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There's nothing wrong with people getting bullied. As soon as someone notices someone who wouldn't do anything back, verbally or physically they try you out. And if you really don't respond at that at all others will blend in too, that's not because there's something wrong with u, but just so they can feel a bit better about themselves. Just my little theory there. :: Only you thing you can do about it is try to leave it behind you, put it in the bin.

Kids/teenagers have an unformed identity (not to mention mind). Bullying is universal across all cultures. But, I can say, a lot of Bullies when they grow up turn out to be compassionate and kind adults. We do a lot of stupid things as kids-Bullying unfortunately is one of them.
Don't blame yourself for being bullied-it wasn't your fault! And, try not to blame your former bullies either-they didn't know any better!

*From someone who had more than their fair share of being made fun of!

It usually takes late twenties to early thirties to mature. But, some people are just destined to be a**holes. That has nothing to do with you! Some get ulcers while others live their lives giving them. Don't take it personal and focus on being the best person you can. Whether you know it or not, by not being a bully yourself, you're making the world a better place.

True, a lot of them just stay the same, there's also no reason to not blame them. They knew perfectly what they were doing and how their victim feels about it.

i doubt it does any good trying to figure how who to blame now

at this point it only matters what you do with your life now that they are no longer here to bully you

itisgoingtobefi said:

I think some of the attributes that made susceptible to it, is still mixed into my personality and maybe effecting my ability to make and keep friendships.

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that is something to consider - how you present yourself to others largely affects how they view you

although it can't be considered your responsibility for how others act, it is worth investigating whether the way you present yourself generates a negative or positive response, and then deciding whether there is anything you can change about yourself to help get the response you're looking for

I'm also not sure why people consider me "victim-material." Maybe it's because I'm quiet, or because I look at them and they don't like that. I've had people bully because they don't like that I look at them. Sometimes, I will admit it's my fault for staring, but other times it just seems kind of random. The other person was staring at me first and when I noticed, that person gets pissed and started gossiping or making noises at me.

I also notice that being in a group makes a person less likely to get bullied. Bullies tend to target people who are alone, and I used to be alone a lot. Now I don't go out alone anymore.

I also suffer from the subconscious effects of my past and it can be difficult. What I do not do os place blame on myself or the people that treated me badly because that doesn't. I can tie myself up in knots trying to decide who is to blame for my subconscious fear of people and at the end of the day it solves nothing.

What I am more concerned about is how I can heal my mind in the present and what I can do to improve my perception of the world. My past is over and I can never go back and do anything about it. What I can do is be intensely present in the now moment and observe how I feel in certain situations. I like to watch my thoughts and emotions as if they were the clouds moving through the sky. They come and go and if I dont attach to certain ones and wish they werent there then I tend to find comfort and peace of mind. That is to say if I am feeling serious physical signs of anxiety, I try not to tell myself they shouldnt be there but ACCEPT that they are there and even welcome them. The more I resist what I feel physically, the worse it gets. When I accept that it is there, it disappears after a while.
It is very difficult to do but I prefer it over acting helpless and telling myself that things will never change.