I can't stand it much longer
- Thread starter Ihateit
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Hey sorry you're feeling so shit, I know how you feel though, when I was 17 I didn't have a job, any qualifications, couldn't drive and I just felt like the lamest person on the planet. Now I'm 19, I'm in college, I have a job, I'm about to start driving lessons and I'm going to uni next year with my boyfriend.
You're still really young and you have time to turn your life around. I know it doesn't feel that way now, but honestly, you can change it.
Naomi x
You're still really young and you have time to turn your life around. I know it doesn't feel that way now, but honestly, you can change it.
Naomi x
Chow-man
Member
Ihateit said:
Hey,
I know it feels impossible now, but you can deal with this. You are young and there is a whole life to live - and it's worth living!
Please take steps to turn your life around, positivley. Think about the small steps you could take to make things just a little easier, a little better.
I'm 28, and have suffered with this from about 13 -14 years old. Believe me when I tell you that you can change your situation, no matter how bad it all feels right now.
If I knew more about you, and how you are effected by this, it would be easier to help.
Hang in there ok?
Chowman.
Chow-man
Member
Ihateit said:
I felt just like you when I was your age.
Now I'm married, have had a few jobs, one really amazing job. I've even run my own business (a kind of 'bar' chillout club, in eastern europe).
All the things I've been able to do I attribute to one thing that changed drasticaly the course of my life, and how I dealt with FB. And that was getting lots of penpals. For me it was the beggining of the hard up hill climb.
Still climbing that hill now...so it never ends. But it does, and can get better. But you have to put the effort in. there is no magic cure for this, I wished there was when I was 15, and was on the verge of taking my own life.
Don't give in. Please stay in touch on this forum. tell us more about yourslef and how you'd like us to help or reassure you.
All the best,
Chowman
Chow-man
Member
I left school at 15, from bullying about blushing and all the heartache it caused me. I wento a different school, with a friend, for my GCSE year. But I couldn't attend more than a day a week. being the 'new boy' made it even worse. I left school with one GCSE in art.
I didn't go out at all, stayed at home 'dreamed' of becoming a truck driver in the states! Like yeah!
i did lots of airbrush at at home, and maneged to get a place in a good college on the strenght of that work. Obviously not from having just one result at GCSE.
Guess what? I couldn't make any friends at college because of blushing and shyed away from everyone. I quit college and restarted every next year for the following THREE years. It made my life, and my poor mom's life hell. can't believe the college kept having me back, I think they saw tallent in me though, which I have now put to good use as an artist in the games industry - though not anymorre...again, partly because of blushing, but also other personal reasons.
Please don't feel like you are facing this alone. you are not a failure.
Spend some time reading the many positive posts made by people on these forums. Get to know them. We all have problems and solutions to our problems, and we are here to talk openly, and try to help each other.
I've sent you a PM.
I didn't go out at all, stayed at home 'dreamed' of becoming a truck driver in the states! Like yeah!
i did lots of airbrush at at home, and maneged to get a place in a good college on the strenght of that work. Obviously not from having just one result at GCSE.
Guess what? I couldn't make any friends at college because of blushing and shyed away from everyone. I quit college and restarted every next year for the following THREE years. It made my life, and my poor mom's life hell. can't believe the college kept having me back, I think they saw tallent in me though, which I have now put to good use as an artist in the games industry - though not anymorre...again, partly because of blushing, but also other personal reasons.
Please don't feel like you are facing this alone. you are not a failure.
Spend some time reading the many positive posts made by people on these forums. Get to know them. We all have problems and solutions to our problems, and we are here to talk openly, and try to help each other.
I've sent you a PM.
Ihateit
Well-known member
A year and a half on .... I have been working since Sept 06 .... still feel like rubbish but slowly been getting better. Been referred to a dermatologist to see about the ETS so hope all goes well then.
So if anyone feels likes chatting about there problems I am here to listen
So if anyone feels likes chatting about there problems I am here to listen
emerald_eyes
Member
Hey, "ihateit" I understand...
This one is for you "ihateit" : I know exactly where you are coming from. I deal with the same problem every day. Do you know how valuable you are? You don't know right now, but you will some day! Hang in there! I'm 25 and have battled SA for a long time..it does get better. You need to find someone that you can trust that you can talk to to help you deal with the feelings you have about your value as a person. I struggled with the same feelings around your age, and it's taken me this long to get help. My first appt. with a professional is in April. Don't give in to the lie that you are ANY less important than anyone else! Blushing and anxiety does not make you any less important! I blush a lot still, but people don't care as much as you think they do!Hope this helps!!
This one is for you "ihateit" : I know exactly where you are coming from. I deal with the same problem every day. Do you know how valuable you are? You don't know right now, but you will some day! Hang in there! I'm 25 and have battled SA for a long time..it does get better. You need to find someone that you can trust that you can talk to to help you deal with the feelings you have about your value as a person. I struggled with the same feelings around your age, and it's taken me this long to get help. My first appt. with a professional is in April. Don't give in to the lie that you are ANY less important than anyone else! Blushing and anxiety does not make you any less important! I blush a lot still, but people don't care as much as you think they do!Hope this helps!!
Ihateit
Well-known member
emerald_eyes ... thank you very much for your comment.
I was referred to see about ETS but for some reason the doctor referred me to the wrong department/hospital so now it is all up in the air about who I need to see and where.
I thought it was getting better but after this mix up with the hospital I feel as bad as ever.
I am currently on a fixed term contract at work and had the opportunity to go a full time opportunity but because of my blushing I decided against it so I am going to be jobless once my contract finishes.
My dream would be to get this blushing sorted out, work until I get enough money to go travelling (I would just love to go to Australia) and once the travelling has been done start looking into joining the Police Force (something I have wanted to do since I was young)
But at this point in time it seems my dream is never going to happen and I just wish my GP would help as much as I want her to because it seems like she doesn't understand and neither does anyone else that hasn't been through this problem.
I was referred to see about ETS but for some reason the doctor referred me to the wrong department/hospital so now it is all up in the air about who I need to see and where.
I thought it was getting better but after this mix up with the hospital I feel as bad as ever.
I am currently on a fixed term contract at work and had the opportunity to go a full time opportunity but because of my blushing I decided against it so I am going to be jobless once my contract finishes.
My dream would be to get this blushing sorted out, work until I get enough money to go travelling (I would just love to go to Australia) and once the travelling has been done start looking into joining the Police Force (something I have wanted to do since I was young)
But at this point in time it seems my dream is never going to happen and I just wish my GP would help as much as I want her to because it seems like she doesn't understand and neither does anyone else that hasn't been through this problem.