LazyHermitCrab
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My boyfriend for instance meets friends like 2-3 times a week. Maybe that's more than average? I meet a friend like once a month. It makes me feel pretty unsociable. Is that weird? :sad:
how often do you hang out with friends?
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I don't really know what "average" is. For me, I basically don't at all. I don't have any friends at this point. I don't think it's weird for someone with anxiety to rarely hang out with friends, it's pretty common. Even beyond that some people just prefer to be alone most of the time, nothing wrong with that. I do wish I had the ability to make friends, but I don't even know anymore.
I don't really know what "average" is. For me, I basically don't at all. I don't have any friends at this point. I don't think it's weird for someone with anxiety to rarely hang out with friends, it's pretty common. Even beyond that some people just prefer to be alone most of the time, nothing wrong with that. I do wish I had the ability to make friends, but I don't even know anymore.
LazyHermitCrab
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Two or three times a week doesn't seem like a lot, but I suppose it does depend on how many friends he has. The more friends he has, the more likely he will go out more often.
Really I thought that was a lot? Haha.
LazyHermitCrab
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DepravedFurball
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I've got a single friend that I meet up with one night a week... when we can. We've gone a good two months with conflicting schedules before sitting down for a good night of laughs...
But, yah, I don't think I'd be able to work up the nerve to go out more than I am now. Still... for 'regular' people, they've got no barriers preventing them from going out and having a great time... so they probably don't even give a second thought as to whether it's 'a lot', a 'normal' amount, or 'pretty low'... it's just us who do that. >.<
But, yah, I don't think I'd be able to work up the nerve to go out more than I am now. Still... for 'regular' people, they've got no barriers preventing them from going out and having a great time... so they probably don't even give a second thought as to whether it's 'a lot', a 'normal' amount, or 'pretty low'... it's just us who do that. >.<
singing-love
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I don't think there really is an average when it comes to being with friends, each individual is different, so you pretty much set your own standard in my opinion anyway. Personally i generally socialize with a friend or friends most days actually. Probably too much some times, but it works for me .
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LoyalXenite
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I've pretty much been ignored and ditched by my "friends" . I havent seen or heard from them since I gave them their xmas gifts last year. So its a never hang out with them anymore.
Last time I met up with someone I know, as in a social situation, was ... umm.... about 5 months ago, and it was kind of forced on me (he turned up).
If I had to so******e every month Id go insane. Once every 5-6 months is average for me, and its usually not really choice.
Sometimes I dont see any people (other than on TV), for several weeks at a time.
I definitely dont have a boyfriend - thats so******ing too!
If I had to so******e every month Id go insane. Once every 5-6 months is average for me, and its usually not really choice.
Sometimes I dont see any people (other than on TV), for several weeks at a time.
I definitely dont have a boyfriend - thats so******ing too!
Livemylife
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I have no friends so by default I spend 0 time hanging out. Two years or so ago when I had friends I hung out with them about 1-2 times a week. I've never been social except when I was really young. Around age 6 I'd play outside with friends several times a week.
From what I can tell, social people hang out with their friends most days of the week. They study together, go to class together, eat lunch together. I've seen people eat breakfast together and can't help but wonder if they plan breakfast dates or something.
From what I can tell, social people hang out with their friends most days of the week. They study together, go to class together, eat lunch together. I've seen people eat breakfast together and can't help but wonder if they plan breakfast dates or something.
awkwardamanda
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I'm lucky if I get out 2 or 3 times a year. I have a couple of distant friends and one lives in another province now.
Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
I don't think you should worry about what is normal and what is not - especially socially-wise.
If hanging out with friends once every 2 months feels enough for you, why wouldn't it be ok? While someone else could need to hang out with someone every night because they are bored when alone. Some might not need to hang out at all.
I personnally think hanging out just to hang out, like "let's hang out at my place" kind of hang out, is the most boring activity ever.
If hanging out with friends once every 2 months feels enough for you, why wouldn't it be ok? While someone else could need to hang out with someone every night because they are bored when alone. Some might not need to hang out at all.
I personnally think hanging out just to hang out, like "let's hang out at my place" kind of hang out, is the most boring activity ever.
EntenEller
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I usually end up socializing about once per week. My one friend usually comes around and we watch NHL games on Friday/Saturday nights. That's about it. If I have band practice or a show that week, we usually have a practice the day before the show, so I socialize more during those weeks. Twice per week is about my max--I like my recharge time to myself.
I agree with Pacific_Loner, though. Hanging out just to "hang out" is pretty boring. Watch some YouTube videos, and... yawn.
I agree with Pacific_Loner, though. Hanging out just to "hang out" is pretty boring. Watch some YouTube videos, and... yawn.
WeirdyMcGee
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Friend?
I see her a couple times a year. :3
The rest of the year, it's just me and my kitty.
I see her a couple times a year. :3
The rest of the year, it's just me and my kitty.
FountainandFairfax
in a VAN down by the RIVER
Rarely.
I'll get a call from an old high school friend whenever he blows through town, but that's about it.
Well, the nights are cold and the winter's bare,
no one to hold and nobody to share
so my love, like dreams at sunrise,
fades like whispers in the din of time...
That last part was supposed to sound like a Meatloaf song.
I'll get a call from an old high school friend whenever he blows through town, but that's about it.
Well, the nights are cold and the winter's bare,
no one to hold and nobody to share
so my love, like dreams at sunrise,
fades like whispers in the din of time...
That last part was supposed to sound like a Meatloaf song.
theoutsider
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I don't meet up with anybody. Sad, whenever I think about it. But when somebody does offer to hang out, I come up with an excuse not to.
I'm Not There
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There are four people that I would consider to be my friends.
Two I met on this site. Even though we mostly talk through skype and text messaging, we have met up in real life a couple of times.
One is a girl who was in my class in college and used to have a crush on me. Now we're both studying in different cities, so we only meet up once or twice a year. I like her a lot and I suppose we could meet up more often, but somehow it always seems like such an ordeal to me to contact her, set up a date and then have to go through the entire date.
The fourth one is a girl I met on OkCupid half a year ago. Even though we have an 88% match and have quite a lot in common, she says she isn't ready yet to be in a relationship or even meet up in real life because of personal issues. It is pretty weird that we're living in the same city and only talk through texting. We do text each other several times a week, so I would certainly consider her a friend.
Two I met on this site. Even though we mostly talk through skype and text messaging, we have met up in real life a couple of times.
One is a girl who was in my class in college and used to have a crush on me. Now we're both studying in different cities, so we only meet up once or twice a year. I like her a lot and I suppose we could meet up more often, but somehow it always seems like such an ordeal to me to contact her, set up a date and then have to go through the entire date.
The fourth one is a girl I met on OkCupid half a year ago. Even though we have an 88% match and have quite a lot in common, she says she isn't ready yet to be in a relationship or even meet up in real life because of personal issues. It is pretty weird that we're living in the same city and only talk through texting. We do text each other several times a week, so I would certainly consider her a friend.