I dont know what I'm missing...

no1

Banned
I have been wanting relationships (in general) and sex all this time. I don't even know what they are. They are definitely not porn.. and not what a lot of the media might portray it to be, or my thoughts about it. If I had a relationship I would probably think "darn, this is nothing like I thought it was"... and here I was going crazy over something I didn't even realize was just a fantasy. It's probably more intimate than I thought it was... it's probably different. It's been driving me crazy... I dont know what it is I'm missing I just know I'm missing it. Whether I am "missing out" is a different story but just the fact that I've never had it.. I am just like a child. immature in a sense. I dont know what love is. I dont know what life is, I never really had a "life", if any. I dont know what relationships are. I dont know what friendship is. I dont know anything about people in general, and I'm trying to get to know them but my inexperience has made me look for things that most likely weren't there.

regards all.
 
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There is a saying that what you never have you never miss- but I guess I would disagree. Something like relationships- whether they be friendships or romantic- are kind of in your face everyday- on the job, at school, in the media, etc., and they're supposed to be the best thing in life, so of course we believe (whether it's true or not) that that's what we should have as well. I think in my case, I actually have had one romantic relationship (although I don't think I ever actually felt passionately about the guy, was just carried away by the fact that he liked me), some few and far-between friendships (although not what I would think of as being extremely close- more like acquaintances that you vent to now and then), and more importantly my family, who I am close with, especially my mom, but somehow, it seems like I should be able to form close relationships outside of my family, but just don't know how. From the little I have experienced, relationships are not all they're touted to be, as people are imperfect- no one can live up to any "ideal" and even in the best relationships, you are bound to be let down at some point. I guess the thing would be finding the courage to get out there and not be afraid of making a fool of yourself trying to learn, and also of learning to cope with the inevitable rejections. And, being able to get past the letdowns and keep a relationship going in spite of them. I would say don't drive yourself insane wondering about it- get out there and try to find people that you can feel comfortable learning about these things with- you'll never know unless you try. I myself feel kind of hopeless sometimes, but I think the key would be to learn how to forge and maintain friendships first, then you (and I) may be more ready to handle serious romantic relationships. Just my two cents, may even be worth less than that::p:
 

bcguitar

Active member
relationships are totally overrated , they are not nearly as good as you think and half the time you end up more hurt then when you didnt have one ..
 

C2much

Member
When I was younger, and I had girlfriends. I used to drink heavily. I was never really involved in the relationship. Despite being in several relationships, I really don't know what's its like either. The ironic thing is, now that I actually want a relationship, I find myself ill equipped to actually get one.
 
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