He says he is cruising at the moment and when he decides to really make a change, he will.
But I really just at this point going to concentrate on my own independence as I've neglected that and see how I go. If he cannot keep up down the track, then it will show I guess.
And the good news is that I am speaking up and telling him these things and he is listening. I don't like to have to change people - its wrong- but I'm just gonna go with the flow. Whatever happens, happens - but I am gonna live through my values and show them in my life. I kind of has been anyway - esp when it comes to smoke.
I'm so much happier when I'm in my own world. I've just been in his for a long time now with no respite, no real time for myself. So I'm upping that-