how to tel to people you have apd?

sinds a fiew weeks i know i have apd, and it feels like a releave. for me, its like a way i can tell people who i realy am. i realy wanna tell people i suffer from apd, because i realy want them to undersstant me. but when i tried to tel my boyfriend and my family, i fond out i could't do it. i just could't say it. itis a big thing for me, and i was so afraid they would't understand it. i'm so afraid the will judge me or find it stupid.
and i tought, maby there would be more people with apd who have this, because the fear of judgment is a symtom from apd.
how do you tell people you love you have apd?

sorry for my bad english.

I am an older man and as old as I am I have only told 3 people in my life about my SA even though it is probably obvious to most. I find it so humiliating and degrading that I cannot discuss it. To be such a weak, sniveling, loner and failure is too difficult for me to tell anyone. People would have more respect for you if you admitted to being a bank robber or serial killer. Honest.

Chuck

I am sorry to start off as such a negative newbie but right now I am unemployed and scared to death and about to jump off a cliff. I am really hurting; badly.

Thanks for listening.

Well, I think telling people has it's ups and downs.
For example, if you tell someone, you might consider yourself that to be as a reason to never socialize with those people again. Whenever they invite you to something you might think "ah screw it, they know I have APD, I won't join".

On the other hand, if you have some very close friends that you'd also tell other very private things, such as "I'm a lesbian" or "I'm a crossdresser" or whatnot, then there is no harm in telling them the APD thing either. It might allow them to not misunderstand it if you do not accept an offer to join some event.

In any case, "APD" is just a word. Someone telling you that you have it does not change you in a significant way. It's simply a word to describe the way you feel in certain situations. It's not something set in stone, but something you can change.

Your entourage already knows how you are, and letting them know that it's a real condition that they can look up and learn about might help them understand you better, find support if they need it, and get along with you better in the long run. Personally, I've only had good experiences with telling others. I try to casually slip it into a conversation rather than making it into a big dramatic annoucement, and it works. People tend to react with a sort of admiration because I know myself and can explain my needs and behavior. That doesn't actually come naturally to me, but they don't need to know that!

And when I told my mom I had social anxiety disorder, her reply was "Me too!" : )