anything else until the next day :bigsmile: In other words, I think that phrase is just a "tool" for starting an interesting conversation :thumbup:

Anyways, only you know your girlfriend and what makes her happy :idontknow:
 

Metal_isthe_Answer

Well-known member
If I ever actually got a ladys number, I would be wondering when I should call her, how soon is too soon, how late is too late etc..
Good thing I don't expect to ever have to deal with it
 

MotherWolff

Banned
Hey guys. So I have been matched up with a girl whom is my mother's friend's niece.

She is a very nice girl, and we have a lot of common interests.

We have been dating for about 3 1/2 months as of today. We also went out last week Wednesday night because it was my birthday the following day, and also went to watch movies together.

I know this is not a dating website, but when you guys were in a relationship, how often did you send text messages to your girlfriend (or vice versa, BF)?

I really like my GF. It's just that I hardly send her text messages in between the times we meet up.

I want to send her text messages like "how are you doing?" "How was work today?"

But after a while, doesn't this get quite boring?

I don't want to sound like a BF who will bore my GF with the same messages. Yet, I want to show her that I am checking up on her.

I honestly get annoyed by constant texts even after I have not responded to the person in hours because I am busy.

I would give her a chance to breathe and respond back to you.

Incessant texts are a MAJOR turn off for most females, I think.
 
Hey fellow SPW brothers and sisters. Thank you for the feedback on the frequency of sending my significant other, text messages.

I currently send her text messages, asking her how her day was, or sending her a text message in the morning, noting how nice and sunny it is outside.

I then get a response from her after she's done work for the day. Or when she's on lunch break.

I have been doing this for the last two weeks!

The problem and burning question though, is,...isn't she also supposed to initiate sending me text messages too?

Because to me, if I am the only one sending her text messages, asking her how her day was, etc, then it makes me look "clingy." No?

Valentine's Day is coming up.

I asked one of my friends the same question I asked you guys about sending text messages to my girlfriend.

He told me to stop sending her text messages, and see if she sends me a text message. If she does not send me anything, then my friend said to just wait and see what happens. (although I get a vibe that he's jealous that I'm in a relationship, because he broke up with his ex-GF five months ago, and he's still looking for a GF).
 

Megaten

Well-known member
I think the safest thing to do would be to just ask her yourself. Randomly changing your behavior out of the blue might be alarming to her though.
 

Panhead901

Member
Me and my boyfriend probably text 3-5 messages a day, but we live together so we're together most of the time. We would text nonstop before we lived together, but we were long distance then so that affected it also. It generally will vary person to person though so you should probably just ask her how she feels about it.
 
I think the safest thing to do would be to just ask her yourself. Randomly changing your behavior out of the blue might be alarming to her though.

Yeah, but eh, I just send her text messages every other day. I think she's fine with that.

However, what kind of bugs me, is that she never initiates any text messages sent to me.

It's always me sending her a text message such as "oh, so how was your day," or "how did your week go?"
 
Me and my boyfriend probably text 3-5 messages a day, but we live together so we're together most of the time. We would text nonstop before we lived together, but we were long distance then so that affected it also. It generally will vary person to person though so you should probably just ask her how she feels about it.

Dayum! That's a lot, 3-5x's a day??!! Well, I am glad to hear that your relationship with you BF sounds nice and strong.

For me, I send text messages to my GF either twice a week, or one every other day.

She's more on the "shy" side, as that's her personality.

Unlike you, we live separately, and she has just purchased her own apartment. However, we have been only dating for the last five months, so moving into her new apartment is premature.

Rather, I would try to ask to spend the weekend over at her apartment.

But we'll see how this relationship pans out.

Just tonight, she told me that she was having dinner with her friends.

Hopefully, they weren't male friends. Nah, just joking! :giggle:
 

Corrs63

Active member
I send text messages everyday to my gf. Good morning message, how are you doing, how did it go, something like those. And I send those just to start the convo, not them alone.
 

sonia

Member
You can send her sweet nothings , most girls love it unless she is the lioness fiercely independent no nonsense kind of girl (Quite honestly I have a feeling even they secretly like it )... Besides no one ever gets bored of listening to "I Love you " or "I like you"
 

Megaten

Well-known member
Yeah, but eh, I just send her text messages every other day. I think she's fine with that.

However, what kind of bugs me, is that she never initiates any text messages sent to me.

It's always me sending her a text message such as "oh, so how was your day," or "how did your week go?"

Thats why I think it's best to just ask. Me and my gf have whole conversations through text or Ill send her something I found funny. If she wants to be left alone though she'll tell me. But we talked about it because I was having the same concern. The woman I dated before her got angry with me for texting too much.

Also she may not text you first because shes already gotten accustomed to you taking the initiative with that.
 

Shant

Well-known member
I think conventions are different considering we're both women, but I send her instant messages all the time; usually no longer than an hour apart (unless I'm at practice, taking an exam, etc...). Then again, we're kind of obsessed with each other and reaching our first year anniversary, and we generally Skype all the time when she's away, spending every night we can together, even if two states away.

But no, I turn into a chatterbox around her and no one else; We could be talking about games, butterflies, television, work, art, music, all sorts of things, I just love talking to her about things since we have a lot in common.

Must be really different conventions, I never had a normal relationship.
 

ONline87_15793

Well-known member
Hey guys. So I have been matched up with a girl whom is my mother's friend's niece.

She is a very nice girl, and we have a lot of common interests.

We have been dating for about 3 1/2 months as of today. We also went out last week Wednesday night because it was my birthday the following day, and also went to watch movies together.

I know this is not a dating website, but when you guys were in a relationship, how often did you send text messages to your girlfriend (or vice versa, BF)?

I really like my GF. It's just that I hardly send her text messages in between the times we meet up.

I want to send her text messages like "how are you doing?" "How was work today?"

But after a while, doesn't this get quite boring?

I don't want to sound like a BF who will bore my GF with the same messages. Yet, I want to show her that I am checking up on her.

when you have a girlfriend you need to left the necessary time for the other person. don't you have an interest of somenthing else important in your life? your gf is the only thing that matter in your life? i don't think so. Take your space and your balance.
 

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
My ex and I used to txt each other about ten times a day. Usually just about arranging stuff etc.
I think Spectre is right on the money though. Depends on the girl. Some love the attention, others here have stated they really don't like it at all.

Everyone is different.

Sending a txt asking her how her day was shows you care. You're showing an interest.
Ask the same thing day in day out and yes, it'll get boring . But it is a good ice breaker.
 

Merel

Well-known member
The communication needs will vary for every relationship, so ask what your requirements/needs are for your partner.

I am lax about communication by phone. I usually like a few brief exchanges of text messages daily from someone I'm in a serious relationship with, and less than that if we are living together as we see each other anyway. If I'm dating a person, contact every few days is just right. I dated someone a couple summers ago who insisted we talk on the phone for an hour or two daily after I got out from work (he lived an hour away), and wanted to text me during lunch hour. The pace he was setting for the relationship and his communication expectations were too much for me.
 

Phoenixx

Well-known member
When my boyfriend and I first starting talking, we would usually exchange a few texts in the morning, and then text each other back and forth frequently in the evening (since he worked). Once we started dating we would constantly text each other.

Now that we live together we only text a couple times a day. Mostly him checking up on me, or vice versa. See how our day is going.
 
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