the_golden_jet

okay this is the reason y i joined, okay u see, some guy from my school created a facebook account with my name and pictures and is pretending to be me! so he (the imposter) added lots of guys from my class room and from my school as friends, and over there he also wrote bad things and comments about teachers too. But i never even said any of such things. So what should I do??? How can I be helped with this?? plz I need some help he is alsoo revealiing many things aboutt me in the internet which i would never reveal. I am always under stress and anxiety now :( plz help

Satine

Right, what I'd do is immediately create my own Facebook account and update it just as much as he does, if you don't already. Promote it in a similar fashion to the way he does so that as many people as possible see the comparison between his and yours. Of course, yours wouldn't have incriminating / untrue stuff on it, but that's another issue. Make sure that people can see that one is real and the other fake. That'll undermine the bully.

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sabbath9

Treat him like the trolls we get here from time to time, ignore him. The best revenge is living well.

Satine

Trouble is that the structure of this issue is a bit different to that of trolls on a board. A troll will be generally unpopular because he's causing almost everybody inconvenience. This bully is just causing Jet inconvenience.

My response about this issue isn't strictly speaking about Jet responding to the threat as asserting his presence. Some might choose to see that as his response to the bully, but it could circumstantially be him just creating his own Facebook profile, independently of anything the bully might do.

By the way, I think it's worth getting in contact with Facebook about the fraud, as Dezzy suggested. I didn't realise you could do that, but I think it's a good way forward.

But regardless, I do think that you should do something about the issue to assert yourself, Jet. You'll feel much stronger for it. Even if all you do is report him to Facebook.

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StonedBob

Have you tried to talk to him? Maybe he was just doing it for fun, without any intentions to hurt you. If it doesn't work, well try what said Dezzy94.

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"L'Enfer c'est les autres" (Hell is other people) (J.P. Sartre)

the_golden_jet

thanks but i don't really have time to do all that in face book :( oh god, because I've got to study and do so many other things so sitting in front of my monitor and typing all day long would really be a distraction for my studies :(

kingflab

Depends, if you feel they're causing you major problems report it to either A) Your teachers/parents, or B) The police. Slander is still slander, even if it's done electronically.

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Satine

Without wanting to challenge too much on this issue, Facebook doesn't require constant attention, does it? I thought you could just update it, say, once a week if you wanted to.

I'm not talking about living for the Facebook system, just make sure that there's a genuine presence on there. And like I said, that's just one idea. Dezzy's sounds like the best way forward. That shouldn't take too long.

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kingflab

It's not the point though. If somebody is pretending to be her, and make her social life difficult, then she needs help. What she doesn't need to do is use Facebook to try and fight the guy back, as she'll probably lose.

If it's really bothering you I strongly recommend you tell your teachers, you need to make sure you don't get in trouble for what other people are doing, and you tell you're freinds too. If it becomes a serious issue for you then I strongly recommend you tell somebody in an authority position.

False accounts on things like Facebook, used simply for the purpose of bullying somebody, have occasionally had tragic results. So long as people know it's not you you're fine, just make sure they do.

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Churchill "Madam, if I were your husband, I'd drink it!"

Satine

Her?! Oops, sorry Jet!

The way I see it we are helping in the best way possible. We are all trying to help her to deal with the problem. Jet will be best prepared to deal with situations like this if and when they arise again in future if she knows how to tackle them herself. Sometimes playing the game is part of that.

We can offer support here but we can't solve the problem. Only Jet can. And if she isn't sure how then one thing we can do is to offer suggestions, and that is what I've done. I still hold that one of the best things she can do is to undermine this individual who's decided to try to make her look bad.

And I don't think she'll lose if she does that. That's why I suggested it.

True. But you know the way teachers can be - they're not always very keen to get involved with this kind of thing. Maybe they will be, maybe they won't. Informing them may be helpful, but Jet will benefit from taking steps of her own to remedy the problem.

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