I am totally isolated from the peer contact

How do you socialise?

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Snaefridhur

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No contact. Only the school contacts, later nothing.

I do not socialize at all. I am in my class formally actually.

No discos, no parties, no dates, no teen normality! :twisted:


Anyone beats this record?
 

SilentType

Banned
I've been as bad as you, and I've dropped out of school. But at this point 3 years later, I can go out with friends (friends I've had since school that see me come and go for months at a time but don't really mind too much lol). I can't go to to restaurants or big social places or anything but I can just hang out in a non threatening environment. Lol get some medication and some therapy man it can't hurt.

Peace
 

DH

Member
no mates atall :( I hav'nt spoken to someone of my age(17) since new years and that was pretty bad.

Absolutely no social activity.
 

LittleMissMuffet

Well-known member
Why don't you guys find out where each other lives and go out to see a movie once a month or something...?
Why not?

As for me. I have become more isolated recently. I rarely if ever go out. I have one friend (but this is partly because I ditched the other two on account of their not meeting standards I consider important to me now), and I have never had a boyfriend and have not been able to keep a job for over 5 years now.

It is rather depressing and life seems like some crazy dream -deep down I am really rather normal and a friendly, warm person and yet I am trapped within a mood disorder/hypsersentivity that makes me find it hard to be comfortable and feel secure around others.

The only thing keeping me going is focussing on others who are sufferring as well and who are largely cut-off from society -people who are marginalised and who work hard to fit in or survive, all hte while sufferring and struggling.
And I figure, if this is my life, then I will do my best with what I have been given. ....Let God judge my worth as a person. And at least I can feel good about my self knowing that I did my best with what God gave me.

...I don't mean to rub it in or make out like I am better: The fact is that I haven't started doing volunteer work yet!! ...but the idea of helping others is helping me. For one thing, it lets me forget about my own sufferring and trouble and that is like having a weight lifted. And in a way, it is like giving my self what I want -I want love and acceptannce from others; but because trying to get this from people has never really worked well, I am going to give it to people.
And in some strange way -this is the same as giving it to my self. It just is.

OK: here I say again that I have not done volunteer work yet. So I apologise if it sounds as if I am boasting about how charitable or wonderful a person I am. ...I am just sick of a sad, lonely story and I want to do what I can to change the script. (everything else that I have tried has either taken too long for my spirit and stamina to endure, or it simply has not worked. )
 

Foxglove

Well-known member
I haven't had a friend since 1990, and even that wasn't really a close friendship. I haven't had a close friendship since I was in 6th grade in 1976. :(
 

Richey

Well-known member
Foxglove said:
I haven't had a friend since 1990, and even that wasn't really a close friendship. I haven't had a close friendship since I was in 6th grade in 1976. :(

Foxglove, i really feel for you, this has to change, becasue i think you deserve better, please try at least, its hard but the pain of momentum and taking the first step will be pleasurable later on
 

LION

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LittleMissMuffet said:
Why don't you guys find out where each other lives and go out to see a movie once a month or something...?
Why not?

that's a good idea, if i lived in the UK, Australia or Montana i'd go.

LittleMissMuffet said:
As for me. I have become more isolated recently. I rarely if ever go out. I have one friend (but this is partly because I ditched the other two on account of their not meeting standards I consider important to me now),
i higly recommend going out, even if it's just to see your mother-in-law. being isolated itself created probs (not that i'm nto at the moment, but i almost went crazy (i mean im crazy) so phone that old friend, cousin, etc. IMO, take classes of box.


LittleMissMuffet said:
and I have never had a boyfriend and have not been able to keep a job for over 5 years now.
the only job i had i had to drop it cause i got mentally ill, i'm an artist now, the last gf was about three years, or so. it sucked anyways. shrugs.[/quote]

LittleMissMuffet said:
It is rather depressing and life seems like some crazy dream -deep down I am really rather normal and a friendly, warm person and yet I am trapped within a mood disorder/hypsersentivity that makes me find it hard to be comfortable and feel secure around others.
sure as hell you're as normal as me (i mean we rule) like can seem flat and bored, specially when you're isolated (this is the main reason of mental ill, it's the isolation tha causes probs, not the mental ill itself, IMO) of course wer'e all different. i'm sorry to hear, i'd invite you a coffee, but im cashless and i don't think i live anywhere near yourself. fuck i'd invite a coffee anyone. the hypsersensivity rules specially if you're an artists, im trying to 'feel' music again (that's right, people'sworst nightmare) i mean i do..pft idk. there'sa song by kane 'for a lonenly soul you're having such a great time' sometimes is true (specially if you're a teenager, which i am not, of course sucks being alone. im seeing friends again and it's weird, cause i was mentally ill.


LittleMissMuffet said:
I want love and acceptannce from others; but because trying to get this from people has never really worked well, I am going to give it to people..
everyone wants love and acceptace, from your bum in the streets to the quadraplegic catatonic, to Mr. Donald Trump, i'm also trying to get this, it's normal, excet i haven't found my niche yet after all the shit i've been through.


