How to help and cope with someone with social anxiety

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juaener

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I have been considering posting my pic lately, cos I took my other picture down when I was feeling insecure, I guess this is a good opportunity to be brave :? . It looks a bit squished cos I had to resize it in paint cos I don't have a better photo editor program on this computer.
 
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hidingfromtheworld

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Not to be rude ,but, you are so not obligated to endure something that is causing you anxiety. I know that you love your boyfreind or you would nt be here,but, you have to also realize that this could be the way he is going to be his entire life. Can you handle that? I can so relate to his feelings as well and know that its very difficult. I think you must have an active program to help ease his tension. Break him in slowly. Maybe once a week you get him to commit to one outing,,maybe a picnic where there are nt alot of people,maybe a walk where the crowd is not too intense,etc..and make it very gradual. Work together out of love and respect for eachother and if he cares as much as you do he will comply. Eventually he can meet your parents. Maybe you could explain to them and they too could send a nice note to both of you,a voice mail,etc..again all done gradually. Its a process but whatever techniques you use [mine were examples] are bound to ease his tension in some area. Again ,if all else fails are you willing to live like this ? It sounds mean ,and, that is so not my intention,but, i think we should never allow someone elses sickness,problems,etc hold us back or make us suffer mentally. I think we have to love ourselves that much or we can never truly help anyone else. Good luck to you, I know its hard.
 
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Darker Than Black

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Not trying to point my finger at anyone...just expressing myself after what I watched on youtube


Even though some of us have SAD, but seriously, he have to deal with some of those situations rather than avoiding it altogether.

I too some times feel like my SAD is an excuse for me not to participate in a lot of activities, but I try to force myself through it all.

it sounds like your boyfriend is being a BOY not a MEN, he wouldn't even go outside and get a job? whoa...ok

I saw this from a video on youtube, that some MEN who have no power, who are weak, like those that blame everything on other people, on their jobs, their friends, and not themselves. They exert this power onto their s/o (significant other), so they would feel some power...idk if this all make sense..haha i'm a FOB

watch this video

YouTube - Don't Date LOSER Men!: TonyaTKO Speaks out
 
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Liberty

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I find it strange that he is able to socialize with his friends just fine. But anyway, in my opinion you do need to understand what it's like for him. Try your best not to take it personally but try to realize that you craving to force him into all these social situations with you is the same as someone who has a phobia of snakes being forced to handle them for hours on end in order to satisfy the instinctual "needs" of their significant other.

The best advice I could give would be to be supportive and think less about what you want or need. Or find someone else.
 
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