i dont even think i will like to have a very busy/social life

vancouver24

Banned
im happy not going out too much, im happy spending time with my family, bf and 1-2 close friends. i dont like parties.. even if i became social ..i still dont think i would like them.. its too exhausting ..i like having people around..but i geuss only people i trust.. i just feel so weird and different then other people.. i know most people my age cant wait for friday ..because they probably go to parties and bars and stuff "loud people" do. i just feel like im missing out...i rather die then go to a wedding because i know sometime towards the end there will be dancing..and i dont wanna dance.. i mean i know how to dance but most people dance so good and they look so cool.. i would probably look like a loser who doesnt dance often......i donno.

do you think if you didnt have SA, you would be more outgoing and go to parties and clubs ?
 

Hellhound

Super Moderator
I don't think so. I am usually a quiet person, I don't like noise and crowds by default. Without SA, I'd be less afraid of things, which would be awesome... but I don't think I would be very social. That's part of my personality, I guess.
 

Jack Blue

Active member
You have your family, your boyfriend, and a couple close friends. In my opinion, what more could you really ask for? Plenty of people who are highly sociable go to parties all the time and have a ton of so-called "friends" which are really just acquaintances. In the end, these people don't really have anyone they can talk with; it sounds like you do. I've always thought one of the best parts of life is finding strong interpersonal connections and relationships; these could be with anyone: your family, childhood friends, even co-workers or a random person from the internet. I think if you find people who share a mutual bond with you and who appreciate you for who you are is one of the best gifts life can give you. I would say you are just fine without a big circle of friends or an over-active social life, be thankful for what you got.
 

Moon4

Member
I just want to do some necessary things in social life. I don't want to be social, I don't want to go to the parties. I just want to walk without fear in the street, I just want to go outside alone. I just want to talk on the phone easily. :rolleyes:
 

Phoenixx

Well-known member
If I didn't have SA, I still wouldn't party much. I believe that I would still be pretty shy without SA. Sure, I'd probably go out more with friends, but that's about it.
 

Pacific_Loner

Pirate from the North Pole
There is a difference between having SA and being a loner/introverted, I am slowly getting rid of SA since the last 5 years (I have more trouble with AvPD though), and I am still a loner and an introverted, from my own point of view and the one of everyone who knows me a bit, and this is far from being a problem, except, maybe sometimes, on the work market. You don't HAVE to become busy and social if this is not who you are, it will not make you happy.
 

Heekaru

Well-known member
If I didn't have SA I would find some friends who does other things than going parties and getting drunk. :)
 
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