LittleMissMuffet said:
OK: here I say again that I have not done volunteer work yet. So I apologise if it sounds as if I am boasting about how charitable or wonderful a person I am.

why do you apology for such stuff? i mean i have apolgized for being an ass and even so i think it was just bullshit. it makes me mad.


LittleMissMuffet said:
...I am just sick of a sad, lonely story and I want to do what I can to change the script. (everything else that I have tried has either taken too long for my spirit and stamina to endure, or it simply has not worked. )

i'm sick as well, if i knew that life events such as 'nurture' mixed with perhaps my own nature would lead me to being isolated and resentful i would've thinked twicem the fact is i'm alive so fuck anything else.

frequencies is the word i use to describe every single state of mind/spirit.
it's the loneliness that tells me 'wtf!' anyfways.
 

LittleMissMuffet

Well-known member
Hi Lion,

I'm an artist too!! However, I have not had the gumption yet to scratch-out any semblance of a living with it. I really shoudl apply my self -it is a shame that I have so far declined from doing so.

It is useful to be an artist if you have something like social anxiety.... I believe that this is because when a person can see a positive side to their negative, that their self esteem is better. But when the positive side does not show-up, a person is fooled into believing that it simply is not there. This is such a shame, as it most certainly is there -and people can spend mcuh of their time or even their life thinking that they are simply weak with no strength.

Such a view point of people is not my belief. In my experience, it is impossible to have the bad without the good. ....however, accepting this as truth within your heart is always something of a struggle. ANd if a person is ever able to accept and see this as truth, I believe that this is when they have 'come full circle' and their struggle and problems have disappeared.

I also tend to agree that being isolated will make most people go a bit crazy. ...This has been my experience -my recent contiki trip showed me how much simply being around others can improve my neurotic anxieties. -Some of them just disappeared. (however, it is not as cut and dry as just getting experience, either though....)
 

LION

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i don't think the problems dissapear..however is true most SA'ers got some talent since you guys can't communicate you do it through other stuff (Morrisey, Bowie, Van Gogh) some of 'em did married though. Some people don't know what they've got. the youth.

i feel old, i feel like my life already ended when i stoped being naive.
however im alive, so pft.

Yes, i'm a painter, and im trying to get on with my stuff. however i can hardly find a motivation anymore, i reckon im depressed.
if only i could sing my rock bands again, or simply hope. So anwyays, hope you get to manage. most Sa'er are artists in my opinion, and the normal world while is comfortable, it's boring IMO. i won't get a job office ever in my life, not cause i can't deal with it, or i feel less or wathever (im no Sa'er). simply cause it's boring.

self-esteem or image is just q uestion of self-image (i don't want to come off was what caused it bla bla bla, you all know it anyways IMO) just to stop seeing so much flaws on you helps, without changing your ID (Which is the most valuable thing you'll ever get) more peeps with mental ill, got so much introspection that they really start puting flaws. is true, we're not perfect, we're not who we'd liked to be or we're not born were we'd like to, and there's no time-machines. however normal people simply don't think about it (in a sense we're on automatic pilot), i'm sad cause i got so much nostalgia, not cause im flawed. when i stoped being naive, everything changed, and now that i've grown up i can't find a motivation, not without my true love that has vanished in the past. along with my old self..i'd like to think that the myself of the past and her are living together in australia, they were cool.

anyways, so since it's ME who it's here NOW. im kinda demotivated.
simply by stop seeing flaws you can do a lot. of course i think the important thing here is to find your 'niche' i.e. artists, musicians, etc.
drug-addicts (not recommended), office boys, party boys, cheer leaders, writers, or simply stop worrying about it and get a job and live a normal life (struggling with jobs like everyone) and eventually you'll find someone
and will get a home, and a cat and go to Chichen ITza.

you see is just a self-image, you can be self-consiouss or introspective and still get hold of what's going on. i've gtg now.
(of course Van Gogh killed himself, but hey, he painted and his paint was his wife) IMO should be easier to make a living in a country that is not Guatemala.

P.S. i do hope you realize the pointlessness of SA. being around other people makes it easier if you're not depressed.
 

Marvolo

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I'm in a very similar situation to yours. I've been feeling aMy social life practically doesn't exist!ctually depressed recently, I get no joy even from the net surfing. There's no net socializing as well at me. :roll:

I'd name this situation of mine as a "socializing lethargy", it'd be a good name for it. :roll: :? :|

I'm so tired psychically with nothing, it's horrible.

Cheers
 

Lotrsfan

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i've not had a friend since about 1999, and that's a long time. I do miss it, and get abit envious when my sister goes out with her friends or brings them round to ours. Oh well...i think i'll be like that forever :cry: and same with a bf...never had one, and don't think i will either.
 
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